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 It's a Girl! Documentary

Has anyone seen this?

[video:youtube]http://youtu.be/ISme5-9orR0[/video]
synopsis: In India, China and many other parts of the world today, girls are killed, aborted and abandoned simply because they are girls. The United Nations estimates as many as 200 million girls are missing in the world today because of this so-called "gendercide".
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ISme5-9orR0

It's incredibly sad, and it made me think of a recent thread in GE that discussed witholding gender ultrasound results until at least 30 weeks into the pregnancy to avoid the abortion of baby girls. And whether that was ethical or not.

And I don't know how I feel about the woman who admits she killed 8 of her babies because they were girls... I am disgusted by her actions and yet I feel so much pity for her at the same time.

Thoughts?

{For some reason the video isn't embedding?)

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 28 Jan 2012 10:46 AM
 13 Jun 2005
 Toronto, ON
aw2006
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I think the practice of killing female children is disgusting. In some provinces they will not tell you the gender, you have to pay for one to get that information. I think BC is one of those provinces.

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 28 Jan 2012 10:58 AM
 25 Oct 2007
 Alberta
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I won't watch the link- I don't want to be upset and crying for the rest of the day.

However, obviously there's no way I can understand the cultural influences that would influence me to the point I would kill 8 of my children. I'm sure the video explains these more, but I can't imagine what that must be like. I wonder if anyone on here can imagine what it's like to grow up that way. Nothing could make me kill my child- what must it be like to live within a place/culture SO strong and pervasive?

This is one of those topics that makes me feel SO thankful to grow up in/with the place/people I did.

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 28 Jan 2012 11:02 AM
 13 Aug 2002
 Toronto
FriendsFirst
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The video doesn't actually explain the cultural influences. It mentions Birth Control Policy, but doesn't go into it... and it doesn't make any mention of the societal realities that significantly limit the income potential of girls and the expense associated with providing an 'acceptable' dowry that could potentially bankrupt a family.

But even taking those things into consideration, I find this heartbreaking. There are so many people in the world who would do anything to have any child at all. gonnacry

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 28 Jan 2012 11:16 AM
 26 Aug 2005
 Toronto, ON
honeybee
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My heart breaks for some of those people in the trailer.

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 28 Jan 2012 11:36 AM
 2 Dec 2007
 Mississauga, On
kalua80
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When I clicked on the link I thought it was that the woman aborted 8 times when she found out it was a girl. I can not believe they actually kill them and bury them right beside their village.

I am not oblivious to the fact that we do have some people that find out the sex just to aborte if it's a girl. But I am happy that the percentages small and that most just want to start planning room and baby clothes.

My heart go to all those woman that are forced to give up their lo and toll those little girls that got killed because of their gender.

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 28 Jan 2012 12:19 PM
 26 Jun 2009
 Montreal
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Someone very close to me was "ordered" by her husband to have an abortion if the ultrasound revealed a girl.

It was a boy, and their marriage didn't last long.

I won't even tell you what happened when she got pregnant the second time.

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 28 Jan 2012 12:49 PM
 11 Feb 2007
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I would probably find this too rough to watch too but it is a sad issue. Complex, yes, and I do really have to wonder how effective policies regarding ultrasounds and gender reveals can be when there is so much more to the issue. Sure, you can force a family to carry a female child to term, but that won't force them to love and respect her and see her as a valuable member of the family if they wouldn't be inclined to do so. Simply ensuring that girls are born won't ensure they live in a society that sees them as equal contributors and worthy of opportunities.

I get there have to be short-term fixes as well as long-term ones, but isn't it more important to ensure that women and girls aren't seen as liabilities and drags on a family's wealth? I'm not sensitive to all the cultural issues here but I imagine that generally the reason boys are preferred is that they are seen as wealth generators. They get the lion's share of resources because it's seen as more important that they go to school, get good jobs, and support others. Girls, well, who cares about them, since they are just going to get married and take wealth with them? <-- until that type of attitude changes, I can't see there being much of a change in how female fetuses and babies are regarded.

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 28 Jan 2012 1:35 PM
 15 Jul 2010
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To those who say they can't watch the video, it is just a preview for the documentary. It's about 4 minutes long.

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 28 Jan 2012 4:15 PM
 2 Sep 2005
 Edmonton, Alberta
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After watching this, I got so upset that part of me wanted to strangle that mother just like she did to her 8 daughters. I can't believe she said it with a smile too. This is so disgusting and heartbreaking.

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 28 Jan 2012 4:20 PM
 15 Jan 2007
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It's really a shame that countries like that can't work something out with other countries to have those babies easily adopted by families who desperately want children but can't have them.

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 28 Jan 2012 4:32 PM
 2 Jan 2009
 Nunavut
MillyHa
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This entire thread makes me sad.

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 28 Jan 2012 5:40 PM
 11 Jun 2002
 Ottawa, Ontario
Nat&Phil
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All I can do is shake my head and shed some tears... gonnacry

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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
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