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 Skimpy kids bathing suits.... *shakes head*

I was at the public swimming pool with my young cousins and the little girl I volunteer with today, and I could NOT believe the number of young girls (younger than 15 years old for sure) wearing skimpy string bikinis. You know, tiny triangle tops tied with string, bottoms that barely covered 1/4 of their butt cheek and again, tied with string on the sides.

So skimpy, in fact, that I observed many many grown men gawking (which creeped me out just as much).

Now, I don't have kids, nor will I be. However I do have some strong opinions on our society and what kids are being exposed to. I was and still am so bothered that parents would allow their kids to wear such skimpy bathing suits in public!

When I was a kid, I was allowed to wear a bikini, but it was a "sport style" one with a top and bottom that covered more than enough (like this):



Nothing like what seems to be out there these days.

So.. am I old fashioned (and I'm in my 20s), or a prude.. Or does anyone else notice this craziness too?!?!!?

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 4 Mar 2012 10:13 PM
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I haven't noticed, but also haven't been around kids that age in a swimming type setting.

I used to have full piece suits, with cut outs on my stomach and back.. so it was kind of like a bikni, but had sides and the top part was similar to your sport bikini. I thought I was so cool.

Things like that creep me out, too. It bothers me when kids want to act or dress older then is appropriate. I'm probably a prude, though.

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 4 Mar 2012 10:16 PM
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It's rampant. Now, I my group of friends wasn't the 'over sexed' type but I'm pretty sure that there have been plenty of girls for decades who've bared far more than they should have. I think it's more socially 'acceptable' (for lack of a better term) these days because of media trends (think pop stars and their behaviour, reality TV ect). That doesn't make it any less disturbing.

And it doesn't stop me from saying the things I SWORE I would never say.

I really feel like an 'old' lady some days *ha*

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 4 Mar 2012 10:20 PM
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It really doesn't bother me at all.

I think I had more sporty type of suits when I was little (like the one you posted) but I probably would have worn a 'string' bikini should they have been in style back then.

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 4 Mar 2012 10:21 PM
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For some kids, it starts when they are one, and their parents dress them in bikinis. Why would it change when they are 13?

Funny, as I think dressing babies only in their diaper is better than a one year old in a bikini!

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 4 Mar 2012 10:22 PM
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 Around, SK
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Full coverage bathing suits don't seem to be out there very much. I'm not into the string bikini type thing, but my YDD ended up with a top that could possibly meet the definition, but covered the stomach. The bottoms weren't string, but bikini. It was hard to find anything for her tween-aged body that had the right proportions so that her breasts weren't fully exposed. It's darned frustrating. We got lucky about two months later in that someone happened to put a full coverage bathing suit that fit her in some clothes they were passing along.

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 4 Mar 2012 10:38 PM
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Gah, dont get me started. Why oh why do people think it is okay to sexualize young girls?

I have a heck of a time finding a bathing suit for my girls. Everything is a bikini it seems....and for my long torso girl who neesds a 2 piece...trying to find a tankini that covers her as much as possible is even harder.

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 4 Mar 2012 10:43 PM
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I don't know if it's all that new. I remember there were a few "string bikinis" in the kid section when I was a kid, and I remember my mom drilled it into myself and my sisters "not until you're older!" Mind you, I haven't been around the pools much lately so I can't say whether it's more popular now than back then.

Now that I am older, I have the same opinion that sexualizing young girls is a no-no. Although I'm probably a bit of a prude when it comes to clothing. Still though. Don't like it.

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 4 Mar 2012 10:52 PM
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We refuse to let my stepdaughter wear a string bikini anywhere but in our backyard pool - when it's just family there.

She thinks she should be able to wear it to swimming lessons! (age 11).

We've agreed to a full coverage tankini for non-swimming lessons, but, swimming lessons require a full bathing suit.

However.....the same message isn't being given at her other house....so, we actually have to check her bag if she leaves our house to go a friend's house to swim.

ON THE OTHER hand, I was given a bit of perspective about this when I talked about it once on another forum. Someone pointed out how great it was that an 11 year old wasn't embarrassed or ashamed of her body in any way and wanted to wear something like that.

it was an interesting point.

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 4 Mar 2012 11:10 PM
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It bothers me too.

I didn't wear a two piece until I was in my late teens.

My mom went shopping WITH ME for all of my clothes. So I was never making choices on my own about what was appropriate.

I love clothes...I enjoy dressing both of my kids in nice things! But this doesn't mean that my daughter will be wearing kid versions of adult clothing...

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 4 Mar 2012 11:19 PM
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It bugs me. We only put DD in one piece's. She can wear a bikini when she's old enough to buy her own!

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 4 Mar 2012 11:29 PM
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Yeah it bothers me to...

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 4 Mar 2012 11:54 PM
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What bothers me is when kids are put into clothing that restricts their movements and opportunities, whether it's because there's too much material, too little, or it's just poorly designed.

From the suits I've seen on kids at the pool here, I'd say an awful lot of swimsuits worn by young girls limit their ability to confidently jump into the pool, to do somersaults, to swim far and fast, and to go down the slide without worrying that things will fall off or catch.

That's just so sad because it basically restricts them to splashing around a little and that's it, while the boys get to do so much more (unless they're stupidly dressed, too, which some are---I've seen way too much young boy bum for someone who isn't a mom!).

Practical clothing = practical kids and practical can be creative, intelligent, and confident. I wish there was more practical clothing out there, especially for girls.

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 5 Mar 2012 12:21 AM
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I JUST had this conversation with DH yesterday. I have an 18 month old and I was looking for a new bathing suit for her. Last year she had a cute little full piece suit that was like a frog and one that was a strawberry.

The store we went into was a children's clothing store. Out of all of the bathing suits (about 25 styles) there were 2 styles that were full piece. I guess they're trying to start kids early on bikinis! Here is a sample of what the others were like:


This one (called a "teenie wahine") for a 2-6 year old:


or this one



I guess it could have been worse as the bottoms weren't string as well. The "ick factor" was just too much and I walked out. In hindsight I probably should have said something to the owner!

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 5 Mar 2012 1:01 AM
 9 Oct 2008
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Most of you guys are talking about children though, not teenagers like the OP. When I was 15 I was wearing a two piece. I don't think the trend then was to be quite as skin baring, and most 13-15 year olds didn't have womanly breasts yet, so it probably never looked as slutty as it does now.

I think in high school it's normal, for children (as in their mum picks out their clothes) it's weird. And kids want to play in the water, so they need something that won't move around.

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 5 Mar 2012 1:16 AM
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As a momma of a little girl I find this thread refreshing. I've seen other mothers be proud of the 'cute' bathing suits they've bought for their daughters that IMO were sexualizing a young child / woman.

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 5 Mar 2012 3:09 AM
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You'd be shaking your head at DD. I let her pick her clothes, including bathing suits. She has 3 or 4 and not one is a one piece. 1 is a rash guard and boy bottoms, 1 is a short tankini and the other two are bikinis. She liked the yellow ribbon on one and the dots on the other. I really really REALLY don't see the big deal. It's just a bathing suit. I'm not going to teach her that she has to cover every inch of skin or that she shouldn't **gasp** expose her belly.

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 5 Mar 2012 6:31 AM
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I'm never anyplace to see kids wearing these but coincidentally I did notice some disturbingly skimpy kids' bikinis at Walmart recently. It bothered me enough that I pointed them out to DH and asked what he thought, and he didn't like it either. I think his first reaction was a disbelieving "Whoa!"

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 5 Mar 2012 6:53 AM
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I definitely thing we're talking about two different things if we're talking about young kids and older kids.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with a little toddler girl in a frilly cutesy bikini.

If we're talking about older kids, I can see how it gets trickier. I agree with comments about the practicality and chance of a malfunction with the suits, and that's the message that the kids should be getting about why they're not appropriate for swimming lessons. The comment about men gawking at these kids makes me squeamish though. Ick. That's the guys' issue, IMO. If a guy can't help himself from staring at little girls, he should get out of that pool immediately. Go wait in the car.

I did see some sweet one-piece suits at the gap for little girls though if anyone is looking. They were beautiful.

Here's a link...I think they're all appropriate:

http://www.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=64964


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 5 Mar 2012 6:56 AM
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 Ottawa
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Tell me about it! I have trouble finding "non-sexy" suits for DD, and she's 3. I don't want my preschooler in a leopard-print triangle top! It's not the two-piece thing that bothers me, it's the fact that they look a bit Victoria's Secret for a kid. As for me, I don't think I wore a two-piece until I was an adult, but it was basically because I was an awkward kid.

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 5 Mar 2012 7:41 AM
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I had this issue just yesterday. DD is THREE and I had a rough time finding her a bathing suit that I deem reasonable. If my kid is going to have a two piece, it will be a t-shirt/short combo. Period. Otherwise, it's full coverage. DH thinks I'm over sensitive about a lot of things when it comes to my parenting style but on this topic, we agree fully.

I wasn't allowed to wear belly tops when they were in style (love the 80s). My mother wouldn't buy them. So I couldn't wear them. I feel the same about skimpy bathing suits.

My kids will get to pick what they wear. But as long as I'm buying the clothes, DD won't own skimpy bathing suits and DS won't have shirts were swear words of anything else offensive.

To be clear, I'm not judging parents who are okay with them. I'm just saying what is right for my family.

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 5 Mar 2012 7:53 AM
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Hmm, I find this whole discussion very culturally foreign to me. Growing up, under NO CIRCUMSTANCES would we be allowed to wear a two piece of any sort. There would be no difference between the kinds that are more the sporty/full coverage types posted above or a string one. Both would be considered indecent, period! I have never worn a two-piece bathing suit in my life; probably some of that is just body consciousness generally but also they just scream "I'm trying to be sexy" to me.

So I think perspective really matters...some people see a string bikini and think "sexy," while others see a cute little girlish bathing suit. Especially because little girls' bodies are just so not-sexual to those of us who are, you know, normal. (Obviously this isn't the same as a 12 or 13 year old who picks out/is marketed a skimpy suit for the purpose of being sexy.)

I have to say, though, that the ideas of lame and leopard print on a bathing suit or frankly ANY type of small children's clothing is totally skeevy.

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 5 Mar 2012 9:38 AM
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For me it's like Dazed pointed out, the impracticality of the suits for actually SWIMMING and moving around freely. Even the gap suits posted above (and I love gap for everything but swim suits)...ties behind the neck, one strap suits? I just don't get how that's fun or comfortable. I always feel bad for the kids pulling their suits out of their bum constantly or hoisting up straps and adjusting their suits.

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 5 Mar 2012 9:38 AM
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I think there may be some misunderstanding with my original post.

I wasn't saying bikinis are BAD... I was saying that i was bothered by super skimpy string bikinis on KIDS younger than 15, which, I feel, inherently sexualizes them.

I'm not judging anyone.. Especially grown women who choose to wear bikinis.. I'm just stating something I observed.

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 5 Mar 2012 9:40 AM
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I wish that the sun weren't an issue. I'm all for kids playing outside naked (at least at home where there are no pervs). No I'm not just saying that. Unfortunately my blond-haired, blue-eyed, translucent skinned DS and only slightly darker DD will never know that pleasure due to the sun.
My only issue with the bikinis is that they're impractical for vigorous play unless you don't mind the aforementioned nudity that may result from two 3-year old playing outside.
I think that in North America we're too obsessed with bodies and I think that makes things worse. If we didn't care, then would it matter if a child where in a string bikini, athletic two peice, one piece, sun suit, etc. When I see kids in bikinis, I don't think sexualization. I think practicality, and sun safety, and sometimes I think about the cute bathing suit and the baby chub.
With teenagers, it is all about HOW they wear what they wear. The more we obsess, the worse it is. In countries where EVERYONE wears a bikini, it isn't generally a sexualizing issue, it is just what you wear to the beach. Where it is an issue that focusses on the body, you can read the body language on teens wearing the bikinis. They're trying to be older, more mature, more attractive in a not-age-appropriate way. They're not active in them. They lie about. They try to be sexy. That's what bothers me more, not the clothing, but the attitudes and actions of the children.

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 5 Mar 2012 9:57 AM
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OMG rofl about the daughter wearing a 2 piece tshirt and shorts for a bathing suit. Imagine that poor kid; is it considered risque if her ankles show in a dress too?

I get the cultural thing to a certain extent but only because its not my culture.

I have absolutely no issue with them no matter what the age, the colour, fabric or whatever. I wouldn't be okay with a thong bikini unless of course I was in Europe or maybe Brazil(???) where they might be okay but this I'm not sure of.

And FWIW, I briefly took swimming lessons as a kid and wore a one piece; since then I've always worn a 2 piece bikini, more often than not, triangle/string for adjustability. Since I've gained weight I have ONE 1 piece and I find it hot, constricting and just plain ugly. Both my girls have several string bikinis.

From Victoria's Secret alone I have in their basic string style and I am not joking, black, brown, navy, red, orange, yellow, white, green, aqua, army green and cornflower blue (my absolute favourite) - they went on sale for $6.99 and I had a heyday. And that doesn't include my Roxy's and Billabongs.

Last count I had 54 bikinis I think. No, I am not exagerating but ask how many I wore last summer blush

And one more thing - belly tops were not the 80's.

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 5 Mar 2012 10:10 AM
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^ Yeah, I don't get what the big deal is....I bought my baby the cutest little 2 piece with ruffles last summer, and plan on getting her another bikini this summer. She will be at the cottage and the beach all summer, so she will have a few bikinis.

ETA: My 15 year old niece has walked around in a bikini all of her life at our cottage...so do all her friends...they aren't "string bikinis", but I really don;t see that much of a differnce if the top is held together by tie up strings or a tiny piece of fabric.





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 5 Mar 2012 10:13 AM
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I don't like them - but I am pretty biased - I used to work for children's aid and heard too many excuses of "look what she was wearing" as an excuse for molestation - no matter what the age (yes, it is sick, but those words stick in your brain - so no baby or toddler bikinis for my family)

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 5 Mar 2012 10:43 AM
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There are plenty of active people who manage to make it work with bikinis...

Surfers...beach volleyball players...waterskiers... Some wear rashguards on top, some don't.

I don't see a huge big deal with kids in bikinis either. I think a toddler in a 2-piece with a diaper hanging out and even the top half falling off is far less problematic than say a toddler wearing full makeup, a dress, heels, etc. for a pageant.

That said I've seen the pre-teens and teens at the local pool in their string bikinis and it definitely makes my stomach flip to see the old men "gawking" at them. Let's be fair though----I'm noticing too. Just because I'm looking doesn't mean I'm some pedo. I think sometimes it's more like a "wow, I wish I had been that confident and fit at that age."

Anyway. To each their own---whatever is comfortable and hopefully flattering.

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 5 Mar 2012 10:51 AM
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My little nephews, nieces and cousins all wear suits with sleeves and shorts. They look like little surfers.

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 5 Mar 2012 10:52 AM
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Parents who are okay with their young girls wearing skimpy bathing suits:

Would you still think nothing of it if you knew they picked it out because they thought it made them look sexy? They didn't choose it because it has a pretty ribbon bow, they chose it because they want to look sexy. Is it still harmless?

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 5 Mar 2012 11:24 AM
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I think it depends on the age, This is the bathing suit my ODD wore in Mexico last year,

I brought a few actual bathing suits but this is how she was comfortable. Her sister was a lot more covered up but that was only because I wasnt as comfortable coating her in sunscreen ( she was only 6 months) and so she wore a bathing suit that covered her from her elbows to her knees.
As far as Im concerned children should be comfortable and my kid hates clothes.
I would feel differently if she was older, at that point i dont think its appropriate to be naked or half naked in public but i doubt most girls would be comfortable with it at that age anyway.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:52 AM
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I don't like bikinis on children, because, to me, it it purposely somewhat covering (and in doing so, also drawing attention) a part of the body that doesn't have to be covered at a young age since there is nothing there to hide (the breasts).

Having said that, I wore what MrsFillier's DD is wearing in the picture throughout my childhood (until I was 7-8 maybe), so it was in a sense more revealing than a bikini (not hiding the breast part), but to me it is way more appropriate because it makes kids look like kids. Once I started developing in the upper area, I wore one-pieces.

I don't think my parents ever thought about what would look "skimpy" or what not, I think it's just a cultural thing. I'm from France and when I was a kid, the vast majority of young girls wore just a bottom and then went to one-pieces. Two-pieces are for when you actually have breasts and are old enough to decide what you feel most comfortable in (if it's a one-piece then so be it).

My DD has been wearing a one-piece at the indoors swimming pool (keeps the swim diaper in place when she jumps) and a bottom only/swim diaper with ashort-sleeve rash guard on the beach/outdoors swimming pool.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:54 AM
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I won't put DD in bikinis. When she's older and wants a 2-piece I'm not going to ban them, but string bikinis will be out until she's an older teenager. Those darn things don't stay in place, and I don't like the over-sexualized look on young kids.

Right now, for indoor swimming, I've got one pieces for DD because they stay in place. For outdoor swimming, I get the sunsuit-type because DD is uber pale like me and I would rather she be covered up than have sunscreen slathered everywhere.

For swimming lessons, I will ALWAYS insist on a one-piece. Other kinds of suits don't stay in place at all and the whole point of swimming lessons is to learn to swim....not spend the whole time tugging at your bathing suit.

If other parents choose to put their children/tweens in bikinis, that's their prerogative, but it's not something I'll do.

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 5 Mar 2012 12:05 PM
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Quite honestly, even DS doesn't go to the pool without a rash guard/sun suit. He's just too slippery without one.

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 5 Mar 2012 12:18 PM
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For me, my comfort level for my 4 yo DD is to have her in one piece bathing suits or the full coverage rashguard top and bottom. Both for the sake of of comfort during her swim lessons and sun protection when we're outside.
And she does her fair share of running around nekkid outside when the mood strikes her with her best friend who's a boy and they chase each other screaming 'naked naked naked' giggling hysterically. I have no problem with it.
I think putting 2 triangles over her chest would suddenly say 'hey this is where my eventual boobs will be' and it makes me cringe as it takes away from her being a child.
That being said, I don't mind the solid across bikini top as they seem less offensive to me.

I brought my 11 yo niece shopping a few years ago for a bathing suit and encouraged a one-piece for a few reasons.
The cut and colour of the suit was extremely flattering on her and to me, it seemed like she could continue being a kid for a while longer without the added aspect of dealing with gawking at her body parts. It's an awkward age and I think the one piece let her feel pretty without feeling exposed.

Now that same summer my 14 yo nephew had friends who were girls over swimming at their house while we were there. They had on skimpy bathing suits. I found the string bikins eye-catching so you inevitably are staring at a 14 yo's chest even when you don't want to be. But whatever - if they're comfortable, you move on.

We'll see how DH and I feel about what DD wants to wear at 9, 11, 14, etc. when the time comes - who knows if rashguards will be a regulated item of clothing against melanoma by that point!

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 5 Mar 2012 12:55 PM
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Stop everything. Lock the post. Marieal and I agree on something. WB really must be ending. geek

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 5 Mar 2012 1:17 PM
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Uggg I hate seeing little girls in itty bitty bikinis. I have a 12 year old and she would never dream of wearing something so skimpy, due to her dad and I not letting her and because she wouldn't feel comfy in it.

But... Her best friend wears the skimpiest of skimpy bikinis and her mom buys them for her. They just went on vacation and the mom came over to show me the two bathing suits she bought for DD's BFF and my jaw nearly hit the ground they were so skimpy and the mom picked them out all on her own for her.

This little girl is only 11 and already throwing her self at boys and dressing little a little tramp daily. Her mom seems to have no issue with it, but the dad does but no one listens to him. I worry about DD's BFF all the time and that she is crying out for attention in all the wrong ways.

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 5 Mar 2012 1:47 PM
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I think rosedale is referring to a little girl who probably doesn't get enough positive attention at home and looks for it elsewhere. Apparently by dressing skimpy and being overtly sexual with boys. I think its sad. I think rosedale thinks its sad and worrisome. I think we should all quit picking apart her less than stellar word choice and see what she was actually trying to say.

I think there is a big difference between girls who dress in skimpy clothes because thats what they liked when they were at the store and ones who do it because they are craving attention.

I think that the men who are apparently staring at these little girls in bikinis are the problem, not the girls in bikinis.

I don't see anything wrong with a girl in a bikini. That said I have two little boys so I don't have to worry about these things.

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 5 Mar 2012 2:47 PM
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Both DH and I are not into babykinis, and I think we will have a very difficult time if DD decides as a teenager if she wants to wear a bikini. I grew up with the whole "It doesn't matter how cute you look, people judge you based on what you wear" school of thought, and like it or not, that includes bikinis. I also think it kinda sexualizes the kids before their time. That is just me, though, and to each their own smile

Besides, there are cute enough little one-pieces that keep me happy smile



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 5 Mar 2012 6:42 PM
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I think that picture is just for the "goofy picture" type thing. All that kid would have to do is poop ONCE in the pool and that'd be the end of that bikini.

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 5 Mar 2012 6:43 PM
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Judgemental thread ladies! Those who dress their kids in bikinis are over sexualizing their kids and those who put them in rashguard/shorts type suits are too prudish. Well, call me a prude! I put my DD in full coverage suits when playing outdoors because she has such fair skin. She gets pink after a few minutes in the sun so covering her is important.

I fully agree with the PP's who mentioned practical clothing. DD has a few regular suits as well but can't wear them very often (unless she's in a pool but even then the full suits keep her warmer).

I buy her suits are regular kids stores (please mum, childrens place, gap, old navy, etc.) so they're not hard to come by.

I also agree that the reasoning behind a younger girl in a bikini is important. Wearing it because it looks cute is different than wearing it specifically to attract attention.

DD wears stuff like this:






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 5 Mar 2012 7:29 PM
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I don't think people are being overly prudish. I do think that some people are over thinking things. I just don't "get" it I guess.

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 5 Mar 2012 8:50 PM
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So I asked DH at what age he would deem it acceptable for our daughter to wear a string bikini. The answer I got was 'NEVER!'

rofl

Then, I asked him what he believes is appropriate swimwear for her to wear: "A t-shirt. No wait, My t-shirt. That way no one gets to see anything, and make sure it's black too."

rofl

FWIW, I don't see the practicality of a string bikini, no matter the age. But when she is older, if that is what she wants, we will discuss why and if she gives me good reasons, i'll let her try to talk her daddy into it.

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 5 Mar 2012 9:26 PM
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This whole thread leaves me feeling weird.

First of all, I think the OP was more talking about girls from the ages of 12-15 wearing bikinis, not very young children.

I don't know. It feels wrong to me to say to young teenagers that they shouldn't wear a string bikini because 'grown men' were looking at them. Those men are the adults in the situation. They are the ones who should know it's wrong to leer at young girls.

From re-reading the OP, they were at a swimming pool, not walking along the street or in a mall. There really isn't a more appropriate place to be wearing a swimsuit. Like a PP said, a young girl walking to the store in her bikini is different than being at a swimming pool.

It just feels wrong to me to say that we're sexualizing young girls by allowing them to wear a swimsuit that some people might find risqu. The men in that situation were the ones doing the sexualizing. Teenaged girls shouldn't be taught that if you wear something skimpy you're inviting people to objectify you.

People were awfully quick to jump over a PP who called her DD's friend a tramp. But isn't that we're basically saying with this entire post by saying that young girls shouldn't wear bikinis?

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 5 Mar 2012 10:09 PM
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I kind of gathered from the OP that we were talking about the pre-teen/tween group (like 10-14). Not babies, toddlers and little kids. While I may not agree with a parent's choice to dress their little girl in a skimpy bikini (read:non-sports type) it's simply a difference of opinion. When we are talking about the 10-14'ish age group I have concern that parents are kidding themselves about the true reason their child chose the string bikini over the sporty bikini over the tankini over the one piece. They are making their choices based on what they think looks sexy.

This isn't new. It was the same when I was a kid. It's just a difference in the amount of coverage (or not) that represents sexy. I picked out my first bikini when I was 10. It was what we'd consider 'sporty' today, but back then it was one of the skimpier bikinis you could find. If my parents had the slightest clue that I picked it out because I wanted to look sexy or grown up you bet your [censored] they'd have refused to buy it. I just think a lot of parents need to wise up. Kids are not as innocent minded as they often appear to be. Take a look around at what society is feeding them.

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