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Looking for experiences for those who TTC'd and conceived when their LO was 1 years old, and are/or do have the gap of 22/23 months.

How do you like/don't like the spacing? Is your first LO in some kind of day care? Do you wish you had TTC'd earlier? Later?

Thoughts on this spacing would be much appreciated!
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 23 Mar 2012 10:40 AM
 29 Dec 2008
 Calgary
CateFace
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Dd is hard right now throwing baby in the mix.was harder., I wish we had ydd when odd was 18 months because she's just hit a nasty stage right now.

In the end it's fine and totally doable but I wish we had baby before this super rebellious stage happened
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 23 Mar 2012 1:54 PM
 13 Aug 2008
 Ottawa
MrsMS
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We have an almost 21 month age gap and it's so far been awesome, although I don't have that much experience with it yet. DD is obsessed with babies and is always interested in helping do things for the baby and knowing where the baby is. She hasn't shown any jealousy yet and I think is too young to really remember a time when the baby wasn't here. I think it helps having myself and DH at home so that she gets a lot of attention so that when one of us is with DS the other can give her lots of one on one.
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 23 Mar 2012 2:54 PM
 1 Jan 2010
chickypoo
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My girls are 22 months apart. I certainly don't wish that they wer any closer together; especially now that YDD is older (technically I don't even belong in here anymore *sniff*) I think it's an awesome gap!

The first 4-6 months were really, really challenging but I most of that was ODD's age/stage and not really related to YDD's arrival. It would have been a brutal time regardless and I don't think I would have coped any better had I been pregnant instead of having a newborn/young baby - I was lucky that YDD is a very happy, pretty easy baby. ODD adapted immediately, there was little to no real jealousy and I swear in a matter of days she'd forgotten her baby sister hadn't always been in the house with her!

I'm a SAHM so no daycare. DH took a couple months of pat leave but couldn't start until YDD was 2 months old so I was on my own fairly early with both of them. Some days sucked, some were awesome, just like when it was only ODD rofl

Also, personally, I found it much easier to still be in the 'baby' phase I was used to being up at night (ODD was getting molars, it was awesome sarcasm ), changing diapers, working around naps. Plus, ODD was used to us being home in the afternoon for her nap so it hasn't been an issue to keep staying home for YDD. YDD gets carted all over hell's half acre every morning when we do play dates and classes and whatever and has since she was a week old, so I've always made sure to give her one good nap in her crib in the afternoon.

I'm really looking forward to this summer and beyond, as both girls are close enough in age that they'll enjoy the same sort of activities and trips. I'm already convincing DH that we need to do our first Disney trip in 2 years so we can go to a princess tea party laugh

Also, I'd start TTC at the low end of your 'ideal' spacing because you never know. We were so blessed to get pregnant right away so we had 2 under 2 but I have friends who wanted a bit of a bigger age difference and then haven't gotten pregnant as fast as they thought and suddenly it's a much, much larger gap than they had hoped for.
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 23 Mar 2012 9:03 PM
 16 Dec 2005
 Ottawa, ON
emmy_jayne
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Mine are 21 months apart, and I found it to be a challenging age gap. If I were to do it again I would probably aim for them to be a bit further apart, at least 2 years. I had a real hard time leaving the house the first 4 months as my DS did not like to be put down and would only sleep in my arms, and my DD was going through phase where she was a rotten terror in public (always trying to run away, laying down in the middle of the crosswalk, refusing to hold my hand, fun times when you have a bucket seat on the other arm!). Of course that did not stop me from powering through and going on our regular playdates/activities for DD's sake (and mine in terms of adult interaction), just made it a little more of a workout!

In terms of jealousy when DS arrived there was little to none, DD just kind of ignored him most of the time.. our difficulties were more due to both kids being at hard/weird stages! Then as soon as DS started crawling and being able to reach 'her' toys, my DD learned the "that's MINE!" phrase and it all went to crap! LOL We still have daily struggles with her being too rough with him and being possessive of her toys.

That being said, I believe I am paying my dues and am getting the baby/toddler stages over in one swoop and the close age gap will pay off in the long run! At least that's what I tell myself to not go crazy some days! Ha ha ha They do have their loving moments where I see that they don't ALWAYS hate each other so that helps too smile

ETA: No day care for my kids, I am a SAHM smile
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 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
 buzzle.ca
buzzle
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