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 WWYD - Ratting on someone else's teenager

I was driving by my local high school this afternoon and I saw a former Girl Guide of mine (I used to be a leader) standing at a crosswalk with her friends. She and her friends (who are probably 16) were smoking. Now, my first thought was "I wonder if her mother knows," which was soon followed by "I wonder if I should tell her mother."

It's got me thinking, especially having 2 girls of my own. What would you do? Would you tell on someone else's kid for something like this?

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 30 Sep 2011 10:25 PM
 7 Nov 2007
 Winnipeg, Manitoba
his.fallen.angel
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Nope. It's not even remotely your business.

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 30 Sep 2011 10:31 PM
 18 Apr 2010
 Toronto, Ontario
JA=M
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I say no. Don't do it.

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 30 Sep 2011 10:32 PM
 8 Feb 2010
Panda Baby
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Nope.

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 30 Sep 2011 10:35 PM
 2 Aug 2009
Nuke
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Not for smoking.

Maybe if she was prostituting herself or something else illegal if I knew the mother.

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 30 Sep 2011 10:36 PM
 21 Apr 2010
Red_
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Nope - unless you are close friends with the mother

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 30 Sep 2011 10:45 PM
 5 May 2007
 Hong Kong
airborne_mama
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I wouldn't

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 30 Sep 2011 10:59 PM
 24 Feb 2006
 back in Canada
brighteyes
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the only way I would say something is if it was a close friend's child or one of my nephews....

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 1 Oct 2011 12:08 AM
 11 Nov 2008
 Ottawa
tweet
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Not in a million years.

None of your business at all

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 1 Oct 2011 12:13 AM
 20 Mar 2006
 GTA
Aquablue
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Sure.

Since when was smoking something that was good for you smirk

Rat away I say.

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 1 Oct 2011 2:19 AM
 8 Jun 2009
Siiera
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Nope

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 1 Oct 2011 4:04 AM
 9 May 2006
 UK
AllyT
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Nope.

I used to be that teenager. Out of respect for her, I wouldn't say anything. Maybe her mom knows already, mine did. She's 16 and having a cigarette. Like the PP said, she's not prostituting.

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 1 Oct 2011 6:06 AM
 4 Jan 2009
punkbridetobe
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Depends how close I am with the mother. If she's just an acquaintance I probably wouldn't tell her...

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 1 Oct 2011 8:13 AM
 21 Mar 2006
 Toronto
bionicjellybean
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Nope! Not for smoking, good for you or not.

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 1 Oct 2011 8:18 AM
 28 Jul 2011
iseesquared
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Nope.

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 1 Oct 2011 8:35 AM
 30 Sep 2006
LF4e
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Nope. I agree with PPs who said that if it was something bigger, like prostituting, smoking crack, shooting heroin, etc. then you could tell, but not for a cigarette.

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 1 Oct 2011 8:39 AM
 26 Oct 2005
 TO
Gingy
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I'm surprised by the replies. I guess I'm not thinking about the kid getting mad at me (who cares, she will get over it), but about the mother. Isn't this exactly the kind of thing a parent would want to/need to know about her child?

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 1 Oct 2011 8:58 AM
 6 Apr 2011
Mom2Buttheads
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I would want to know.

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 1 Oct 2011 9:13 AM
 13 May 2009
 GTA
muskn
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I voted no, because teenagers experiment. Who didn't try smoking when they were growing up?

Sometimes they have to figure out disgusting things on their own.

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 1 Oct 2011 9:26 AM
 18 Apr 2010
 Toronto, Ontario
JA=M
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As a mom, I would want to know. However, I agree with honeybee and muskn.

My sister is 5 years younger than me. My friends would see her doing things - usually pretty stupid like wearing a revealing outfit - and they would tell me. My sister still holds grudges against these people, would never open up to them or give them the chance to get close to her, and it just resulted in her becoming outraged. That was a long time ago and she still brings it up.

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 1 Oct 2011 9:43 AM
 15 Jul 2008
Babs1980
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Good lord no. Not for smoking. The mom probably already knows and might embarrassed/flustered/annoyed if someone she's not close to calls her up to tell her. And honestly, smoking is not good for you, but a lot of 16 year olds experiment and I don't think it's any of the OP's business.

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 1 Oct 2011 10:03 AM
 4 Jun 2005
mama2boys
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for something like this - nope.

WE have, however ratted out our 16yr old neighbour when he was left alone a few times overnight - loud parties keeping us awake. I have no issues doing that

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 1 Oct 2011 7:28 PM
 9 May 2006
Pannecoeke
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I'd be shocked if her parents don't know, if they're not smokers themselves. My DH smokes a cigarette maybe once a month while out with friends, and I smell him as soon as he walks in the house... if this girl is a regular smoker, I'm positive her mother knows already.

Anyway, if her mother wasn't a friend of mine or someone I see on a regular basis, I wouldn't say anything. She's smoking, not prostituting herself or shooting heroine.

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 1 Oct 2011 9:11 PM
 21 Apr 2007
 Ontario
MyGeek
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I wouldn't go out of my way to seek out her mom to tell her especially if she isn't someone who I see all the time.

However, in the same vein as those who said if she were a close friend, if I ran into her, or talked to her regularly, or had plans with her, I certainly would. If I were a mom of a teen, I would definitely want to know. (I'm sure we would be able to tell, neither DH or I smoke and truth be told, it friggin stinks)

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 1 Oct 2011 11:03 PM
 22 Apr 2008
 Edmonton, AB
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No. What would the desired outcome be? You think a 16 year old is going to quit smoking because someone ratted them out? The mom probably knows anyways.

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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
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 2 Oct 2011 9:40 AM
 13 Aug 2008
 Ottawa
MrsMS
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I smoked a few times in high school and I'm so glad no one called my mom and told on me! I smartened up on my own.

I vote for mind your own business.

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 2 Oct 2011 4:36 PM
 25 Feb 2009
 Toronto, Ont
AriMi
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I wouldn't. Do you think the daughters going to admit to it? Unless I really knew you ( like close family or friend) I would deny it to my mom and say I was on class at that time, it's not like she stopped to talk to me so how would she know it's me for sure etc .... I wasnt the easiest teenage lol

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 3 Oct 2011 2:37 PM
 14 Jan 2009
Mariposa_10
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I picked other, again - If I knew the Mom and spoke to her anyway I would tell. If I had to call her specifically just to tattle then I probably would not. Unless, as PPs said it was something HUGE - however if it was I might assume Mom already knew and not try to rub salt in the wound.

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 3 Oct 2011 5:28 PM
 8 Apr 2011
 The Vag
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I wouldn't because that's not who I am.

Now if the mom was in my circle of friends, I'd be hopping out the car and asking wtf she was trying to prove with the cigarette. Smoking isn't cool.

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