- I *think* FH's start date is negotiable?? I'm not sure. He's working for DND, and they seem to really like him. Even after all of the budget cuts and layoffs, he was one of 5 students who got to stay. He doesn't seem to find contracts as scary as I do. I mean, the job security isn't there.. On the plus side, I work permanently at an addiction treatment center, and keep taking on more and more responsibilities, so I think I'm pretty rooted there. We could afford for him to be unemployed for a short while until he finds new work if needed. Regardless, losing 2/3 of our household income is not on my wish-list! LOL!
Good luck with the dresses
Maybe a little heart to heart with your mom asking her to lighten the mood? Tell her that it's hard to see the positive through all of her negative comments. Chances are that she doesn't even really realize that she's doing it. How did everything go with the neighbour who does flowers? Did the web-less communication work better?Meechie
- Weddings bring out the best and worst in some people, it's too bad that you have to see this side of your FMIL, but better now than later, right? I'm sure your FH is relieved to get his feelings off his chest, sometimes our guys are too wrapped up in making us happy that they put their own wants aside. A common response from FH is "Are you happy?", I say yes, then he says, "then yes, I'm happy". When you get into religious stuff, it seems to be the trickiest of all. Hopefully meeting with the priest one on one will help you and FH find a middle-ground.. something that ties in what's important to him, and comfortable for you. I had to suck it up big time when it came to a church ceremony, because not a single part of it is 'me'. On the other hand, while it's more important to FH's family than it even is to him, it's just easier to do it this way and not have to hear about it for the rest of our days together. You should have SEEN the look of relief on his Nonna's face!Lysh
- Sounds like you had a scary week! Hopefully this is just a one time thing, and the R&R was what you needed to get back on your feet! Your hangers look amazing! Seeing what you ladies have done with hangers makes me really regret buying them, I assumed that the wire was more... stiff I guess and that bending it would be difficult. Besides, your wedding party will likely find it a lot more touching that you made it yourselves!Jules
- Sorry to hear about the family friend, cancer is so vicious. It's already come up pretty often for us, September brides, even though we haven't been posting for that long. Fingers crossed that there will be a cure in our lifetime.Auntieli
- Sounds like drama! Personally, I think it's hard to invite someone and not allow a guest if it's allowed for everyone else. How do you think the friend will take it if you suggest that his GF isn't welcome? Will it affect your relationship with him later? FH has a few friends that I would nix off the list if I knew it wouldn't affect us later. His partying single friends that get out of control, fast, are still going to be invited, but without guests. We're talking about 10-15 of them who all know each other though. We aren't actually inviting many unknown guests because most of our friends are couples anyways, but all of our single friends who are attending the dinner, not reception-only are allowed a guest. Sorry, I rambled a little.. but long story short: I'd invite his GF, and try to avoid her that day. honey_pie
- Your invitations look amazing! All that on a tight deadline!?
AFM: House is almost ready to move in! We got countertops yesterday, and hooked up the plumbing to the bathroom sink. I'm going in to paint trim and clean this weekend coming, hopefully to spend the first night there on Sunday. I took my first nap there today
Wedding wise, the coordinator got back to me with an awesome list to fill out. It's really helping me see what I've accomplished and what is left to do. The list is to help her create a timeline for the day-of, if any of you are interested in it, I could email you a blank copy to look over. It took a lot of weight off my shoulders. We went for our food tasting on Saturday, and it was AMAZING! Can't wait for everyone else to experience the awesome food!
I'm a little worried about the wedding party.. my MOH will be over 8 mos pregnant, this is her second, she's sure she'll be fine, and a bridesmaid is due about 2 weeks before the wedding. It'll be her first, and I don't think she has any idea what she's in for. I mean, I've never given birth, but have a bunch of friends who have in the last 3 years, and they're generally not ok for a couple of weeks. They're exhausted, still physically sore, and are still trying to get to know their babies. I mean, even if she has a smooth natural delivery, she's going to hurt, and if she needs a cesarian, she's definitely going to hurt! She's hoping to breast feed, and plays it off like she'll just need to "feed the baby for a half hour here and there".
What about the pictures? What about sitting at the head table during dinner and speeches? What about being awake and on your feet from the early morning hours until the late evening? I get it.. some new moms bounce back, but does it make me sound like a bridezilla when I say that this is our day, and it's NOT going to revolve around her and what her baby needs? I really wish she'd realize this on her own.
Okay, sorry for the novel, I need to check in and respond more often!
Hope you're all doing well!