I had a DW in Jamaica. My wedding was anything but "politically correct" and we purposely avoided all the traditions we possibly could. I feel like this thread was made for me! I was a "wedding rebel" and broke all the rules!
...and we had the most incredible wedding that WE could've ever wanted. It was OUR perfect wedding and everything WE ever dreamed of
...and all of our guests who came along absolutely loved it too.
Warning: Traditionalists may be horrified
- we had an adults only wedding at an adults only resort with no children in sight for 2 weeks (woohoo!)
- we cut our guest list at DH's aunts/uncles - none of my aunts/uncles or any of our hoards of cousins invited. We said NO to inviting hundreds of guests!
- no parents or grandparents were at our wedding (not that they weren't invited.. just too elderly/unwell to travel.. but my parents totally "got it" that this was the wedding we wanted)
- I didn't do STDs
- I saved trees, stamps and time and emailed our invitations after we picked the resort
- my dress was custom made, calf length, halter and not at all pouffy
- I didn't go to a salon for an up do for my hair or wear a veil
- I only wore eye makeup and lipstick which I did myself
- I walked down the sand aisle in barefeet, and afterwards wore white flip flops
- my DH also had barefeet and wore a short sleeved short and no tie
- our best man wore shorts
- we played Bob Marley for our processional... from a CD plugged into a palm tree... and it skipped!
- we had bubbles and fans on our cover-less white chairs
- our rings were sitting in sand in a seashell
- in the near distance strangers watched in bathing suits
- we ended up with 2 guest videoing
- we didn't do a receiving line but rather everyone just ran around hugging
- I wore a Canucks garter and delighted DH with the surprise
- we cut our cake and drank champagne at about 11:30 in the morning
- our cake was a small 2 tier Jamaica rum spice cake decorated in chocolate seashells and looked like something I may have decorated myself (but it was delicious)
- our professional wedding photos were in barefeet on the beach and DH's pants got all wet and sandy (and he had to later wear them for dinner)
- everyone had free time then got into beach attire and went on a catamaran cruise the afternoon of the wedding
- during the cat cruise a cat from the Hedonism resort pulled up full of naked people who proceeded to do nasty things (see, good thing we didn't have children around! - we left shortly thereafter)
- I threw my bouquet off the side of the cat to the ladies who had already exited and were standing in the water
- we had our pro sunset beach photos in shorts and cover-ups with messy swam-in hair
- we made our guests have a second shower of the day to get dressed back up (somewhat) for dinner
- at our off resort dinner the staff set our palm tree placecard holders wrong and everyone just found their own and sat where ever
- we didn't fuss with decorating our thatched roof banquet area, but rather let the staff do whatever (and they made it nice with seashells and used my orange theme colour!)
- our guests had to pre-order their choices off the menu a week or so prior (we at least modified it to remove the prices)
- I didn't want to order more champagne because I don't really like the stuff, so we just had wine to do toasts
- we didn't do any formal speeches, but rather just said thank you to everyone for coming (thank our parents? why? they didn't pay or organize it) and a few guests just said a few words as they wished
- we stopped the steel drum band to play our first dance song from our iPods, connected to the beach bar downstairs. It didn't sound the greatest, and everyone was tired so we all soon left (which at least meant we could continue our "open bar" back at our AI resort)
- back at the resort we ended the day sitting on lounge chairs around a bonfire on the beach in our wedding clothes
That was fun. I think I'm going to keep this!