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 Getting Over Fears

I know this has been talking about before - fear of flying.

I don't like it. Makes me nervous just thinking about it.

Well crazy me just booked a trip to Vegas where I will be meeting up with my friend. This means I have to do all the flying stuff alone.

What did I get myself into!

FIY, I don't think i'm bad enough to need medication. I think this is actually good for me to do this. I HAVE to be strong for myself or I will make a fool of myself haha.
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 19 Apr 2012 2:26 PM
 28 Jun 2011
marieal
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I justed signed up for a workshop about anxiety and fear of flying is my motivation for it. I need medication when flying and don't want to have to depend on it. CBT is the only way to cure your fear: medication is just a bandaid.

I feel your fear...I hate it. Look for a therapist that specializes in CBT and go and talk with them.

good luck!
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 19 Apr 2012 5:00 PM
 25 Jul 2011
I Love Nutella
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I used to travel ALL THE TIME, I LOVEd IT!!! But then I began to get anxiety when I was in university, panic attacks the whole works. I haven't gotten on a plane since because I somehow became scared of the idea of flying. Does this make sense? I don't know how I would feel once I am on the plane, but just the thought freaks me out!
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 19 Apr 2012 5:29 PM
 25 Feb 2009
 Ottawa
bridetobe2709
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Watching this thread closely! I, too, fear flying! I don't let it stop me (yet), but I really don't like it. Until we went on our honeymoon, the furthest I had flown was Florida (from Ontario) 3 hours tops. We went to Vegas on our honeymoon - 5+ hours. Very proud of myself ....

This summer I am going to visit DH in the Middle East (he's there working), so we are meeting in Turkey. Non-stop from New York City - 10 hours!!! By myself!!! WHAT am I thinking???? What do you do on a plane for 10 hours!!! What if I have a panic attack? What if there is turbulence and I have no one to dig my nails into???
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 19 Apr 2012 5:33 PM
 6 Jan 2010
Spiablie
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Eeek. I'm lucky my flight is two hours smile
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 19 Apr 2012 5:46 PM
 25 Feb 2009
 Ottawa
bridetobe2709
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Baby steps Spiablie!! You'll be fine! Take a Gravol - Im bringing a bottle!
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 19 Apr 2012 7:20 PM
 3 Jan 2009
zoobaby
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So I have a major phobia of flying. I've travelled all over the world and I still get anxiety whenever I get on a plane.

Part of what has allowed me to "conquer" the fear, so to speak, is that I am generally quite a logically-minded person. I KNOW that flying is safe - FAR safer than driving (actually, highway driving gives me anxiety too!) and I decided long ago that I would refuse to be paralyzed by an illogical fear. So even though I'm anxious and afraid, I made it non-negotiable not to travel. I can't even begin to describe what I'd have missed out on if I hadn't.

Now that that's out of the way, there are a few things I do. I make sure to take deep breaths and I repeat a word ("one") over and over in my head to stop the crazy racing thoughts.

If you're so inclined, you can tell a flight attendant that you're phobic, and they'll usually reassure you. You may also find that certain seats are better for you - I usually prefer to be at the front of the plane.

I also found this site very helpful. Every week they do a live chat where a pilot will answer your questions. I haven't done it in years but I found it useful when I first started travelling.

http://www.fearofflying.com/

Also, exposure to flying helps. When I lived overseas, between our long weekends on holiday and flying for work, I think I averaged a flight a month for two years. While that's probably not feasible in many situations, doing it over and over did make me feel better about it.

(Strangely, I flew a lot as a kid, and only developed anxiety as a young adult.)

Hope this helps. You know what they say: feel the fear and do it anyway!
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 19 Apr 2012 7:22 PM
 3 Jan 2009
zoobaby
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Oh, and about turbulence: I read somewhere that if you hit turbulence to picture that you're in a boat hitting some waves, which is less scary but really the same phenomenon in a lot of ways. Once you learn a little about the science of flying it helps, I find.
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 19 Apr 2012 7:26 PM
 25 Feb 2009
 Ottawa
bridetobe2709
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zoobaby - are you serious? You had a fear of flying? I actually thought of you when booking this flight to Turkey! I thought .... "Zoobaby went to Africa. Did she have these crazy thoughts? Probably not ...." too funny (or ironic). I have this opportunity over the next year to do a lot of traveling to parts of the world that I would never have dreamt of and I refuse to let this fear ruin it. Having said that, the crazy thoughts have already started and Im not leaving until August:(
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 19 Apr 2012 8:11 PM
 1 Jan 2006
FeministSprig
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If you are open to all types of ways to solve fears, there is a technique which is highly effective.

Its called Emotional Freedom Techniques, it involves acupressure.

Google it, and you can use it to help fears.
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 19 Apr 2012 9:24 PM
 25 Aug 2008
 Brampton Ontario
MrsFillier
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I was terrified of flying, until I became a flight attendant.
Yes, you read that right, I became a flight attendant.
During my training i realised how safe flying is, and turbulence is really nothing to be afraid of. We had a flight during training in which they took the plane up and flew in a way to simulate insane levels of turbulence way beyond anything you would actually experience, it was terrifying and eye opening.
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 19 Apr 2012 9:26 PM
 3 Jan 2009
zoobaby
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^The more I think about it, the more I realize that it is totally a control thing as well as vaguely OCD-like. I feel like if I don't maintain constant fear/vigilance, something dreadful will happen. It's like the level of anxiety I am feeling needs to be maintained so that all of my senses are on alert to prevent an accident. It's pretty screwed up.

I'm booked on a trip to Spain and Morocco later in the year, BTW, and I have to do it without thinking about the flying part!
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 19 Apr 2012 9:26 PM
 2 Aug 2008
The_Momma
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I'm terrified of heights, so planes aren't the best for me. To help me feel better about them, I'm going skydiving with the hubby for our anniversary. I think I'm going to pee myself, it's going to be terrible. We're going tandem though, so my jump master will be pushing me out of the plane, no way to back out of it.

I'm also scared of needles, so I'm going to be a surrogate. I've gotten a rough number of 73 needles I can be expecting to take, depending on the dosage though, I could go as high as triple that. Yeah, that ones a bit dumb.
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 20 Apr 2012 8:16 PM
 8 Jun 2009
Siiera
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I used to have no issues with flying and then all of a sudden I became really afraid of it and flights were terrifying. But I love to travel far too much to let that stand in the way. So for me I just kept getting on flights and after each one, the anxiety got better. Now I can't say I'm 100% better but I no longer freak like I used to.

One thing that helped was flying with DD. I know that's obviously not going to be an option if you don't have a kid but for me the distraction really helped as well as not wanting DD to pick up on my fear so she would feel safe. So I hid it well and forced myself to deal with the anxiety for DD's sake and it worked.

If you do want professional help, CBT can do wonders.
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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
 buzzle.ca
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