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 Help Pls, dd only wants to sleep in arms!

Hi ladies my dd is 5wks, almost 6 and is loving the arms. she will be totally asleep but as soon as we put her in her crib, or playard or any flat surfaces she wakes up and we have to start all over again. We are hardly sleeping, please anyone has any suggestions or training. I have tried letting her cry for a bit but didn't work (only did it for 20 min).
Thanks so much!!

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 4 Feb 2011 7:25 AM
 2 Apr 2004
 Mississauga - wedding in CB
gotta_be_KD
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In those early days DD slept on me and in the swing the best. Do you have a swing? That can free up your arms. What about using a carrier/sling/wrap?

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 4 Feb 2011 7:33 AM
 18 Dec 2007
classy27
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yes we have a swing which she likes at times, but not all the time lately she has been waking up once she is put in it and stays in it for 10 min. before crying. We do have a sling which she sometimes ok wih but my main concern is at night time we need to sleep!..she is a good little sleeper, she sleeps 4 hrs at a time just not anywhere else but the arms!

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 4 Feb 2011 7:48 AM
 28 Oct 2007
heatherdb
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We had the same problem during her growth spurt, same time frame that you are in now. She would only sleep on DH! So she did, otherwise we would get no sleep at all. During the day I would attempt to put her in her crib for naps because then I wasn't as exhausted and could keep trying. She finally slept in her crib again last night!
I say do whatever gets you some sleep, so if that means letting her sleep on you for a few days then do it. You need some rest too!

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 4 Feb 2011 8:05 AM
 9 Aug 2006
 Ottawa
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My younger two LO's slept on us only as well, until 7 and 9 weeks when I was able to get them to sleep beside me. Are you swaddling when you try and put your LO down? Most babies just won't sleep on their backs without swaddling at that age because their startle reflex is so strong. You could also try warming the mattress, swing etc. with a hot water bottle or heat bag so it's not such a shock going from your warm body. You definitely don't want to be letting her cry at this age, sleep training is something that even the staunchest supporters don't do until 4-6 months minimum.

Are you able to sleep when she's on you? Perhaps your DH or someone else could take her for a while so you can do some catching up, too?



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 4 Feb 2011 8:13 AM
 2 May 2005
Maritime Mama
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I'll just echo Irish here...I was also going to ask if you're swaddling? Do you have a co-sleeper that you could put in your bed? Maybe it's the warmth that keeps her asleep.

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 4 Feb 2011 8:13 AM
 23 Aug 2005
 Milford, Nova Scotia
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DD only slept in my arms or on me for at least the first 8 weeks or so. After that she started to like the swing a bit more and we were able to get her to nap in there. We co-slept for nighttime until about 5 months when we started to transition to the crib.

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 4 Feb 2011 8:24 AM
 18 Dec 2007
classy27
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hi ladies yes I swaddle her but she likes her arms free so i swaddle her from the armpit down. We have tried the heating up the mattress and the shhhing petting her in her crib and it works but 5 minutes after she realizes she is her her bed and wakes up, same with everything else.
I do have a bouncy chair which I will try hopefully she will lke this.
Yah I hated it the cry out method, i think she is wayyy too little but dh thought it would work. we both agreed not to do it again. (it broke ours heart to hear her cry)
I'm nervous with letting her sleep in our bed I would rather not do this.
as for the playard she doesn't like it either (does not have a bassinet)..I was thinking of getting a bassinet since it's smaller it might be cozier for her.
thanks so much for your responses right now dd is on my lap sleeping while dh catches up on his sleep he stayed up with her until 430 am, so I can sleep

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 4 Feb 2011 8:43 AM
 31 Jul 2007
littlebride
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She is so little still, this stage will pass.... keep holding her if need be for both your sanity and soon she will get more comfortable with this big new world! Can you imagine how overwhelming it must be for them?

I had to hold my DS as well when he was that age... what I finally figured out is that he needed to be in a deep sleep before being able to be put down. Try doing the arm test... is her arm limp when you hold it up? If not she isn't in a deep sleep yet. Day by day it got easier to put my DS down and he eventually learned to fall asleep all his own. He goes down like a dream now so don't worry about bad habits yet!
Good luck.

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 4 Feb 2011 8:51 AM
 18 Dec 2007
classy27
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I feel a bit better hearing that it will pass, I just felt that maybe i was giving her a bad habit by letting her be on me and not her crib. I love holding her I just didn't want o create a bad habit. First time parents cant you tell?!!

littlebride-I have tried the arm thing and still she always wakes up, it's kind of funny as soon as her little feet hit the mattress she is up.

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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
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