How much to spend on BM gifts?

I don't want to get my bridesmaid's a piece of crap jewellry but I am also struggling on what I SHOULD spend. Right now I have considered a amythest/diamond pendant necklace which is about $100 each. Does this seems reasonable?

Also I should mention one BM is only 8, maybe not appropriate for her? And I did buy all my BM's dresses as well and I think my Mom is paying for their hair the day of.

 24 Feb 2010 12:15 PM
 25 Oct 2009
Just spend what u can afford. I'm getting them each a bracelet and their hair the day of. About $110 each and there are 3 of them.

 24 Feb 2010 12:53 PM
 20 Oct 2009
5_dimples, i think that the necklace sounds wonderful! are you expecting them to wear it on the day of your wedding? Does the necklace match their individual styles? My three bm's are completely different, so I wouldn't buy them something that's matching... and given that, maybe you could get your 8 year old BM a different necklace... something more age-appropriate... and a doll? i don't know what 8 year olds like these days.. makeup? smile

 24 Feb 2010 1:01 PM
 9 Oct 2009
WB Lurker
We got my bridesmaids gingerbread spice body wash, and pina colada shower gel (both spa-quality brands). We're going to include some home baking and maybe a framed photo of myself and them.
I received a necklace for being in my best friend's wedding party that we were asked to wear to the wedding. I haven't worn it since, jewelry isn't my thing. We also got coral leather-like purses, which I used all the time.
I found that something useful was so much better since I thought of her everytime I saw it or used it.

 24 Feb 2010 1:30 PM
 23 Jul 2009
 Nova Scotia
Raving Lunatic
They are all wearing different style dresses but I thought a matching necklace would tie it all together. That being said I want to get them something else that they can use again..maybe some sort of gift basket with girly stuff...not too sure

 24 Feb 2010 2:17 PM
 10 Mar 2009
I say spend what you can afford. I like the idea of matching necklaces to tie the whole look together, and maybe a different one for the young girl.

How many bridesmaids do you have? If you want to get them more things that they can use again, perhaps you could find cheaper necklaces and put some other personalized things in for each girl.

I only had 2 girls in my bridal party so I spoiled them as much as I could. They were wonderful throughout the whole planning process and spent lots of money on my shower and stagette.

They got:
- a string of pearls
- personalized aprons (one loves to cook and the other bakes)
- purse hook/ key hook
- mittens in our colour (winter wedding)
- hair/makeup the day of wedding
- mani/pedis the day before

I also gave my little flower girls pearl necklaces. Maybe not so appropriate for the young girls, but I figure they'll eventually grow into them and be able to wear them as adults.

 24 Feb 2010 2:36 PM
 1 Sep 2008
I gave my girls each a string of silver fresh water pearls, a black frame (and they each got a wedding pic after to put in it, a purse hook, body butter and lip gloss. I spent about $100 on each of them - I got the pearls at a great price and also paid for part of their dresses. I had 5 bridesmaids and I spent what I could afford smile

 24 Feb 2010 4:12 PM
 23 Sep 2009
we have a best man and a moh. so, we'll probably get him a nice watch and her... maybe a tennis bracelet or a pair of nice earrings, so 100-200 each.
i like the idea of giving gifts to those that helped you out during the planning process and stuff, and even a small gift would be appreciated, i'm sure.

when we get our pictures, we will also do a small album for each of them.

 25 Feb 2010 10:03 PM
 23 Aug 2009
 Kitchener, ON
WB Chatterbox
I am paying for day of make-up, accessories and pashmina's as our gift to them. They are wearing the same dress so I was going to personalize their accessories to their taste.

But get what you can afford and what they will like smile and they will love it either way.

 26 Feb 2010 6:25 PM
 13 Oct 2009
 Vancouver, BC
I'm paying for my bridesmaids Indian outfits for the ceremony and then most likely getting them tiffany necklaces (I've seen a couple styles that run between $105 and $120) for gifts.

 26 Feb 2010 7:09 PM
 24 Mar 2009
I think I'll be spending approx. $100 on each of them

 28 Feb 2010 6:16 PM
 5 Nov 2009
WB Lurker
I planned to spend about 100 and then found some beautiful necklaces and just had to buy them smile so that, along with some inexpensive shawls came to 160.

 28 Feb 2010 9:24 PM
 4 Apr 2006
I paid for lunch and an afternoon at the spa the day before the wedding for each of my BMs. I'd say it was in the $150/girl range.

 2 Mar 2010 7:11 PM
 5 Apr 2009
 Southwestern Ontario
WB Lurker
I'm paying for their hair / makeup. I bought my bms (all four of them) faux fur stoles. I'm also buying their jewelry for the day of. I got the stoles for a steal, so I'm spending about 40 per girl for jewelry. I have a budget of 200.00 for bm gifts.(that doesn't incude the hair/makeup).

 2 Mar 2010 7:16 PM
 24 Sep 2008
We budgeted $100 per person for our wedding party. We ended up spending just a tad more...

 2 Mar 2010 9:34 PM
 7 Aug 2009
I'm paying for their dresses, hair, makeup and necklaces...so about $350-$400 per bridesmaid...

 3 Mar 2010 12:00 PM
 16 Dec 2009
New Member
I've been in 13 weddings since summer 2006 and every bride varies. Jewellery is nice, especially (as mentioned previously) if they would wear it again.

The personalized option is also a good one. I've heard of a University friend's sister giving her a flask (which is HILARIOUS) for being a BM and the other ones something different. I once got a purse that matched the dress with a bunch of necessary things for the day of (ballet flats, perfume, binaca, etc). I've had the dresses paid for and not paid for, hair and makeup paid for and not, mani pedi's etc.

For my wedding, I'm giving each BM a Tiffany's necklace and a manicure or pedicure the night before.

Essentially, what I'm saying is that no matter what you do or don't do, your bridal party will have the same reaction. They're just excited to be there with you so whatever you want to and can spend/give...go for it.

Lastly, bare in mind that the BM's are most likely forking over their own moolah for engagement parties, showers, stagettes, bachelorette parties, travel, accommodations and undoubtedly still giving you a wedding gift and probably baby showers/gifts to come-this is your only real opportunity to thank them for it (especially if they're not married and don't have a wedding in the foreseeable future) so make sure to use the opportunity wisely.

Good luck!

 3 Mar 2010 2:11 PM
 1 Jan 2010
Paid for hair and make-up
Bought dresses (although girls had to pay for alterations)
Necklace from Birks (around $100)
personalized beach bags (about $50 each)

Looking at what everyone else paid we might have gone a bit overboard, but we were young and I know it was a lot just asking people to be in our wedding and we didn't want our friends to have to worry about paying for those things.

 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
New Member

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