22 Aug 2010 1:47 PM
22 Jan 2007
Ok, so this is definitely a big fat vent.
Our next door neighbours had their big wedding for their son in their backyard last night. We know them, but not the bride and groom, so of course we weren't invited. These are nice people who'd I'd say are normally very considerate neighbours. A few days before the wedding they delivered notes to all their neighbours mailboxes warning about the big wedding that would go from 3:00 until "late". Should that have been the first sign?
Now, don't get me wrong, I love a wedding, and I understand some noise into the night, but....
People arrived in the afternoon around 3:00. There was somewhere around 70 I think. The ceremony was beautiful. I took lots of great pictures from my vantage point on the deck with my SLR and zoom lens. One can never have too many wedding pictures. So I thought they'd like another angle. After the ceremony the music started. They had a DJ with a good sound system and an MC with a great microphone. As the night progressed it got louder. Whatever, it's a wedding, I'm happy for them. Everyone is having fun. We have a movie tonight. It's all good.
12:00 came and went. 1:00 still a couple dozen or so people dancing in the backyard to the music blaring, interspersed by hoots and hollers and people laughing and screaming into the mic. Ok. Should be close to time to call it a night now.
2:00 came along, still going. I look out. Much less people now. Down to about 6-10. But thes last straglers are completely wasted. They can't stand up. They're swaying and staggering. There's only a few of them and they're typically drunk; loud and obnoxious, laughing and snorting and making strange noises.... into the mic. Ok, enough already. Someone take that toy away from the drunks please. There's a slight lull. I think it's over. Maybe they passed out in the yard. No, it starts up again. No sleep for anyone in the neighbourhood for blocks tonight (unless they can sleep through a train wreck)
I look again at the clock. 3:15. Still going strong. Isn't anyone going to call the cops already? It's amazing what a nice little piece of paper begging for understanding can do. Our crack head neighbours across the road love to party into the night, but the cops do come out on occassion.
Finally just before 4:00 I hear a car. The cops perhaps? No. A cab. At least they aren't driving. Someone leaves but it doesn't stop the rest. 4:15, another cab. I look out. About 3 get in. There's quiet. TG! I start to drift...
But it starts up again. They're baaaack. 5:15. It goes from laughing to yelling. Then there's crying. Loud sobs from the side of the road. I think it's the bride. Oh for beep sake... go to bed chickky poo and sleep it off. 5:45 and it's quiet. I drift. Apparently there's more noice at 6:30 that my DH hear's but I am dead tired. I am totally exhausted.
I had plans for things today today but now so much for that. I slept until 9:45, which I never do. It's raining today and I find myself hoping the ones in the tent are getting wet. I hope they can hear my music playing. Hey, it's not early and I need it to wake up.
What do you think. Is this acceptable behaviour? Maybe you do. It's a wedding and bride and grooms can do whatever they want, right?
I'm just tired today. I'll be better tomorrow. Thanks for listening.
22 Aug 2010 1:57 PM
24 May 2009
Durham Region, ON
Ouch, I really feel for you! I definitely think that the hosts should have kindly told everybody else to go home when those last stragglers were wasted, as a courtesy to their neighbors AND their guests. It makes me wonder what they were up to during all of this!
22 Aug 2010 2:02 PM
22 Jan 2007
umm... he was still out there with them. I wondered why she didn't come out. Either she was passed out cold herself or decided, aww how sweet. They're having so much fun. The neighbour's will all understand.
I forgot to mention they have all sorts of OOT guests staying with them (hence the tents too). They're all up now, including the kids. (shrug)
22 Aug 2010 2:05 PM
20 Jun 2009
Wow - I would be so annoyed. If they want to have a backyard wedding, great but they should be considerate of the neighbours.
22 Aug 2010 2:13 PM
22 Jan 2007
Thanks for understanding ladies. I really want to be understanding of their big day, but by 5:30 I was so tired I just wanted to cry. I think I'm a bit delirious now. Reminds me of taking a red-eye flight. lol. I'm trying to do my online course but the words are blurring.... Must make more coffee.
22 Aug 2010 2:14 PM
31 Jul 2006
Around the bender!
WOW, we're thinking of having a backyard BBQ post DW, but come 12 it's close up time, or move the party inside, but more than likely I'll personally shuttle everyone home to get them the hell out of my house! lol
Sorry your neighbours were such douche's, I totally would have called the cops after 2am, I'm all for quietly drinking in the barckyard but hooting and hollering, shove a shoe up their arse and be done with it!!
22 Aug 2010 6:04 PM
10 Apr 2006
Howe Sound, BC
Meh, it's one night. I would let it go.
At least they did have the common courtesy to let you know it was happening before the event.
22 Aug 2010 6:20 PM
9 Jul 2005
Duchess of the Forum
Yes, it was rude. I would have called in a noise complaint at some point. Going that late is absolutely not cool.
22 Aug 2010 6:24 PM
22 Jan 2007
There was absolutely NO "courtesy" on their behalf. What, we had warning so we should leave town? Writing a note beforehand is no excuse. Gee, if that works I'll remember to write everyone a note before we have a BBQ saying" We're planning an all night BBQ where we plan to be loud and obnoxious until 6:00 am. I hope you all understand. Thanks so much and have a nice day :)" No, I would never be that inconsiderate. I just couldn't. We were married on a resort and certainly did not disturb a single person. There was no carrying on until morning (not even late unless anyone wanted to go to the club).... Maybe I should have gone around to all the rooms at the resort and left a note saying "We're getting married, so we're going to make noise all night, maybe until morning, but I'm sure you don't care if you can't sleep all night, because it is all about US and to h*ll with you" Can you imagine? I don't think so! LOL
No, depriving everyone in a neighbourhood of an entire nights sleep so they can have a drunken frat type pary is inexcusably rude and inconsiderate.
22 Aug 2010 6:55 PM
30 Jun 2007
I would have given them a little leaway because of the note but not enough for an all-night, loud, drunken backyard party. That was totally rude and inconsiderate on their part and they should be sending everyone apologies for the behaviour that went on.
22 Aug 2010 7:21 PM
24 Apr 2007
I would have been upset. "A little late" to me is 1am maybe 2am. After 4am it becomes "early in the morning".
23 Aug 2010 9:05 AM
21 May 2008
I am totally in agreement with you on this one. The note would have bought them an extra hour or so before I called the police, so instead of say 11 pm I would have waited until midnight.
If they wanted to be able to stay up all night and hoot and holler and annoy the entire world around them, they should have rented some space in the middle of nowhere, where there is no one to annoy. I would not tolerate that bullcrap from any neighbour. And I'd be super pissed the next day as well.
23 Aug 2010 9:52 AM
13 May 2009
My neighbours are Indian and their daughter was married this past Sunday.. from what I understand, Indian weddings are a multiple day event. Thursday night was super loud with music played well into the night... and on a work day! I just didn't let it bother me and was able to fall asleep to the music
They're very respectful people and we've never had noise problems before, so if they want to party one weekend in celebration of their daughter, I'm okay with the inconvenience! My whole family felt the same way... we all talked about the all night party and agreed "if they weren't such good neighbours, I would be pissed!"
I would let it go!
23 Aug 2010 2:34 PM
25 Oct 2009
Let's all take a breath ladies, and agree to disagree. Some people like to party, and some don't, so please respect that.
Back on topic... OP yes it's just one day so I wouldn't worry about it. If you really have a problem with it, I would talk to your neighbours in a calm manner and let them know that their celebration was a tad too loud.
23 Aug 2010 3:00 PM
11 Feb 2008
It absolutely sucks that your neighbours were such clowns. Wedding or not, it was extremely inconsiderate. Personally, I would have called the cops around 2 AM. Since you didn't call, I would probably just leave well enough alone.
I've attended loud-obnoxious parties that went well into the AM. However, we always do this type of event in a secluded area, where the only people annoyed are the partiers who pooped out around 2AM when the remainder of us broke out the tequila. It is possible to have a raging good time, without inconveniencing those who live around you.
And for the morning wake-up music, I hope it woke them up too!
23 Aug 2010 3:27 PM
22 Jan 2007
First off, it wan't a dig against Winnipeg. I even said just kidding and lol and mentioned that the avatar looked like somehwere in the middle of farm country... as in with no neighbours. I realize that Manitoba isn't all farms. Geez, relax ladies. I have nothing against Winnipeg. It was more about the poster with the nasty replies I let slide as I could see the type of person it was coming from.
ms_matched - you said it best.
Thanks. I loved your reply.
I was tired. I was upset. I vented. Most of you supported me, which was nice, thanks. I realized I wasn't being ridiculous for expecting a little consideration and ability to sleep for even 5 minutes.
It's also nice that almost every one of you would be more considerate to your own neighbours. (ok, with an exception whom none of us would likely want for a neighbour
enough said )
Anyway, I also mentioned that after some sleep things would be better. I haven't talked to them yet, but when I do I'll congratulate them, give them the photos and see if anything gets brought up about the noise. If they do I'll just joke about how wasted and silly they all were. It would be nice to get an apology, but if not, whatever. I'll just let it go and chock it up to embarassment or no one remembering (except the kids. They weren't drunk. THEY will remember this wedding for sure!).
As a few of us have said, it was one night. It was a wedding, not just some random (or weekly!) party. No point b*tching about it to them. It's over. Done. They're nice people. End of story.
But I do thank God they don't have 10 kids all in serious relationships and heading towards a similar backyard wedding! LOL
23 Aug 2010 3:34 PM
26 Mar 2006
Dartmouth, Nova Scotia
I'm with you, OP. Screw this business about it's only one night. That's one awfully long night when you're kept up the whole time and then spend the rest of the day dealing with the aftereffects!
And the note wouldn't have won any goodwill with me. Whether I'm warned about it or not doesn't change the fact that the noise is annoying. And they weren't trying to be considerate at all or else they should have included a paid night at a hotel for you and your DH/family.
23 Aug 2010 3:42 PM
25 Oct 2009
Alright come on... let's take this elsewhere please. If this keeps up, I'll have to lock this thread. There's no need to keep attacking each other. Please drop it.
23 Aug 2010 3:47 PM
19 Oct 2009
whats ghetto is when i was 19 and partying till wee hours in the morning... then walking to the store to pick up smokes in my bar clothes with my posse... noticing the sun is actually fully up about half way to said store and people biking passed us on their way to work!!!
now thats ghetto!!
23 Aug 2010 3:48 PM
19 Oct 2009
just thought i'd jump in and say that
23 Aug 2010 3:58 PM
22 Jan 2007
23 Aug 2010 4:02 PM
9 Jul 2005
Duchess of the Forum
Ladies, you were asked to keep it nice. You haven't done that. You continue to take snipes at one another. This thread is being locked.
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30 Apr 2012
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