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What people are buying?

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 9 Sep 2010 8:37 PM
 14 Jul 2009
 Ottawa
BandAidChik
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I don't judge what others are buying but I do take notice. I'm sure people judge my grocery picks all of the time!!!

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 9 Sep 2010 8:38 PM
 27 May 2009
 Calgary
MINIlover
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I don't really judge but I am conscious of what my cart must look like to others!

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 9 Sep 2010 8:39 PM
 1 Jan 2010
vlahopg
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i may be curious what people are getting (maybe to get ideas for me) but nope i don't think frozen meals for one means cat lady alone kinda thing..with kids..if they buy things i would not not my bizness. i have a picky eater who went thru the chicken finger phase (i try to make my own)...when he was much smaller my thoughts were i don't care what people think he is eating SOMETHING

the only thing i do (because a pet peeve of mine) if i am in express line. you betcha for sure i am counting your items. I do not say anything but i seethe on the inside sometimes smile

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 9 Sep 2010 8:41 PM
 22 Apr 2009
 Edmonton, Alberta
Baby_Doll
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I don't really judge, but I do notice and try to figure out what they plan on making/having. I also notice those who have all sorts of healthy stuff...then I usually feel bad about what I am getting.

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 9 Sep 2010 8:41 PM
 8 Aug 2008
MooseHead
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Abbsafuckingloutely!

Without a doubt.

I look at what I look like, what "they" look like, whats in my cart, whats in their cart, I make summations, I have NOOO doubt about my summations at all.

I never think "oh they're buying for their church or a party or whatever" - they're buying for THEM or even HER.

Just for fun, there honestly was a time when I went to the grocery store with DH the odd time - it was never a "big" shop, just some "stuff" - he started putting something like pizza pops in the cart. No joke, seriously no joke, at that time in my life, the way I was, I went and got him a basket. "Don't put your sh!t in my cart!!! what if someone SEEEES?"

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 9 Sep 2010 8:43 PM
 24 Oct 2007
 Halifax
MrsPL
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I hate to say it, but I probably do. I know when I worked at a grocery store many years ago I definitely used to judge.

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 9 Sep 2010 8:45 PM
 29 Jul 2005
 Ottawa, ON
vancy pants
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i said no to both.
i look, but i don't judge. mostly cuz i go out for the most random things (like formula, razor blades, and chocolate sauce). i'm sure people are judging me! but i try not to judge cuz it's probably just a random shop like me.

sometimes i see massive orders and i wonder what they're buying for. ie: today, i saw a man with a cart FULL of styrofoam plates and utensils. i can only imagine it's a huge party. i did shed a tear for the earth though...

at costco the other day, i saw a family (i'm guessing italian) with carts of food. one full cart of just meat! i thought: i would LOVE to be invited to that party!

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 9 Sep 2010 8:45 PM
 9 Mar 2006
 ottawa
kokopolo
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Yeah, I judge. But both positively and negatively. I often notice people's cart who make healthier choices and think "I should eat more kale."
I do notice the bad carts but only if they're full of packaged food and pop. And I judge more if the pop and frozen food family has children. Totally.

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 9 Sep 2010 8:53 PM
 1 Jan 2010
vlahopg
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its not even 10 items that bug me..it is people with a cart full. Really? how is that express? come on..it is for people with small shopping not a family weekly grocery run.

AND if i am in a good mood (i'm not perfect by any means) and I see a person with 1=2 items behind me i'll let them go ahead (nobody has offered me this yet but i'm still hopeful)

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 9 Sep 2010 8:53 PM
 22 Feb 2007
 Northern Ontario
Stevie
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I look at other peoples carts because I'm nosy! tongueold I'm also curious to see what others buy to eat, and try to imagine what I can make with their groceries. I don't judge though, because in all honestly I don't think it could be any worse then what my cart is holding. I'm a junk-food-aholic. You betcha I'm going to have pizza pops, and chips in my cart. Do I care if I'm judged? Hellz no. I eat balanced meals, but I do like my junk some days. whistleold

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 9 Sep 2010 8:57 PM
 15 Mar 2009
 Calgary
Tiki
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Sometimes I really wonder about people based on there choices of food in there cart..

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 9 Sep 2010 9:00 PM
 8 Sep 2009
TreeHugger
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I always look at what other people are buying and make judgments. For me it doesn't matter if they are a family or an individual. Lately my cart was missing a lot of fruit and veggies as i buy them locally at the farmers market. Today I would have full on judged myself for what was in my cart. I just need a couple more potatoes, yogurt and diapers but added on dads cookies, caramels and goldfish at the supermarket. People probably looked at me thinking no wonder she is getting so big. lol.

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 9 Sep 2010 9:01 PM
 17 Apr 2007
tuliptree
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I can't say that I've ever really noticed. Maybe I'm too busy entertaining DD. Before I had her I might have made a few fleeing judgments like "He's obviously a bachelor" or something but I tend to be in my own little world when I grocery shop and I'm very oblivious to others.

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 9 Sep 2010 9:02 PM
 3 Jan 2006
 Whitby
diva.jen
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Yep, I will admit that things run through my head. But I'm also very cognizant of the fact that people are likely judging me for what I'm buying too. Feels so good - and I get incredibly self righteous (on the inside, of course) - when I have a cart full of healthy choices. A cart full of crap? Not so much.

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 9 Sep 2010 9:06 PM
 24 Feb 2006
 back in Canada
brighteyes
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I would have to answer sometimes, I do judge. Half the time in line, I'm busy reading magazine covers and really not paying attention, but on days when I'm waiting longer than it takes to update myself on who's cheating on who/who's gained (lost) a bunch of weight/gotten a divorce(back together)/hooking up/having a baby etc then I do gaze over the other peoples' carts.

Half the time, I'm thinking oo where did they find that - must look for that next time. Sometimes I'm thinking, I should be buying more fill in the blank vegetable/fruit/other healthy option. And if it's a family with kids in tow, and their cart is full of soda/KD/french fries/sugar cereals etc then yeah I'm a little judgey in my mind. Because I think that if that's what your cart is full of and thats what those are growing up learning to eat, what chance on earth do they have of ever learning to eat healthy. If they have some junk and some healthy, I'm not going to judge. But it's a family and the cart is full of nothing but junk (and yes I have seen carts full of junk with not one fruit or vegetable in sight), then yeah I judge and I'm a little sad for those kids....

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 9 Sep 2010 9:18 PM
 24 Jul 2008
 Edmonton, AB
Siggy1909
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I usually look at what other people have and then feel bad that I don't have more veggies/fruit...

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 9 Sep 2010 9:22 PM
 22 Sep 2004
 In the Land of Misfit Toys
evil.mena
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I generally use the self-checkout so I don't really get to watch what others are buying to be honest. Not that I really care.

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 9 Sep 2010 9:29 PM
 21 Mar 2006
 Toronto
bionicjellybean
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I don't judge and didn't realize people judged! Now I'm going to be terribly self-conscious when standing in the check-out line! I don't buy my meat or fruit & veg at the grocery store so my cart usually has bread, milk, eggs, cheese and dry/frozen goods in it. That's it! My 130 lbs husband drinks Coke like a drug addict so I usually have a case or two of that thrown in, too! What do people consider 'unhealthy' carts? How much crap/processed food = judgement? Aaaaaaah. The paranoia!

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 9 Sep 2010 9:34 PM
 9 Oct 2008
 Victoria, BC
jasey
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I judge myself! We usually buy MOST things at the market and then just go to the grocery store for dry goods, dairy etc. So our cart probably looks awful with NO veggies, fruit, meat etc.

Also, for some reason, at the Thrifty's I shop at it seems like every in front of me is a health nut, which then makes me feel even worse. I want to say "I bought all my healthy food at the farmers market" all smug-like.

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 9 Sep 2010 9:35 PM
 21 Jul 2006
Rain_City_Girl
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HUH?!?! You actually pay attention to what other people are buying & the judge them?

I cannot understand question number 2 so I've not voted.

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 9 Sep 2010 9:38 PM
 21 Jul 2006
Rain_City_Girl
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Last night I stopped at the grocery store & bought the following:

Romaine
Cucumber
Grape Tomatoes
Red Pepper
Nectarines
Bannanas
Yogurt
Cream Cheese
English Muffins
Whole Wheat Buns

So what's the judgement on me?

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 9 Sep 2010 9:46 PM
 8 Apr 2009
 Ontario
Gir
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I don't judge what other people are buying, but I also don't pay attention to other peoples carts.

When I was a grocery cashier I used to try to guess what people were making. I would make recipes in my head from their purchases. It wasn't a judgment, just a way to make my shift feel more interesting.

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 9 Sep 2010 10:04 PM
 26 Aug 2005
 Toronto, ON
honeybee
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I could really care less what other people have in their carts. Unless I see its all party stuff then I just want to know where to go after I drop the groceries off at home.

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 9 Sep 2010 10:11 PM
 24 Jul 2006
 Ottawa, ON
_Trixxy_
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No, to both. Why do I care what other people are buying?

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 9 Sep 2010 10:17 PM
 8 Jun 2009
Siiera
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I usually have healthy food in my cart and other times like tonight we stopped to pick up mostly junk food, beer and quick items like lunch meat because we are moving this weekend and needed something quick. So it is usually either extreme for me. Basing on the fact that people judge, then I guess for the most part people think I'm a healthy eater and the odd times that I'm a horrible example for my daughter.

I don't normally judge people's food selections unless they are with kids. Then I admit I think poorly of the people if they have a cart full of junk, processed and frozen garbage. I know it isn't fair because I don't know if they eat like that all the time or what their income is (healthy food is expensive) but I can't help myself. It likely stems from my obsession in making sure everything that touches DD's lips is healthy.

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 9 Sep 2010 10:17 PM
 14 Jan 2005
 Yellowknife
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I don't notice what's in other people's cart, and if I did I sure wouldn't judge. What the he!! do I care what other people eat? And for those who said they judge if there is pop in a cart with kids... we always have at least 1 case of pop in ou cart, but my DH is the only one that drinks it. The kids aren't the only members of the family, and the fact that there's pop in the cart doesn't mean they drink it.

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 9 Sep 2010 10:23 PM
 9 Jul 2005
 Around, SK
LadyAurora
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I don't care what other people get. I'm usually too concerned with making sure that what I've picked up is still going to fit within my budget (I will keep tabulating throughout the entire trip). I am aware that people may have judgements about me / my family based on what I come up to the cashier with. I still don't really care. They don't know what this may be supplementing or if we are picking up requested items for MIL. And you don't know how I may be combining / using the ingredients in my cart.

On the topic of someone letting you go in front with only 1 - 2 items? It's happened to me once. And believe me, it has left an impression. I have let others go in front (or at least offered). Often, they'll just let us go first because we have kids (or so I'm guessing).

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 9 Sep 2010 10:43 PM
 22 Aug 2007
RedVelvet
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My DH once bought 8 boxes of condoms from the grocery store because they were ridiculously on sale (like $5 off each box - and no, they weren't just about to expire).

I am sure he got judged by many people around him.

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 9 Sep 2010 11:21 PM
 19 Sep 2005
Ms_Married
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It never occurred to me that people were so interested in other people's grocery cart. I guess I should start hiding the supersize box o' condoms in the bottom of the cart.

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 9 Sep 2010 11:34 PM
 2 Apr 2005
cake
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Can't say as I've ever judged by What was in someone's cart, but I've judged by How it was thrown in!

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 9 Sep 2010 11:53 PM
 13 Jul 2006
 GVA, wishing it was GTA
tjrocks
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I notice, but I'm not sure if I judge. I guess if all they're buying is REALLY unhealthy.

It does make me cringe at shoppers if I'm buying something awkward and the cashier makes a face. I bought a giant tub of Vaseline once for a sculpting project and she kept making comments about what I was going to do with it.

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 10 Sep 2010 12:03 AM
 7 Aug 2010
 Vegreville, AB
Beaker
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Heck ya.

Oh, sure, I'll moderate my view of the fat slob's grocery purchasing habits by saying "He's only buying two dozen Hungryman dinners because they're on sale for a rediculously good price!" But then again, I normally don't even steer my cart down that aisle, so how the heck would I know?

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 10 Sep 2010 12:11 AM
 14 Mar 2009
 Alberta
algy14
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I actually don't usually notice what's in other people's carts, I tend to space out when grocery shopping. Or maybe it's that I go shopping late at night so there's hardly anyone else in the store? I do, however, judge what is in my own cart.

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 10 Sep 2010 12:15 AM
 4 Jan 2006
Mary Ann
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I judge. But not about what the food is specifically. No, I obverve the people ahead of me to try to pick the fastest moving checkout.

I try to figure out if that kart behind line 3 is unloading his groceries effienctly or doesn't have items without prices (PRICE CHECK TO AISLE 3 PLEASE!!). It the checker fast or is he/she looking up the price of every single item in the cart. Last minute adders are really tricky to spot. "Can you just save my place while I go back to get item xx". Add at least another 5 to 10 minutes waiting. Then there are the little old ladies (and why is it always little old ladies?) that just seem to have trouble with interact (card doesn't work) or conversely who seem to insist on paying it exactly from the poker card or bingo winnings of the week (or just all their saved nickels and dimes). No problem with using up your available cash. Just not in front of me please!!!

And don't get ms started how they bag.

All that obervstion has led me to believe I have a 100% streak for consistently picking the slowest line every time.

I am not the least interested in what people have in their carts that might be healthy or junk. I don't even see it.

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 10 Sep 2010 12:19 AM
 10 Mar 2003
 Mommyland
Kasey
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I always wonder what people think...tonight I bought 3 cans of formula: 2-soy based & 1-milk based, replacement nipples, sliced mushrooms, bananas, 2 bags of low salt chips, big chocolate bar, small pie, 2 family size bags of pasta, 1 club size pasta sauce, buns, 3 packages of cheese, 6 packs of minigos, various cuts of meat, frozen lemonade & iced tea.

I laughed at the cash, when I saw my dad sneaked on all the junk food onto the cart. I'd already told him "no" to the brownies. He's worse than my kids.

But I'm too love my local farmers market, neighbours for my fresh veg and fruit...I have been to grow some of my own stuff in the past. I also shop boutique food stores- trying to quit- we love it but my budget doesn't.

I only get judgy if I hear stuff like the kids wanting veggies and mom & dad say why would we do that.Its sad.

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 10 Sep 2010 12:28 AM
 2 Jun 2010
WhirlyGirl
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Yeah, I only get judgemental when I'm in the 15 item express lane and the person in front of me has 30 items. I don't care if people are a couple of items over, I've probably been guilty of that myself, but double the stated items for the express lane? Someone's going to get a dirty look, even a huffy sigh!

As for judging what people put in their cart or on the till, no not usually unless I'm envying that delicious looking blackforest cake!

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 10 Sep 2010 12:34 AM
 18 Aug 2008
canIgetawhaa
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If I see fit, toned people I peak into their cart, or basket to see what healthy foods they are eating. I want to see what they are eating and maybe if I can incorporate into my meals.

If I see someone with multiples of one product I wonder if it's on sale and how much of a good deal it is.

If I see an overweight person with nothing but junk food and pizza pops in their cart I wonder if they realize what they are doing to their bodies.



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 10 Sep 2010 12:41 AM
 8 Jun 2006
 BC
CharMac
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Yup. I judge a little. If someone to me looks really fit and healthy I like to check out what they be eating. Same for if they are excessively large. (Sorry) I'm sure others do it to me too.

I also like to see if I have any coupons for things they are buying.

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 10 Sep 2010 1:22 AM
 10 Apr 2006
 Howe Sound, BC
AutumnBride
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I admit it, sometimes I do judge. More so when they do have kids with them or are buying foods geared towards kids like those gross looking lunchable things. You know, the build your own pizza stuff. Just does not look appetizing!

Buuuuuuuuut, I am sure people judge me too! I too buy my fruit and veggies at the farmers market so I rarely have that sort of stuff in my cart except for maybe some bananas since we seem to go through those faster.

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 10 Sep 2010 7:36 AM
 21 May 2008
luckystars
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Like Mary_Ann, I judge not about what food is in the cart, but how long the people in line are going to take to check out. Over-filled cart that looks like once-per-month grocery shoppers? I'm not getting in line behind them. Little old lady moving slower than molasses in January? Not getting in line behind her either smile

DH and I also judge based on upcoming sales... a day or so before the new grocery flyer starts, the store begins setting up displays of the sale items. We are secretly laughing at the people who are buying items that will be half the price the next day.

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 10 Sep 2010 8:13 AM
 1 Dec 2006
 Ottawa, Ontario
carlaLOVESadriano
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Nope, I don't judge. I could care less about what is in other people's carts. The fact that this poll is suggesting that most people do judge is just mind boggling to me.

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 10 Sep 2010 8:23 AM
 6 Jul 2005
 Montreal
Marshmallow
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My mom and I are SO guilty of that. It was the Jewish New years, and we were picking up a few things in our local IGA. There were some women there who had 700$ baskets FILLED to the brim. We could not stop staring. I am sure they had 20 people over for dinner, but to have 10 bottles of coke in your basket is comical to me, no matter what the circumstance!

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 10 Sep 2010 8:39 AM
 30 Dec 2008
 Nova Scotia
marsbug
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yep, I do. At least a little bit.
I'm always afraid of what people are judging me for as well.

I went grocery shopping the day before mine and FH bachelor/bachelorette parties and stocked up on junk food upon junk food, something we rarely ever buy. All I'm thinking as I'm unloading my cart is "oh goodness, I'm that person that I judge at the grocery store.....great".

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 10 Sep 2010 8:43 AM
 14 May 2008
 Ottawa, Canada
Peachick
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I might try to figure out what people are having for dinner that night, but I don't really pass judgement. I just don't care enough.
If people are judging me, I don't care much either. I know we eat very well. Plus my cart might look weird to others because we cook so much. For example, this week besides the regular pile of produce and other misc. dinner ingredients, I had 10 huge jars of honey. The honey was on a super sale and it's a main ingredient in the granola bars we make. DH goes through honey like it's going out of style. I also had a tiny cup of plain yogurt because we make our own yogurt and I need a starter every once in a while. So people would probably have no idea what to make of my cart some weeks.

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 10 Sep 2010 8:45 AM
 24 Jul 2002
3littlegirls
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I do enjoy looking, but most of the time it's not a negative thing, because heck my cart doesn't always look great with the treats in there.. We definitely enjoy the funnier carts though.

Once in August when the college students were coming back we saw a group of 3 guys (19, 20ish).. They had 2 loaves of bread , a club size Peanut butter, a case of KD, and a big jug of tomato juice. That's it. We chuckled at it and said "yup, students with the basic food groups".. We guessed their next stop was the liquor store and beer store across the parking lot.

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 10 Sep 2010 8:48 AM
 1 Jan 2010
vlahopg
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And although healthy food is expensive, there are ways to eat properly if it is a priority to you. I didn't eat like a King when I was a student on a limited income but I didn't survive on pizza pockets, kd, weiners, chips and pop either. Even if DH and our income dropped considerably, I'd make other sacrifices in my life because there is no way I'd spend my money on non food to feed my DD. Her health and safety is my number one priority, sadly that isn't the case for many parents.
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That is a very "judge-y" statement. I am sure that people who are living at poverty line make sacrifices to feed their children to the best of their abilities - it is not always black and white and unfortunately now we have a generation (or two) of people who were never taught proper nutrition and food choices. I saw a Jamie Oliver episode (School Dinners) in England and the majority of the children in the primary school class he was visiting couldn't even identify vegetables.

I don't eat those things because I know better, I don't trust what is in them and I enjoy cooking but I realise that everyone is not as fortunate as I am to be able to feed my family. I just found your statement rather damning to people whose circumstances may not give them as much freedom to make the same choices we can

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 10 Sep 2010 9:13 AM
 1 Jan 2010
_gemma_
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Yes I judge and my judgement is no less if there are children. I also judge in the food court.



*I appreciate that not everyone can have healthy meals for their children all the time due to financial constraints.

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 10 Sep 2010 9:18 AM
 10 Jun 2010
B_Mc
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The only ones that catch my interest are the massive orders. I assume it is for a daycare (who knows why) and then I judge what they are feeding the daycare kids....

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 10 Sep 2010 9:49 AM
 11 Feb 2008
Lotus_spring
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I do too.

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