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I X-Posted in GE but wanted to see what the non-babyers had to share!

Do any of you actually KNOW (IRL) anyone who's been pregnant but didn't know it? (either to pooping out a baby one day, or even finding out very late in the pregnancy?) Is there anyone from WB like this?

Just curious, I never believed it could happen until I've heard some stories recently (the lady in BC?)

And I was chatting with a bestie/WBer last night, and she's got me convinced I need to go get a blood test. rofl

I had DS 18m ago, and so I KNOW/REMEMBER what most symptoms feel like, and I was also mighty huge when I had him. (very noticeable big belly lol)

But I can definitely understand how some women just have a baby one day and don't have a clue, because I've had massive symptoms over the past 4 months but wrote it off because I've POAS 4x, and also had regular periods.

Anywho, I'm still not convinced I need to go see a Dr, but I'm curious if anyone here has any stories to share!

grin

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 31 Oct 2011 4:52 PM
 26 Jun 2006
 Chatham Ontario
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I know someone who says she didn't know til she was 7 months along... she was having regular periods, but was also still taking her birth control.

I am sure her case isn't the same as yours, I think she was mostly in denial or looking for her best case to break it to the family without being in sh!t for being on her second kid in 2 years.

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 31 Oct 2011 4:58 PM
 29 Dec 2008
 Calgary
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There was a wb'er recently who found out at like 19 weeks? Nifer I think? I've also met a woman that found out at 17 weeks, it was her second too but just didn't feel pg!

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 31 Oct 2011 4:59 PM
 21 Sep 2010
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A lady I work with didn't find out she was pregnant till she was 5 months along. She had never had regular periods so she didn't think anything of it. It wasn't until she went to the dr for her yearly check up that they found out she was pregnant.

I am like you and never really believed it could happen until she told her story.

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 31 Oct 2011 5:02 PM
 11 Apr 2007
 Lower Mainland, BC
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I know someone who found out at 20 weeks with her third. I think the last few weeks were denial though as her youngest was 12 at the time tongueold

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 31 Oct 2011 5:08 PM
 10 Feb 2006
 Uxbridge, ON
Renata
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My sister in law didn't know until she was something like 15 weeks.

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 31 Oct 2011 5:18 PM
 1 Jan 2010
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My cousin did not know she was PG with her second until she was in labour. A was standing up and we had seen her a few weeks before she went into labour and she had no belly, she wasn't a big girl either, about a size 8/10. She went to the doctor because her back was bothering her, and she thought she just needed a shot of demeral (maybe that was it, can't remember) and found out she was in labour, but A was breach, so they had to get to the hospital for an emergency c-section.

Her IL's got a phone call letting them know she was going in for the c-section, and they couldn't help but think, oh it must be a nother girl, our C isn't PG. Poor A's name was "holy s$it" and "oh fucl<" for about 2 days, it was such a shock.

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 31 Oct 2011 5:22 PM
 6 Jan 2010
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My Mom didn't know for a few months.

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 31 Oct 2011 5:23 PM
 1 Jan 2010
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My dad's cousin claimed to not know she was pregnant until shortly before the birth of her daughter. Not sure if she was just in denial because she wasn't really in a stable relationship and didn't want to tell the family, or if she actually, honestly, didnt know.

I saw her at a family reunion/bbq during her pregnancy, and thinking back, she looked like she could have been pregnant, but my dad said she claimed she never new... so who really knows...

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 31 Oct 2011 5:32 PM
 24 Jan 2005
 Calgary
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I know two ladies. One found at 5 months when she went for an ultra sound relating to stomach pain. She was regular, didn't feel anything...they thought she was gaining weight due to thyroid issues. I wasn't until the ultra sound and the tech asked her how her pregnancy was...that she freaked out. They had been trying for the better part of 8 years and were told it just wasn't going to happen.

The second one, she was regular again...she thought she was just getting fat and actually joined a weightloss program to get the pounds off. She went to the doctor when she wasn't losing weight and found out she was 5 months as well.

Oh, and this past weekend...my sis, one of her friend's sisters had a baby Friday. It was one of those finding out in the ER that you're pregnant things. That blew my mind...but my mom said it happened to a girl she worked with as well. She was a big girl to start with, had stomach issues, weight gain wasn't noticed and then...blammo...baby.

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 31 Oct 2011 5:47 PM
 26 Aug 2005
 Toronto, ON
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I found out with my oldest (now 6) when I was 15 weeks or so along. I was taking BC and getting periods and didn't think anything of it. When it was time for my IPS testing we found out they couldn't do it since I was actually over 20 weeks not around 12-13 weeks.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:02 PM
 7 Nov 2007
 Winnipeg, Manitoba
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I girl I worked with was pregnant with twins and she didn't know it around 20w.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:09 PM
 22 Apr 2009
 Edmonton, Alberta
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Holy crap! This is pretty crazy how many people actually know of others in real life this happened too.

My coworker came back from her mat leave pregnant with a third but didn't realize until about 3 months in. She was a larger lady to start so the weight gain wouldn't have really been noticed and I think she was still nursing her son so she just figured that was the reason for a lack of menstrual cycle.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:23 PM
 30 Oct 2005
 Why do you want to know?
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A life long friend of mine had this happen 8 years ago with her third. Didn't know she was pregnant until she went into labour. Had her period and gained less than ten pounds which she thought was from Halloween candy. Not a big girl by any means. I saw her two weeks before she gave birth and she didn't look pregnant at all - in fact a male friend commented how hot she was! No denial here and a super intelligent person (book and street).

Her full term baby was delivered by the first emergency responder on site who happened to be a fireman. I always thought the people this happened to were morons until it happened to her.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:29 PM
 24 Jul 2008
 Vancouver Island
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A friend found out she was pregnant a half hour before the baby was born. She thought she was having an appendicitis attack. I have a picture of her when she was about 8 months along. You would never have guessed she was pregnant. She had irregular periods and baby was really quiet. She had tested but they were negative.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:31 PM
 1 Jan 2006
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Yeppers, my second cousins common law wife. She went into labour with abdominal pain and came out with a baby..... It was very late into her second pregnancy as well.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:35 PM
 14 Feb 2007
 North Delta, BC
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I know someone who didn't know with BOTH of her kids until she was 7 months along.

There's been 2 notable ones in BC lately too, my SIL knows the one who had her baby on the West Coast Trail.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:44 PM
 3 Jan 2009
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I knew someone who didn't find out until she was 7 months along. She was a bit heavier and didn't show at all, and she said she had irregular periods and spotting throughout the pregnancy, so she didn't think anything of it. She had an oddly positioned placenta so couldn't feel a lot of movement. I think a lot of factors added up to her missing it.

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 31 Oct 2011 6:47 PM
 27 Oct 2009
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A neighbour of my parents!

She didn't find out until she was like 38 weeks or something and went for a physical at the doctor.

My mom saw her a week or so before she found out, and she certainly didn't look any different than normal.

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 31 Oct 2011 7:17 PM
 4 Oct 2007
 Lytton, BC
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A girl I went to uni with didn't know until she went to the hospital because she felt ill, and the GF of a guy I went to uni with had the same thing happen. She thought she had the flu.

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 31 Oct 2011 7:50 PM
 6 Jul 2009
Ariela
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I know someone who didn't know until she gave birth on the toilet. She was actually on TLC's I didn't know I was pregnant recently as well. She's a bigger girl and had irregular periods and didn't think anything of it.

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 31 Oct 2011 8:16 PM
 2 Feb 2006
 Alberta
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I went for a prenatal massage recently and the RMT told me found out she was pregnant with her 2nd child at 35 weeks and delivered the following week. She was the talk of the town for a while after the baby came!

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 31 Oct 2011 8:44 PM
 4 Feb 2011
 Ottawa
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DH and I know someone (he went to school with her and I worked with her later on) who was admitted to the hospital for an appendectomy and just before surgery they realized she was, in fact, in labour. Apparently it happens 'like clockwork' in my hometown. I personally can't imagine how it could happen (given my experience) but it seems more common than we realize.

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 31 Oct 2011 9:29 PM
 18 Jul 2006
Dazed
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Oh my god, I know it's Halloween but these stories terrify me. Even worse than zombies.

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 31 Oct 2011 9:44 PM
 30 Aug 2009
_Kate_
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My older sister was 5 months when she found out. She was married and had pcos, they had given up on trying for a while, then she went to the dr to get Provera because it had been a while since her last cycle and they made her do a hpt and it was positive. It wasnt until the dating ultrasound that she found out she was 5 months.

My friends cousin had a baby while she was on holidays, she thought she was coming down with a travelers illness and came home with a baby!

It's almost scary to me that so many people have heard stories like these!

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 31 Oct 2011 9:53 PM
 30 Sep 2006
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A girl I used to work with didn't know until she was about 5 months. She had never had a regular period in her life so she didn't think anything of spotting/missing periods...she was also told she could never have kids. She only went to her doctor because she was sure something was dreadfully wrong because she was getting migraines and felt sick all the time....nope...no serious illness...just pregnant.

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 31 Oct 2011 9:59 PM
 26 Sep 2011
kejeto
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My co-workers wife was 3 days short of 8 months when she found out. Well, that was their best guess of the gestational age. She has PCOS, had a regular for her period, never gained an ounce and had minimal symptoms. However, the symptoms were enough for her to POAS TWELVE times and all were negative. Finally she got a tummy virus that wouldn't go awsay so her Dr sent her for blood work.

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 31 Oct 2011 10:13 PM
 4 Apr 2006
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This happened to a girl when I was in high school. She was tall and really skinny. One day I noticed she hadn't been in school for a while so I asked a friend about her. My friend said that she had had a baby a few days previously. She totally didn't look pregnant and I guess she didn't know she was either until the baby was born.

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 31 Oct 2011 10:17 PM
 29 Jan 2007
 Nova Scotia
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Just happened to my husbands coworker a few months ago! They were chatting as they left the office on friday, then comes monday and an email goes around saying "_____ had a baby on the weekend!".

It was her 3rd child and she had no idea at all. She kept saying she needed to start going to the gym because she was putting on weight.

I don't know how you wrap your brain around something like that!

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 31 Oct 2011 11:28 PM
 3 Nov 2006
 Laval (just north of Montreal)
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It always surprises me how many women this has happened to! (I feel so crappy during pregnancy, it's hard for me to fathom not knowing).

However, I know of 3 cases personally.

First, one of my co-workers from my retail job during university found out she was pregnant around the 7 or 8 month mark.

A family friend who was also told that she would never conceive found out late in her pregnancy that she was having a baby (some time after the 6 month mark).

More recently (last year), a friend of mine who suffers from PCOS found out she was expecting at about 14-15 weeks. She is a bit plump, is irregular and had been losing weight.

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 31 Oct 2011 11:35 PM
 8 Jun 2009
Siiera
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Wow, that's really freaky how common this is.

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 31 Oct 2011 11:46 PM
 19 Apr 2008
 Regina, *home* is E-Town!
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I'm super wigged out now. LOL

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 31 Oct 2011 11:48 PM
 11 Mar 2009
 the Centre of the Universe
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My cousin, she was over 3 months along when she found out. She had been told that based on her husband's SA, they would never have kids, so she thought she was maybe going through early menopause or was really sick when AF stopped.

I don't know anyone who has made it all the way until labour.

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 1 Nov 2011 12:10 AM
 3 Oct 2011
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This thread makes me want to POAS like, every month.

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 1 Nov 2011 12:24 AM
 1 Jan 2010
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Its hard for me to fathom not knowing. I get being irregular because Ive been irregular in the past and I get not showing since I wasnt showing until around 30 weeks. But between the endless morning sickness and extreme fatigue, Im sure I would have been to a doctor after a few days and pregnancy would have been the first thing she tested for.

I am also somewhat envious of these women. The first 5-7 months were the hardest for me. To skip all of that would have been wonderful!

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 1 Nov 2011 1:02 AM
 13 Aug 2006
 Calgary, Alberta
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Wow, it's amazing how common this is. I mean, obviously it's common because there is a TV series showcasing this problem, but it's interesting how many of you actually know people it's happened to!

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 1 Nov 2011 1:14 AM
 22 Jan 2009
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my friend was 17 weeks along with twins, when she was sent for an ultrasound to diagnose stomach pains.... She was shocked when the tech told her she wax having twins! She had taken 3 test with the doctor all negative....
the twins were born at 22 weeks ....

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 1 Nov 2011 7:45 AM
 1 Jan 2010
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I missed my entire first trimester with my first. (I found out at the end of 11 weeks). And I only POAS as a bit of a lark. In hindsight I likely could have gone to 22 or 23 weeks without noticing any outward symptoms or signs. I had no M/S or anything other than a general "malaise". (But after that there was no denying...)

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 1 Nov 2011 8:55 AM
 10 Feb 2004
 Russell (Ottawa area)
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I only found out at 12-13 weeks with DS#1. This after thinking it was a possibility much earlier on, but getting negative blood tests results.

As time went on and pregnancy ruled out, I felt better and then was feeling ill again and thought I might be dying.

That's when my doctor confirmed it was actually pregnancy.

I also have an aunt who didn't realise until she was almost 8 months along. She had her son early. The whole thing was a whirlwind.

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 1 Nov 2011 9:18 AM
 11 Mar 2005
 Niagara Falls
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Mine was as late in the pregnancy as some but with older dd, I was on the pill and we used protection and I was bang on regular. I was working 2 jobs and one my feet most of the day. I went to the docs because my feet were soo swollen.

Well turns out I was 4.5 months pregnant

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 1 Nov 2011 10:08 AM
 13 Aug 2002
 Toronto
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We got a phone call about 8 years ago from one of DH's friends who got married about the same time we got engaged. It went something like this:

DH's Friend: So... ummm... I just called to say... we're parents!

DH: Cool! When's she due?

DH's Friend: No... we're actually parents. Right now. As of yesterday.

DH: Oh. I can't believe you guys didn't tell me, man!

DH's Friend: Yeah... I can't believe we didn't tell ourselves, either.

Story goes like this... DH's other Friend (the wife) was having major abdominal pain and went to the hospital. Where they said, basically "you're in labour... how far along are you?" To which she replied "WTF do you mean I'm in labour? I'm not pregnant!" But sure enough, a few hours later, she delivered a healthy, full term (they estimate somewhere between 37 and 38 weeks) little girl. And then had to call the school that had JUST hired her and tell them she needed mat leave... immediately.

It happens. Some women don't have many symptoms... they don't feel much movement due to placental orientation and/or uterine orientation... they were never sick... they don't 'show' enough that it can't be written off as just weight gain... they either had irregular cycles to start with, or still have periodic bleeding... and HPTs don't work for everyone every time.

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 1 Nov 2011 10:11 AM
 3 Dec 2010
Emmanus
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Holy crap!!! Crazy how often this happens!!! DH has got to go get snipped!!!!

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 1 Nov 2011 10:27 AM
 28 Jun 2011
marieal
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I cannot wrap my head around how someone wouldn't know. I guess they are just really, really lucky not having any of the horrible pregnancy symptoms like gaining 70 lbs, sore boobs, puking, back so sore you cannot walk, stretch marks, horrible heartburn, swollen everything,emotional, as well as a human moving inside of your belly with legs and arms poking inches out of your belly, no period, bad skin, gas, and the list goes on.

How does someone "luck" out having NONE of these symptoms. I would think a person is really out of tune with their own body if they can't feel even one change.

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 1 Nov 2011 10:53 AM
 13 Aug 2002
 Toronto
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Let's see... I have daily back and joint pain. My doctor is aware of it... me mentioning it isn't a flag for him... I'm not pregnant.

I had GERD and frequent heartburn as a result of a diet plan (so that makes me overweight and prone to heartburn)... I still have periodic heartburn. It's routine for me, and for my GP at this point. I'm not pregnant.

Women with a diagnosis of PCOS and long or irregular cycles already might not twig to a very long cycle (hell, I know one gal who had a 300 day cycle and her GP didn't want to intervene)

And even some of the women on in this thread would have answered "no" to the question of "is there any chance you could be pregnant" because they were using consistant birth control.

You don't get it... fine. Perhaps you don't intend the judgemental and dismissive tone that's coming through in your posts.

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 1 Nov 2011 10:57 AM
 28 Mar 2010
sym
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marieal - I know what you mean. I know it must happen, but it's still so hard to wrap your head around. I knew I was pregnant within about 10 days of conception. The changes to my body were so immediate and drastic I had to be either pregnant or something was seriously wrong with me. On the other hand I know not all women have the same symptoms. As someone who just spent 2 months puking, I am flabbergasted when I encounter other women who never even FELT sick once during their entire pregnancy. But somehow it happens.

But I think the hardest thing for me to wrap my head around is not noticing the bump, esp. if the person is a healthy weight. I have never seen a woman and then was surprised to find out later she was 9 months pregnant. It's always so apparent. Sometimes women can hide their bumps from other people well with baggy clothing, but I have a hard time grasping how they can hide it from their naked selves in front of a mirror.

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 1 Nov 2011 11:44 AM
 10 Oct 2008
 Ottawa, Ontario
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My sister didn't find out until she was 4 months along...and she had been to her doctor two months prior as she wasn't feeling well & they didn't even think to do a pregnancy test.

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 1 Nov 2011 11:49 AM
 22 Jul 2010
 USA
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I didn't know I was pregnant with this pregnancy till I was 11 weeks and 5 days when they did an ultrasound and I actually saw the baby moving around.
I was still BFing DS and hadn't got my period. I did get sick only once and thought I had food poisoning. No other symptoms. Then I thought I could feel movement in my tummy and decided to go to the doctor's office and get tested. They sent me in for an ultrasound the same day and we were really surprised. :-)

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 1 Nov 2011 12:28 PM
 11 Mar 2005
 Niagara Falls
DeniselovesMike
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@@Tanky - have you called your doctors office yet?? Get in there and request a beta test and u/s

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 1 Nov 2011 12:46 PM
 4 Dec 2003
 Toronto, Ontario
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Ditto. I totally have everything Tanky has too . . . now I'm afraid.

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 1 Nov 2011 1:59 PM
 26 Nov 2009
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Makes me want to POAS too.

My moms friend just found out she was expecting. She had a missed AF but thought it wasn't really anything...she was on BCP. My mom get's this strange sense and told her to test. I am not sure how many weeks she was, but she was in her second trimester.

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