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Yesterday Dr Phil was about having a work wife/work husband.

Do you have a work husband? How does your spouse feel about this relationship? Do you think it is inappropriate to have a work spouse?

I have three work husbands - all of their wives are well aware of our friendships as in my husband. We all spend time together outside of work. In fact two of the wives introduce me as ______ work wife...

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 21 Jul 2011 5:10 PM
 13 Aug 2006
 Calgary, Alberta
cherryblossom
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I don't know what this is...

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 21 Jul 2011 5:11 PM
 22 May 2007
 Calgary, Alberta
SilverStargazer
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Well, in my job, the only man I work with is my boss (the principal of my school). Not necessarily the best man to have the Work husband relationship with. BUT...I do have 4 work wives wink

DH teases me that if I wasn't with him, I'd probably be married to one of them.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:16 PM
 13 Aug 2006
 Calgary, Alberta
cherryblossom
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I just looked it up on Wiki.

Heck no, I would never have a work husband. Not my cup of tea at all.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:16 PM
 13 May 2009
 GTA
muskn
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I have work boyfriends... boys I have silly crushes on at work.

They don't know, but my DH does. He just rolls his eyes at me because I'm annoying.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:20 PM
 6 Jun 2007
i_love_milo
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DH has a work wife (but she's a lesbian, so he's a work wife too geek )

I don't have a work husband though, it's a small pool to choose from.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:29 PM
 19 Apr 2008
 Regina, *home* is E-Town!
Tanky
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I work with 90% women as a nurse, so no work husbands for me. (and lets be honest, MURSE = generally NOT hot)

But on occasion, I've had work boyfriends. tongueold

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 21 Jul 2011 5:31 PM
 2 Aug 2009
Nuke
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I used to have one but I shared him with like, 5 other women.

No selection now at work so I am single.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:31 PM
 20 Nov 2007
 Burnaby, BC
p0pc0rn
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No work husband but I've had lots of work mothers through out all my jobs. DH has also found work mothers throughout his work place as well.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:32 PM
 13 Aug 2006
 Calgary, Alberta
cherryblossom
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^I had a work evil step mom.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:38 PM
 23 Jul 2009
 Nova Scotia
5_Dimples
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By my definition i see no issue with it...

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 21 Jul 2011 5:46 PM
 26 Aug 2005
 Toronto, ON
honeybee
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DH does. She even makes tea for him. I'm friends with her as well so no worries there.

I had one when I was working and some co-workers actually thought we were dating.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:49 PM
 22 Oct 2004
 Winnipeg, MB
waterlily
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I did when I had my summer job during university...we even had to "act" like husband and wife. I divorced him and moved on to another work husband! LOL!

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 21 Jul 2011 5:52 PM
 6 Jul 2010
 South Western ON
vanillacoffee
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I work with all women... so no.

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 21 Jul 2011 5:56 PM
 19 Mar 2009
 Spruce Grove
MarriedBliss
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I work with all women as well, but I do have a work wife.

DH worked in an elementary school with only one person his age. They clicked, worked on field trips, committees together. I called her his work wife, he didn't really think so though.

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 21 Jul 2011 6:24 PM
 23 Dec 2010
abby&aiden
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My DH has a "work husband". Him and his male boss spend all day together then tex/talk on the phone all night. One night at like 11pm right before bed my DH's phone went off with a text, it was his bozz saying "goodnight"! such weirdos! I bug him about it all the time, asking if hes talking/texting to his boyfriend!!

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 21 Jul 2011 8:03 PM
 29 Jul 2005
 Ottawa, ON
vancy pants
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Huh. I didn't know there was a term for it!
My BFF has work crushes and I have work crushes at my current job. But now that I think about it, I had a work husband at my old job.

We were BFFs and he totally looked out for me as I did for him too. We had each other's backs and I actually really miss him. We did lots of stuff together (during work - like go out for lunch) that I'm pretty sure people were gossiping about us. I never thought of him as my work husband, I always thought of him as my work BFF.

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 21 Jul 2011 8:07 PM
 13 Aug 2010
honeysher 2.0
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I work in a field that is 85% female (according to the stats from last September). There are only 2 males I work with on a direct basis and neither are what I'd consider a work husband.

A friend who I used to work with is someone who was my work hubby until he transferred jobs and locations. We hardly see each other now. Both my DH and his DW were aware that we spent the majority of our working time together and pretty much exclusively went to lunch with each other daily.

There was no attraction on either end. If anything, he was like my older brother that I never had.

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 21 Jul 2011 8:49 PM
 11 Dec 2008
 Ottawa
Dreas
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I don't have one since I work with all females except for my old, socially awkward boss.

DH has a work wife. They go for coffee, lunch, etc. all the time. The first couple of months they worked together I was a little wary of their relationship because she is gorgeous and really awesome. However, I quickly realized I had nothing to worry about. We have spent some time with her and her FH, and they came to our wedding.

She always goes shopping with DH to help pick out gifts for me and she does a great job laugh

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 21 Jul 2011 8:50 PM
 14 May 2010
 Toronto, Ontario, Canada
CruiseBride
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My work husband is my real life DH!

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 21 Jul 2011 9:47 PM
 1 Jan 2010
tentenohnine
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I have a work wife, and I don't know what I would do without her! We also joke that we have a work family - our lunch crew is like a stereotype of a dysfunctional family.

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 21 Jul 2011 9:48 PM
 13 Feb 2006
 Ontario
MommyD
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I don't, but my DH has a work boyfriend. One of my friends husbands works with my DH and we tease them all the time that they are work boyfriends. They are inseperable.

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 21 Jul 2011 11:21 PM
 30 Sep 2006
LF4e
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I don't have a work husband because when I went off on maternity leave there wasn't a single man in my office (there are 2 now plus a summer student)...

However, I joke that DH has a work wife. When I was pregnant there was also a woman at his work who was pregnant. I was begging him to bring me Starbucks and he said he couldn't because he was too busy -- a few moments later he told me that he was at Tim Horton's getting coffee and a bagel for his pregnant co-worker. From then on I started calling her his work wife. But I really like her and have no issue with it at all.

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 21 Jul 2011 11:28 PM
 12 May 2008
 Wisconsin, USA
ruby_wi
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Nope, even though I work with mostly men. But, we all work pretty independently, I am in a studio alone for 5 hours a day, with the occasional visitor popping in, and passing in the halls on my pee breaks or when I am looking for more Post-It notes because the boys like to carry them out of the studio. Grr.

I do have male listeners that call in to flirt with me, does that count? Although they are usually old men.

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 22 Jul 2011 12:12 AM
 15 Jul 2009
 Waterloo, Ontario
Incogneato
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Work moms, wives and brothers, yes. Never had a work husband though.

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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
 buzzle.ca
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 22 Jul 2011 8:44 AM
 26 Oct 2005
 TO
Gingy
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I'm surrounded by women at work. DH is surrounded by men at work. So we're each other's only spouses. smile

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 22 Jul 2011 8:44 AM
 20 Jun 2011
laurahayes
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Well i am single.. but i want to work spouse..

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 22 Jul 2011 9:45 AM
 13 Jun 2008
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Anonymous173
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yep, i used to have a "work husband". DH called him my "boyfriend". we were really good friends both in and outside of work. unfortch, he moved away, but we still keep in touch and see each other when he visits.

DH knew him & liked him too, and DH never had any jealousy issues. It perhaps helped that my "work husband" has a smoking hot SO and they have two children together. He is very settled and happy. Maybe it would have been different if he was single? I don't know though - DH and I are in generally really unjealous people; I'm very secure in our relationship and so is DH.

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 22 Jul 2011 9:57 AM
 2 May 2005
Maritime Mama
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I used to when I worked in an office. We'd go for lunch, I'd help him shop for his GF or point out cute looking girls when he was single.

DH has a work-boyfriend - they go on man-dates sometimes in the evenings/weekends... Actually they're doing that today since they both have the day off of work! lol

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 22 Jul 2011 10:15 AM
 4 Apr 2006
cynful
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I had a work husband, until he was trasferred to a different office 18 months ago. But luckily he'll be back in the fall! We go to meetings together, run errands and chit chat about office politics and personal stuff, and occasionally he'll give me a ride home from work. He and my DH are now friends, they do guy stuff together and we'll often invite him over for dinner or to hang out in the evening (he's single).

There are a lot of work wife/husband relationships at my office, it's pretty common.

DH has a work wife - they go for coffee and stuff. I've met her a few times. I have no problems with their relationship.

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 22 Jul 2011 1:06 PM
 20 Oct 2009
kahicpep
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i used to, at my old job. after i'd become friends with his wife she told me "i hated you until i met you."

that's nice, i guess smile

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 22 Jul 2011 1:30 PM
 11 Feb 2008
PasDeChat
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Hmmm...I work at the same office as my husband. So, I guess yes?

I don't really enjoy the company of anyone on my team right now since we let our consultants go. I work in IT, so it's mostly men...but my team is overly stereotypical and a lot of them are very socially awkward.

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 30 Apr 2012
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