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 Do you talk to people on a plane?

I flew home today from Winnipeg. I was seated next to a gentleman who was very nice but also very chatty. I like to get settled on a plane and spend the time reading or napping. I'm one of those 'nice' people so I felt like I had to be engaged in the conversation the whole time because I didn't want to be rude. But, really, all I wanted to do was relax, not make small talk.

Do you chat with your seat mate on a plane/train/etc. if you're not traveling together? How would you handle this situation?

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 5 Mar 2012 11:19 PM
 14 Jul 2010
 Cruising around...
Ms_Roc
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Usually yes - but if they don't want to and it's clear I don't.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:19 PM
 29 Apr 2007
 The Nuthouse
Sidney
Raving Lunatic
13,034
I'm not a big talker. To avoid it I stare out the window. Keep in mind though, if I don't stare out the window every second of take off and during any turbulence the wing will crack off and we will crash.

I don't fly so hot.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:26 PM
 30 Jun 2007
 Victoria
Tropical777
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I don't start the conversation but if the other person does, I am more than happy to chat away. Unless they give off a creepy vibe.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:27 PM
 6 Feb 2007
 Vancouver, BC
covemama
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I always keep a book open in front of me, even if I'm not really reading, just to send the message that I'm not there to chat! smile It's not that I don't like to be friendly but flights for me just aren't the place I like to spend time talking (maybe it's because there's no getaway if the conversation is terrible!).

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 5 Mar 2012 11:28 PM
 20 Sep 2005
 Victoria, B.C.
Sarah17
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Definitely not. I'm so not interested in making small talk with a stranger - I like reading my book and keeping to myself.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:29 PM
 20 Mar 2006
 GTA
Aquablue
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5,785
I talk a tiny bit maybe depending, but I then put my earplugs in or headphones, roll up my sweater put it behind my head and put a pashmina scarf over me.
People kinda get the hint wink

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 5 Mar 2012 11:29 PM
 7 Nov 2007
 Winnipeg, Manitoba
his.fallen.angel
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Nope. I listen to my iPod fairly loudly for this very reason.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:47 PM
 9 Aug 2010
 Sask
Mrs_P
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Nope. I have no interest in talking to people. I want to read my book, listen to my music and be alone. The problem with talking to strangers is that if they are annoying you don;t find out until it's too late. It's not like you can get up and move. For that reason I just don't open the door to small talk.

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 5 Mar 2012 11:53 PM
 25 Jul 2007
 Calgary, Alberta
AlphaDubb
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I hate flying so I need to focus on stayed calm not chatting with my seat mate. Although maybe chatting would get my mind off things?!

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 5 Mar 2012 11:56 PM
 1 Jan 2006
FeministSprig
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I will talk if someone starts the convo, but I try to end it as soon as possible.

This one time, the guy kept asking me questions,a nd staring over my shoulder at the games I was playing on my ipad. grr.

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 6 Mar 2012 12:00 AM
 11 Jan 2010
aime
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I suppose it depends on my mood.

I never am the first to engage someone. But if they start talking to me sometimes it is nice.

I used to travel for work and sometimes you see the people you chat with on the plane around and it's nice. I chatted with people on the plane to Prince Rupert then on the ferry thing and ended up going out for a meal with 6 strangers. Kind of a cross it off my bucket list kind of thing.

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 6 Mar 2012 1:17 AM
 13 Jul 2006
 GVA, wishing it was GTA
tjrocks
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30,378
God no.

And it's always the weirdos that chat me up, like when dh and I had just gotten engaged and the guy beside us was telling us how we were probably going to get divorced and how he was on his 3rd marriage.

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 6 Mar 2012 1:20 AM
 31 Jul 2009
 out in left field
jdfbride
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I'm an other as it depends. I generally make some small talk off the bat and if they seem cool and talkative, then I'll keep talking. I've met some really cool people that way.

Even when flying with DH, we tend to chat with our seat mates.

I'm just as happy to read so if my seatmate isn't chatting, I'll dive into my book.

I've learned that a lot of men like to chat in order to take their minds off their nerves.

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 6 Mar 2012 1:34 AM
 9 Sep 2009
 Calgary, AB
raisingirl
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I only will talk if spoken to first. Generally I am not a huge fan of chatting on the plane, but it has saved my sanity a couple times when someone has started chatting and we end up waiting out an 8 hour layover together, or a long delay or something. It's sometimes nice to get to know someone interesting.

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 6 Mar 2012 2:24 AM
 5 May 2007
 Hong Kong
airborne_mama
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Not if I can help it. I make enough small talk as it is. I don't need to encourage more.

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 6 Mar 2012 6:44 AM
 30 Dec 2008
 Nova Scotia
marsbug
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2,273
I'm an other. I generally do a small amount of basic small talk while sitting waiting for take off, unless the person gives off a complete no talking vibe. I sleep on most flights so I normally make some kind of note about how tired I am, or how I didn't sleep much the night before and that leads into a quick nap which shuts down any length conversation.

When I travelled a lot for work I tried not to engage in to much talk, as I worked for the airline. Plane conversation always went to "what do you do?" "Who do you work for". Made the mistake one to many times of noting that I worked for an airline and having to listen to an hour of complaints about how [censored] my employer was. I tried a few times to be vague about where I worked and just talked about what I did. Then had an FA make a comment about my employment with the airline in front of my seat mate... that was fun.

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 6 Mar 2012 8:15 AM
 13 Aug 2010
honeysher 2.0
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Never. I'm always reading including during take-off.

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 6 Mar 2012 8:18 AM
 5 Mar 2006
 Prairie Girl living in Switzer...
LadyTatiana
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I don't even like to talk to DH whilst we're flying let alone a chatty Kathy stranger.

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 6 Mar 2012 8:40 AM
 28 Jun 2011
marieal
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Nope. I open up a book and put in my earphones...they get the hint.

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 6 Mar 2012 8:49 AM
 8 Jun 2006
 Southern, MB
Qweenbeeof3
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Yup, I know I am that "annoying" seatmate that wouldn't "shut up". Although, if they give me signs they are not interested, I'll keep quiet. But I am a very nervous flyer, and when I get nervous, I talk...A LOT!

I have to say that in all my travels (DH and I dated long distance for almost 2 years, so there were a lot of flights involved) I have sure met a lot of interesting people, and have learned a lot from other people.

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 6 Mar 2012 9:19 AM
 24 Mar 2010
 Cambridge, Ontario
MoonCat
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I will talk if they initiate a conversation, but i won't go out of my way to begin one.

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 6 Mar 2012 9:31 AM
 24 May 2009
 Durham Region, ON
DayDreamer
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Other: I've never traveled on a plane on my own before, I always talk to the person/people I'm travelling with.

Although, that might change next month. I wonder what I'll do. Hmm...

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 6 Mar 2012 9:57 AM
 20 Oct 2003
 Ontario
MrsG2004
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The last time I flew I had the most annoying person beside me. When we landed they had nowhere for our plane to dock as we had arrived early I really had to pee and all he kept saying was this happens all the time and that we were never going to park and De-plane. I was sooo annoyed!!

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 6 Mar 2012 10:16 AM
 30 Sep 2006
LF4e
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I might say hello and do teeny tiny chit chat, but I would put on my headphones or start reading to avoid it if it got too chatty!

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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
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 6 Mar 2012 10:51 AM
 3 Oct 2011
Evie.M
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Not really, no. On our 2nd last flight (to Mexico) we had a particularly rough landing and I was bracing myself against the seat in front of me with my eyes squeezed shut (I don't do well flying), and the stranger beside grabbed my hand to "comfort" me.. Totally weirded me out. Ick!

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 6 Mar 2012 11:47 AM
 4 Jan 2009
 Grande Cache, AB
elizabethivy
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I'm going to sound like a major jerk but I *hate* small talk, haha! Whether it be someone on a plane, the cashier at the grocery store, someone looking at the same product at me in a store... can't do it. I am getting a lot better but I would rather people just let me read (if I'm flying), check out my groceries, or mind their own business.

Wow, what a [censored], haha!

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 6 Mar 2012 1:10 PM
 25 Apr 2011
 Where the heart is
WishingandHoping
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I would rather not make small talk but on a short haul flight I don't mind, but I usually pull my book out pretty quick.

On a long haul flight I do not want to make small talk. One time I was flying from Heathrow to Montreal and I had just broken up with my very serious (at the time) BF. I was just trying to mind my own business and cry quietly but the guy next to me would not stop talking to me about how he has just visited his GF and how things were fanstastic (even after I told him why I was so upset). Now on long haul flights I drug up and am off to sleep pretty quick.

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 6 Mar 2012 2:33 PM
 6 Nov 2011
SweetJade
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Nope - I keep to myself. A few years ago, I was doing a lot of flying so I kept my headset in all the time (even if my ipod was off). People seemed to get the hint - it was a trick I used in University when I would ride the bus everyday. Works like a charm.

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 6 Mar 2012 8:01 PM
 28 Oct 2010
kayaker
Rookie
56
I may have to use this against him.

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 6 Mar 2012 8:28 PM
 1 Jan 2010
Marlynmik
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No I keep to myself. Headphones help (even if I'm not listening to music).

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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
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