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 I Am So Mad as to What Has Happened to this Site

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Yes, I am. I've really laid off on posting or even looking here.

I am also pissed about the FB page/group.

DO NOT tell me to just leave. I have opinions and I can post them just like all the other junkies.

How is it that such a remarkable community has gone to pot? To hell in a handbasket? Who do you blame?

Throught the grapevine its been heard/said how "nice" it is here. 'Tis not - its' boring as hell. Last time I was at the FB group it was a crapload of regular members gone rabid.

"You" as a whole group - what is wrong with y'all? Tube Talk, Movies, Recipes, haven't checked books, has stalled right out and I could care less about Babybells because lord knows, "you" don't want me even viewing, nevermind posting.

As for the mods, I don't know whats going on behind the scenes but have you chased away the "best" contributing members and they've come back anonymous (I notice new user names). And thats another thing - WHY because of the switch over are all these new user names when you can tell they're not "new".

Is it only because CF decided to air their dirty laundry as carrot danglers to entice new members? It can't be just that can it?

I have been a HUGE participating member in many as many different ways possible - I've been helpful, curious, contributing, I've added personality to the forums, I've encouraged personality from other members and I think even successfully, I've asked all the right questions/all the wrong questions, instigated, encouraged, appreciated, and so many other things.

As a 'somewhat' contributing member, I ask, just WTF happened to these boards and the people who frequented them.

Its just a damn shame.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:08 PM
 17 Apr 2008
 Ottawa
MrsMuffin
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The Mods have not chased anybody away. If someone doesn't abide by the rules, the get warned or get a suspension. Those who left chose to do so by their own volition.

I agree the forums have been very dead recently but I think that those who left will be back. If not, there will be new members.

But sadly, I doubt it will ever be what it was.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:29 PM
 19 Jan 2012
 BC
GoodGrief
Rookie
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I think it's lovely here. The Confessional thread has been interesting and fun.

Sure, it won't be like it ever was. Same could be said for literature, language, the environment, TV, music...get angry, then sad, then accept.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:35 PM
 8 Oct 2008
 Halifax, NS
peggy_sue
Fan
938
I've heard a lot about this FB group but have yet to find/see it...
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 2 Apr 2012 5:37 PM
 8 Oct 2008
 Halifax, NS
peggy_sue
Fan
938
Oh and since the switch I find myself posting and contributing more, so I don't think all of change has been that bad, some of us more in the background posters are coming out.
And I think I'm kind of interesting.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:37 PM
 31 Jul 2010
omaki
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peggy_sue - It's a secret group and you have to be added by someone in it. I left after about 2 hours.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:42 PM
 16 Feb 2004
 Ontario
k&j
Guru
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I miss the busy-ness. Both WB and CanFam are slow moving.

And MH, I definitely miss you over in Tube Talk. Chattind AI just isn't the same.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:43 PM
 16 Feb 2004
 Ontario
k&j
Guru
19,764
Scuba, are you back on FB?
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 2 Apr 2012 5:47 PM
 16 Feb 2004
 Ontario
k&j
Guru
19,764
See you Wednesday.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:52 PM
 13 Aug 2006
 Calgary, AB
Raynn
Guru
19,688
Its a lull.. seems to happen every so often. True, this lull is a big one and a lot of people have left, but what can you do? They chose to leave.

No drama... no one has started any...
Some people are afraid to talk anymore for fear of what SJM might do with their posts. Others were looking for an opportunity to break their habit..

Meh.. People will come back. They always do, and in no time things will be somewhat "normal" again...


And the FB group was beyond belief. Way too much trash talking, and crass.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:53 PM
 20 Mar 2006
 GTA
Aquablue
Postaholic
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I have been wondering where you have been (hoped I didn't offend you in some way teeth ).

I miss so many posters, and wish that they would come back and just post.
Sure the CamFam ( I refuse to call it CF lol ) colour is annoying, but if you really loved the forum and people on here, then just post already! albeit maybe a bit more anonymously, but Post damnit! geek (hoping that the colour change is in the works.....). AND seriously, smile learn how to use the hop function, it is so simple to use (I know that I am flogging a dead horse with pointing that out, but I feel that I need to ).

I feel like it's a ghost town here, and it's really sad.
And yes, it is BORING AS HELL !! (maybe this is why I have been posting almost daily in the Gardening and Pools thread that I started in Home -- shameless plug whistleold ---- I just want to have fun and learn from people again. )

I don't quite understand the FB page /group (is that the page that the owners of the site tweeted about - with a very personal topic-, or is it the WB FB club/group?).
I guess that I just kinda missed all that, and then didn't ask until now.
If anyone cares to explain (pm me if doing so constitutes "rehashing old drama" ....).

I never ever thought that this place would become a ghost town. Never.
I don't understand really I guess.
Is it that people are so insulted by being forced into CamFam and that the tweeting of specific topic (.... even though it was posted publicly to the internet on a forum......) was the writing on the wall to finally make some leave the nest?
Did everyone just get their undies in a knot and then decide to leave?

I still wonder if this was the master plan by "Wedding Bells" to get us cling-ons to finally leave the nest!
Maybe (even though they created many forums to suit our wants) they just got sick and tired that there are more posts on here NOT about weddings (I wonder what the stats are on that) and just wanted to bring it back to being predominantly about Weddings........ do you really blame them? the forum may not be a business, but "Wedding Bells" is.............

It's all very sad frown I miss everyone (even the ones that I don't see eye to eye with )
I am not always on here, I go from periods of every day to nothing much for months (because of the nature of my work and seasons etc.)

Come back please! gonnacry
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 2 Apr 2012 5:57 PM
 13 May 2009
 GTA
muskn
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Dude, I'm still trying.

I really am.

I'm not giving up.. unlike YOU who's been MIA.

You wanna talk? Talk.

That FB group is way more boring then WB. The setup is just not conducive to a message forum.
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 2 Apr 2012 5:57 PM
 8 Oct 2008
 Halifax, NS
peggy_sue
Fan
938
Oh and if I do say so myself I have been contributing some HILARIOUS Gifs!

But most of that is probably due to the fact I fell in a damn dog hole at the park yesterday, spraining my ankle and have been confided to my couch with only my laptop and tv for companionship today.
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 2 Apr 2012 6:00 PM
 8 Aug 2008
MooseHead
Raving Lunatic
10,422
Ahhhhh, I see it now Peggy Sue. Yes, indeed you are interesting.

Totally underestimated you. After that big share, from now on all posts I see by you will be with my third eyeball.
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 2 Apr 2012 6:32 PM
 28 Feb 2009
 BC
Barkles
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Yep. So quiet all over now. There will be no one left to compliment the rest of my house reno's by the time they are finished. And what am I doing it for if not to post pics on WB's for approval? teeth

Aquablue, I will post some "during" pics tonight in the gardening thread. Pure destruction happening at my house right now!!

Although, I am much more productive at work these days.
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 2 Apr 2012 6:48 PM
 2 Jan 2009
 Nunavut
MillyHa
Postaholic
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I'm one of the ones who have been around a lot less than I was before the end of the boards. This might not make me the most popular person in the world but I'm going to say it how I see it.

What I have witnessed from Saint Joseph Media staff is probably the most poorly executed 'business decision' in their history. There is a reason their publications fold. It's been quite evident to me that the people they employ are not very good at their jobs. I've never seen such ineptitude in all my life.

Actually, I think what we see here is EXACTLY what they're happy to see happen. Two separate boards. A wedding planning board and a parenting board. They gave the lip service to members that nothing would change but the links and that's been [censored] from day one.

A lot of people fought very vocally to keep the boards the way they were. Admin in my eyes (whichever one is it today because since Old Admin left, it's been a rotating door) was one of the best 'yes men' I've ever seen. Strolling into a thread and putting people's fears at ease, pretending to take into account what everyone was saying. I will emphasize that TO ME it was nothing but the biggest scam. Every parenting magazine out there has an active forum. Canadian Family didn't. So rather than start one organically and put any effort into it, they figured they had BabyBells so why bother do the work? (This is all my opinion)

This is where I'll probably become unpopular. It wasn't the people fighting to keep the boards the way it was or the people who were 100% okay with what was happening that piss me off. It was the people who claimed they were INDIFFERENT to the change. I'm a pretty passionate person. Sometimes I get passionate about things that probably don't matter in the scheme of things (like an internet message board).

But, to me, indifference is a character flaw. I don't hold people to very high regard when they never have an opinion on ANYTHING. I can handle people disagreeing with me strongly. In fact, I encourage it. But indifference is what ruined these boards. So many people wanted to wait until the change to decide whether or not they liked it. I don't get that. Once the change is made, there's no going back. People jumped all over amberm and a few more for being so vocal about the switch. At least she stood up for something she felt strongly about. It's the people who agree or disagree with something but who don't ever take a real stand that bewilder me.

I also think, and again I'm talking about an opinion, that WB/CanFam is over modded. It's not the fault of the mods but the rules are too vague to enforce so EVERYTHING has to be enforced. 'Respectful and friendly'?!?! WTF does that even mean??? That is 100% subjective and it leaves way too much wiggle room on both sides.

The rules on what can and can't be posted in Misc caused drama after drama after drama and it was NEVER addressed by SJM where we were given a clear cut answer. How can one be expected to moderate when their rules are 'well, maybe, but not always'. The blatant disrespect that I felt was shown to the mod team (who held down the fort during MAJOR board crises - Malware issue, anyone?) was ridiculous.

The rules are are supposed to be for everyone but it doesn't always happen that way. Right after the whole mess happened I responded to two threads where my posts were edited or deleted altogether. As a former mod (just hours), I KNEW the rules and what was/wasn't allowed. I KNEW I hadn't crossed any lines. When I asked, I was told in an unfriendly and disrespectful way that I wasn't being 'friendly or respectful'. And therein lies a part of the problem. No one knows exactly what that rule means and what is stepping over the line. I maintain that my posts that were edited or deleted did not break any rules. Who exactly do I complain to? SJM has their heads up their [censored]. The mod at the time obviously thought I was in the wrong. So I either shut up and take it (because questioning a mod is against the rules, too) or I can leave. And when this happens people leave. We've seen it happen.

SJM doesn't care about these boards. Their actions have proven that tenfold. I KNOW it's an internet board, but when you take personal threads and use them for gain and hang longtime users out to dry, it's not a company that I have very much respect for.

I think the battle that followed the post about the question of the baby being born that happened here in Misc and the fallout from that contributed a lot to the boards being dead. I had convinced myself that WB was a community like no other. People had opposing opinions but we could all manage to be civil and get along. After that, I now fully believe we're not a community. People tore each other apart regardless of feelings or past relationships. What I witnessed that night on the FB page was no different than a pack of wild animals fighting over a piece of meat. Lord of the Flies comes to mind. How is that a community? People said the nastiest things - on both sides of the argument - and I don't think the boards can recover from that.

The people that stayed around are probably the people who didn't care much about the change anyways. And that's fine. I'm still here, too. I have a lot invested in MillyHa and I'm not yet able to just delete her and walk away from it. Threads ARE boring because everyone's being so nice to each other. The alternative we saw when people aren't all rainbows and butterflies has driven many people away. I still blame SJM because if they'd have made a rule (a REAL rule) about it years ago when it happened first, I don't think it all would have gone down this way.
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 2 Apr 2012 7:00 PM
 6 Jan 2010
Spiablie
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The change doesn't really bother me.
I am around just as often but man, we are lacking in action!
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 2 Apr 2012 7:21 PM
 9 Jul 2008
 Ottawa
RBK
Fan
932
ohmygoodness, and I just realized that photographers/proudmama/mommy2one seems to have left again - my life is not complete without her posts!! Now I'm mad too!
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 2 Apr 2012 7:36 PM
 8 Jun 2009
Siiera
Postaholic
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This place is awful now. It's so boring. I used to be able to kill some real time on here and now I spend maybe 1 minute in misc and 5 in BB. Tube talk, recipes, books all dead now. The FB group was slightly entertaining at first but now that's dead.

I can't see this place ever recovering and to be quite honest it seemed like it was headed down the drain before this change was announced. Of course it wasn't a ghost town like this but it was increasingly getting boring. But that's probably just because I was growing tired of it.

Oh well, I'll still use BB as a resource for info once in awhile but unless traffic picks up, this place is like all the crappy forums out there with no personality or active users.
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 2 Apr 2012 7:42 PM
 8 Oct 2008
 Halifax, NS
peggy_sue
Fan
938
I will agree the shoot the breeze portion has been pretty vacant.
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 2 Apr 2012 7:46 PM
 3 Jan 2006
 Whitby
diva.jen
Empress of the Forum
34,124
This whole split was such a colossal error.

Big mistake.

Big.

Huge.
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 2 Apr 2012 7:51 PM
 8 Aug 2008
MooseHead
Raving Lunatic
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Its been almost an HOUR since MillyHa posted probably the most important worthy post in a good month or two. An HOUR!!!

Two months ago 'you' people or whatever people are left would have been all over that post with a yay or nay and now, nobody has anything to say? To THAT?

My Gawd people. And you mods???? Ruth???? Especially Ruth - nobody has anything to add?

Nobody is clapping & applauding? Holy crow.

I probably have more to say but I just can't seem to form those thoughts into cohesive sentences at the moment; I might be back when and if I can.

You see, I am one of those who were really indifferent to the whole thing just how MillyHa described. I think that might be because I've always questioned the structure, backbone and integrity of the place right from the start even though I was in here like a dirty shirt for the longest time.

I honestly can't say how I feel but I can say I do fully agree with MillyHa and there should be a great deal more of you saying the same thing.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:00 PM
 13 Aug 2010
honeysher 2.0
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MH, I'm just reading MillyHa's post right now and I happen to think that she's spot on with her assessment on the subjective rules. It's like no one has the balls to actually manage the place.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:01 PM
 13 Aug 2010
honeysher 2.0
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6,182
As for BB being dead, I hang out there a lot and it seems, to me, to have the same amount of traffic as before. And, yes, I read all the BB boards, not just certain sections. So I'm not sure what I'm missing there.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:03 PM
 3 Jan 2006
 Whitby
diva.jen
Empress of the Forum
34,124
Moose, it's 'cause we've all said it before and it's being repeated for you since you missed it. tongueold I'm 100% behind what Milly's said, right down to the being invested part. And I suspect I'm not alone here - we've all just said it/agreed before.
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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
 buzzle.ca
buzzle
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Want to continue the discussion?

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 2 Apr 2012 8:04 PM
 2 Dec 2007
 Mississauga, On
kalua80
Postaholic
8,326
I have to admit, I`m not really here anymore. I barely come on WB but I just wanted to say a quick hello bye to all of you above.

I`m still sort of on here and I`m sure I`ll be back one day but I`m just not ready yet
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 2 Apr 2012 8:10 PM
 5 May 2007
 Hong Kong
airborne_mama
Postaholic
7,114
This is exactly what I thought would happen. Slow death. Boring boards. People drifting away because there is so little going on here. I come on a few times during the day but there is so little going on it's been less and less.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:30 PM
 13 Sep 2008
 Devon, AB
Wolfwillow
Devotee
2,082
I agree with everything Milly said. I use to spend hours on here just reading posts but now I'm not. I'm really hoping it's dead because it's a spring lull. I miss a lot of posters.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:32 PM
 9 Jul 2005
 Around, SK
LadyAurora
Duchess of the Forum
20,003
Why are we (the mods) required to answer to the membership for the actions of the company? Doesn't matter what I agree or disagree with, the fact is that they don't care either way. And nothing I say to you about it will change things.

I think a heck of a lot of bashing went on in the FB group and it hurt the general membership to witness or be subject to all the vitriol. I'm betting a lot of people had no idea how nasty people here could get until they went there. I left quickly because I've seen it before and didn't want to be part of it. Even so, the attacks came pretty darned quickly and, despite only being there for less than an hour, I was swept into one. I completely disagree with what went down and how. But that's no nevermind. I do think that the FB group left a bad taste in the mouths of a lot of WB / CanFamers. And I do think it contributed to people leaving. Was it the major reason, probably not. But it certainly capped feelings I've been having for a while.

As for the rules, we do our best to enforce them to the best of our understanding. I'll grant you, it sucks when SJM hasn't clarified things better, but we have a job to do and do it the best we can. Whether you like us or not, sorry. I don't really care anymore. I don't care much about anything nowadays. And I'll say, you may think me weak, but this place has contributed to my feeling that way IRL. You want to call me indifferent like it's a bad word, go ahead. Again, I don't care much anymore.

I'm just tired of being demonised for doing the best that I can in a thankless job. One that isn't appreciated by either the general population or the people we do this for.

This place isn't what it was. I admit that. And I'm not sure how I feel about it other than I'd rather that things hadn't changed. But that means diddly-squat in the grand scheme of things now doesn't it?
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 2 Apr 2012 8:32 PM
 14 Mar 2009
T&C
Duchess of the Forum
20,838
MillyHa, I love you. Seriously. Love.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:39 PM
 2 Jan 2009
 Nunavut
MillyHa
Postaholic
6,666
May I ask this, LadyA? What keeps you in the job? You say you are not a fan of the company. You say you're not happy with how you've been treated. You say it's a thankless job (and you're right). You say you've been feeling this way for some time. I'm not trying to start an argument. This is an honest question. What keeps you there? What is it that keeps you from walking away? It can't be 'giving back' to a community that has treated you so poorly. confused
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 2 Apr 2012 8:41 PM
 26 May 2006
 Saskatchewan
CrackelJam
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4,526
I'm still here, not that I'm a major poster or anything (I'm also on CanFam wink ). I kept myself out of the drama entirely. I'm trying to make the most out of what's left. I try not to become too invested in the boards because it's easy to get caught up in it. But I still miss the old WB a lot frown It had to be tough being a Mod through all this.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:45 PM
 9 Jul 2005
 Around, SK
LadyAurora
Duchess of the Forum
20,003
Right now, it's about loyalty to the other people doing the job. This place has been a haven for me in the past. It kept me going through some really bad crap. Maybe I'm just hoping that things turn around, because right now this place isn't feeling that welcoming. I feel like anything I post is going to be attacked, regardless of what it is. I've been feeling like this for quite a while. But, I love WB. As corny as that sounds.
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 2 Apr 2012 8:50 PM
 20 Aug 2008
EnragedCoconut
New Member
37
I don't enjoy drama. I like the fact that this forum now has less of it.

I have been posting more now because it seems to be less of a hornets nest to wade into.

The forum continues to suit my purposes which is something to read while i'm drinking my morning or afternoon coffee. Nothing more, nothing less.

To each their own.

EC
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 2 Apr 2012 9:17 PM
 27 Sep 2005
 Ladner
Lorelei
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5,583
Great post, MillyHa. I adopted the wait and see attitude to the change but definitely not a fan of the change.
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 2 Apr 2012 9:23 PM
 31 Jul 2010
omaki
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To answer Milly's post - a lot of us have been around for a few changes. We've gone through layout changes and board migrations and people are always up in arms (including myself!) when the change first occurs, but, in my time at least, it has always been cosmetic. I thought it was a bit ridiculous when people claimed that they would never come back because the forum was too pink - especially since there were other options!

I really believed admin this time when he/she said that the URL would change. I didn't see anything to get worked up about because the claim was that we would not even know which site we were on. Clearly that was either a lie or admin was writing cheques he/she couldn't cash. Either way, I don't feel that I let the community down by not speaking up. I just wish we'd been given more accurate info earlier on.
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 2 Apr 2012 9:32 PM
 31 Jul 2010
omaki
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Irie - I don't see that implication anywhere! I find it sad that people would make that type of assumption about themselves.
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 2 Apr 2012 9:33 PM
 2 Jan 2009
 Nunavut
MillyHa
Postaholic
6,666
I think we're going to have to agree to disagree Ruby. I hope we can do it respectfully because I'm not talking about you or any one person specifically. I'm not blaming people who were indifferent in the way that they're ultimately responsible. All that blame goes to SJM. But SJM, in my opinion, saw the indifference as a green light.

And my feeling that indifference is a character flaw is as much my right as it is for others to feel that my lack of willpower, for example, is a flaw I have. It's how I feel.

Totally unrelated -I wonder why someone notified the mods my first post in this thread. What rule was broken there?
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 2 Apr 2012 9:43 PM
 18 Jul 2005
 Lad.ner, BC
Bleuberry
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OK. I'm a generally boring, peace-loving type, but I'm going to rant here for a bit.

I get it - things are quiet. There are fewer people here, fewer posts, and fewer fights. SJM only delivered 1/2 of what they promised (in the good stuff) and then over-delivered in things nobody expected (bad stuff.) A lot of threads got locked.

Tensions were high. For weeks.

BUT...

We each can choose how we respond to a crisis. Crises can draw people together or it can rip them apart... it's the choice of the people involved. In this case, it ripped people apart. And frankly I think that speaks more to the character of the members than it does to SJM. Lots of bad things happen in this world, and if our only response is to run away and complain when something bad happens, then guess what? Nothing gets better!

Maybe I'm just granny Bleu over here, but what if (heaven forbid) instead of griping about how bad everything is, people chose to re-build this into what they love?

Countries go through cataclysmic disasters, wars, diseases, and tragedies. The survivors RE-BUILD. They grieve their losses, and they re-build their cities and countries... people have been doing this since time immemorial. It's not a new theory.

I wasn't ambivalent. I had a strong guess that everything would blow up and be awful, but I kept (and keep) repeating the same thing... over and over again: WB is what we choose to make it. SJM isn't this community - we are. So instead of griping about it, I'm... wait for it... POSTING stuff. Maybe not the coolest or most interesting stuff, but it's something... which is more posts than nothing, and which hopefully engages more people to come here and connect than nobody.

What if every bit of energy invested in griping about how much everything sucks right now was instead invested into re-building this place into what you love?

What if instead of complaining about how quiet it is, you posted something?

What if instead of grumbling about how boring and bland all the posts are, you chose to start a thread about something interesting?

I don't get it... if countries can re-build and come back stronger than they were beforehand, how is it SO impossible for a free internet forum to get back to its former strength??? How is it that SJM can rip something apart when they're such an absent landlord? Maybe - just maybe - it's not within their power to kill the forum. Maybe - just maybe - it's the members who have the power to either kill it or to re-build it.

Shocking idea: Maybe instead of complaining about the problem, we all BECOME the solution.

/rant
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 2 Apr 2012 9:49 PM
 31 Jul 2010
omaki
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1,941
Bleuberry - I can only speak for myself of course, but the reason I had to take a step back initially was not SJM. Of course, as I said, I felt misled.

But it was the FB group and some other posts that I saw on people's walls after all the drama went down that has "ripped apart" the community from my perspective. To know that on here, people are presenting one face and one story, while mocking people on FB.

So now, I'm just testing the waters, seeing who is about and how things are going down.

It's hard to rebuild a community when you've seen the members of that community express their "true" feelings about you or your opinions. It's hard to know who to trust. I'm not surprised that people are a little gun shy.
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 2 Apr 2012 9:51 PM
 26 May 2006
 Saskatchewan
CrackelJam
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Also, I'm glad I'm not WBcool enough to know about or be part of the FB page, haha.
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 2 Apr 2012 9:53 PM
 2 Apr 2005
cake
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So many said "WE ARE the boards! The forums will be the same because we're the same!". B.i.tches came out in force given the opportunity.
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 2 Apr 2012 10:07 PM
 5 Jul 2006
 New Brunswick
GreycieBoo
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I don't understand how you can say that because I didn't let some changes to an Internet forum get me all worked up and my knickers in a knot means I have a character flaw. That's one he** of an assumption to make about me (and those that chose to be "indifferent" for lack of a better word)
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 2 Apr 2012 10:18 PM
 2 Apr 2005
cake
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2,232
Don't you know Milly? Your opinion isn't valid unless it's of the majority. If there's anything I learned in this debacle ....
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 2 Apr 2012 10:52 PM
 2 Jan 2009
 Nunavut
MillyHa
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6,666
That's fair enough Greycie. I apologize if my feeling indifference is a character flaw offended you.

Many, many people questioned the characters of people who felt very strongly about the boards changing. Many statements were made about it only being the internet, saying that knickers were in a knot for no reason, asking why they cared so much, etc., etc. Wouldn't that be the same thing I did but in reverse?
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 2 Apr 2012 10:54 PM
 20 Mar 2012
momma.bare
Rookie
61
Oh dear God. Not this again.
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 2 Apr 2012 11:26 PM
 28 Jun 2011
marieal
Devotee
1,497
Was I living under a rock? Would someone fill me in on the facebook madness? Was it because of the thread that was down in BB's that was posted onto the CF facebook page or something like that?

I HATE the fact that you cannot post anything about past posts on here...so ridiculous.
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 2 Apr 2012 11:35 PM
 30 Aug 2009
_Kate_
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 3 Apr 2012 6:33 AM
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freckle-lee
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I left the FB page as quickly as I joined.

honestly, I think a lot of ppl left over the drama that ensued; not just because of what SJM did. I almost left over that. I seem to be oddly drawn to this place.

I did feel indifferent to the changes. I thought it wasn't a big deal let's see what happens. I was wrong. I don't care that it's a different URL, however it divided the community. then again what kind of community do we have after all that drama anyway. maybe it's a little boring around here. on the other hand, I finally have been able to remember posters who aren't being dramatic.

(for the record- I deleted "krys.ter" due to a stalker from another site.)

I love Bleuberrys' post. I agree instead of complaining; post something interesting.

MH- I've seen you that you don't like Would you eat it posts, you don't spins, you complained about us talking about tatoos and what we ate for dinner and coffee,
so what would you like to talk about??
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 3 Apr 2012 7:26 AM
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MooseHead
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One minor point about the 'cool kids' - YES it most certainly does feel like the cool kids are gone. Nobody is saying you, you or you isn't cool because afterall, 'you' say you're cool so I guess you're cool.

But its crap like this that makes 'you' REALLY uncool. And this place has been inundated with all these cool kids for quite some time.

Personally I believe half the problem is there are some "undesirables" (as opposed to uncool) that are half the problem. Top that with mods who support and appease them because if truth be known it is NEVER the majority that agrees with whiners and complainers about mundane things.

So who was the cool kid who alerted a moderator about Milly's post and why. A cool kid would own it.

Now, I will admit I never considered Tanky's explanation - it is quite a possibility but the nature of people has them whining and complaining, never complimenting. I myself have called my hairdresser when I've gotten home saying "hey Tony, I know people usually only call to complain but I just wanted to say I love what you did today - thank you". I've done this a few times and people are usually stunned because they're only used to complaints.

So there it is - the "notify moderator" cool kid.

Originally Posted By: Tanky
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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
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