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 Who *didn't* live with their SO's before marriage?

I didn't live with my DH before we got married. "We" owned a house together, but he lived in it before the wedding.

Wondering how many of us are out there on WB who didn't live with their SO's before they got married, or are planning on not living together before marriage?

(Before this comes up) I'm asking so I can find some people to chat with about something, and it has to do specifically with this topic, and a perspective only the above people would have smile

Thanks in advance!

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 20 Sep 2010 10:15 AM
 21 Oct 2009
lastone
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I am not sure if I qualify. We lived to together for about 3 months and then he moved to a different city, and we lived apart for close to 3 years. It was not until after our first wedding anniversary that we were able to live together again.

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 20 Sep 2010 10:33 AM
 23 Jun 2007
 Tinseltown
Poulette
Postaholic
9,801
We never lived together before marriage - we're old school that way. I lived with roommates and he lived at his sisters' houses when he was in town (the year before the wedding, he was at Teacher's College and lived with roomies 7 hours away).

Even before the wedding we could have, but didn't. We closed on the new house on June 30th, moved all my crap in that night, and until the wedding on July 4th, I lived with my folks and he lived with his sister. We officially moved in the night of to "bless" the house rofl

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 20 Sep 2010 10:43 AM
 5 Apr 2009
peachface
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We didn't live together. He had his own apartment and I had mine. Although... we were practically living together... tongueold

We bought a house just before our wedding and then moved in after the wedding.

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 20 Sep 2010 11:04 AM
 1 Jan 2010
vlahopg
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We didnt' live together. I had a room-mate and he lived alone

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 20 Sep 2010 11:09 AM
 13 Aug 2002
 Toronto
FriendsFirst
Queen of the Forum
28,628
Had it not been for our inability to 'hack' a long distance relationship, we wouldn't have lived together before the wedding.
(living in different cities, even though we were within driving distance and could see each other on weekends, was adding too much stress to our relationship before DH moved)

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 20 Sep 2010 11:15 AM
 8 Mar 2009
Teacup86
Devotee
1,868
We did'nt live together before we got married. We were together for 6 years and bought a house the year we got engaged and then moved into it after we were married. PM me Ms_Roc if you need to vent! I sure as he!! needed to last night lol.

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 20 Sep 2010 11:29 AM
 24 Apr 2007
 Smalltown, AB
Irene_Neil
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We moved in together in May and got married in July. So technically we did live together. It just made sense so that I wouldn't have to commute.

Our reasoning was partially becase of personal conviction and partially situational.

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 20 Sep 2010 11:32 AM
 1 Jan 2006
FeministSprig
Postaholic
6,928
We also did not live together until we are married. It definitely comes with some challenges that way!

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 20 Sep 2010 11:54 AM
 30 Oct 2006
ClareBear
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2,408
We didn't live together. We bought a condo about 4 months before the wedding. DH lived there by himself, I usually stayed there with him on the weekends. I "officially" moved in a couple of days after the wedding.

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 20 Sep 2010 12:20 PM
 5 Mar 2006
 Prairie Girl living in Switzer...
LadyTatiana
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We didn't for two reasons. I was living rent free at the time so from an financial stand point it was a good thing. The other reason was that our mothers would have had a stroke if we lived together before marriage. Our parents are pretty open and liberal people but living together would have just killed our mothers.

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 20 Sep 2010 1:14 PM
 6 Feb 2010
 Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
missjess
WB Lurker
213
We're not. We have an apartment but he lives there and I pay the rent tongueold I live with my parents until the wedding. We are VERY old school.

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 20 Sep 2010 2:30 PM
 6 Jul 2010
 South Western ON
vanillacoffee
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We didn't live together. We are the only couple of all but one of our friends, who have not lived together before becoming engaged or married.

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 20 Sep 2010 2:36 PM
 19 Jan 2007
 Toronto
Firefly4
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1,550
We didnt live together....

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 20 Sep 2010 2:37 PM
 28 Nov 2008
 SW Ontario
Lil_Mama
WB Devotee
1,991
Were together 6 years when we got married, never lived together.

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 20 Sep 2010 2:56 PM
 3 Sep 2004
 Toronto
Ewokie
Postaholic
5,725
We didn't live together. I lived at home and he lived at home .. a month before the wedding, we signed a lease for a 1-bdrm apartment, so he sort of moved into it that month (but there was no furniture or anything, just a bed. I don't think he stayed in it that often either, he just shuttled back and forth from home). But I didn't move in until after the wedding.

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 20 Sep 2010 3:36 PM
 24 May 2009
 Durham Region, ON
DayDreamer
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I'm not married yet so if I shouldn't be responding... well too bad lol.

DBF and I won't be living together before getting married. He wants to, but I come from a super traditional family, so even if I wanted to live with him before getting married (which I wish sometimes), my parents would pretty much shoot it down.

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 20 Sep 2010 3:37 PM
 29 Apr 2007
 The Nuthouse
Sidney
Raving Lunatic
13,034
Just a thought. Are looking for not living together, or not having sex before the wedding? Because I know people who lived together with no nookie involved and I know people who kept up the pretence but were having sex at every opportunity.

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 20 Sep 2010 5:57 PM
 23 Jun 2007
 Tinseltown
Poulette
Postaholic
9,801
We didn't live together and there was no nookie until we were married. We "christened" the new house after our wedding wink

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 20 Sep 2010 6:33 PM
 3 Jan 2009
zoobaby
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6,506
We lived together for a few years before our wedding. That said, our situation was somewhat unusual in that we moved to New Zealand for a year, and then onto Scotland for nearly three. We didn't know anyone (in the UK) and it just made sense for us to live together at that time.

That said, if we had a more traditional story, I would not have entertained the notion of living together until we were engaged. I don't like the idea of "trying it out" at all. I was comfortable with the idea while overseas because the situation was so temporary - we didn't own property, a car, furniture, or anything. But splitting up while living common law can get kind of hairy, and I just wouldn't have gone down that road until we were making it a definite thing.

Living overseas just felt so much less settled.

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 20 Sep 2010 6:37 PM
 19 Jul 2002
KanataKids
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3,301
We didn't live together until we got married. We bought a house a few months before hand but I didn't move in until the wedding.

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 20 Sep 2010 6:40 PM
 9 May 2006
Pannecoeke
Postaholic
7,974
We didn't! We had a similar situation as you guys. We bought a house a couple months before the wedding, but DH and his best friend lived there until after the honeymoon. Then I moved in. grin I lived with my parents before the wedding. DH also lived with his parents before moving into our house.

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 20 Sep 2010 6:46 PM
 14 Jul 2010
 Cruising around...
Ms_Roc
Duchess of the Forum
24,223
Thanks ladies ! I'll be reading all the responses and PMing over the next few days smile

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 20 Sep 2010 9:05 PM
 27 Jan 2006
 Calgary, AB
August26Bride
WB Addict
3,289
DH and I moved in together 2 months before we got married so I don't really consider us living together before getting married.

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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
 buzzle.ca
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