2nd+ timers: How did you introduce your LOs?

So I'm starting to think now about when we bring LO#2 home.

How did you introduce your two children? Was it a good or bad reaction?

DS will be 23ish months when this one is due. He says baby and touches my tummy but I think he just knows the word and not that there is a real baby in there that is going to be born and steal some of his attention. LOL.

I have no idea how he will react when we bring home his sibling. He's not a very clingy boy but who knows... I need some tips!
 20 May 2012 7:52 PM
 29 Jul 2005
 Ottawa, ON
vancy pants
DD was 28m when we brought home Q. She woke up for a normal day at daycare. We got her dressed as usual. I was in the bedroom with the newborn and DH told her that there is someone here for her to meet. He brought her into the bedroom and there it was. She was a little confused (went to bed with no baby and woke up with a baby) and she wouldn't say his name. She was very curious.

She ended up going to daycare with no hesitation and when she returned, she wanted to know where he was and what he was doing.

She totally adores him now. It was a slow start but she came around.
 20 May 2012 8:54 PM
 20 Mar 2012
ODD was 27 months when YDD was born - she knew all about the baby coming and was excited about being a big sister. My parents took her for a sleepover when I went into labour, but she didn't know the baby's arrival was imminent. My parents brought her to the hospital the day she was born, and my husband went out to the waiting room to get her (we really wanted it to be just the four of us when they met for the first time) - she was SO thrilled to see her and 'hold' her, and perfect timing, the nurse came to give YDD her first bath and ODD got to 'help'. It was a wonderful moment. She's been amazing ever since.
 20 May 2012 10:42 PM
 21 Jul 2008
My friend held DS and he watched DD be born. He was in bed with me about 5 min. later to meet her. He tugged at her hair, touched her head and said "baby". It was very sweet. He never said baby to my belly again. He was 20.5m old.
 22 May 2012 11:53 AM
 11 Sep 2009
We had a home birth and when my contractions started, DH moved DD (almost 3 years old) in the basement to finish her night.
YDD was born at 535am and when DD woke up at 7am, DH went downstairs and asked her if she remembered where her sister was, she answered "in Mommy's tummy". He said "yes, but guess what, she's out now, do you want to go see her?". DD ran upstairs and right away wanted to give her kisses and hugs.
ODD has been in love with her ever since.
 24 May 2012 8:45 PM
 16 Dec 2005
 Ottawa, ON
DD was 21 months when DS was born. She would point to my belly if I asked her where "baby brother" was but I don't think she really understood before he was out. When we came home from the hospital DD was there (she was being looked after by my parents in our home), she was so happy to see us and didn't even notice the bucket seat. I told her "Baby brother isn't in mommy's belly anymore, he's here now! Do you want to see him?" She was very curious and kept pointing at him and saying "baby!" but after about five minutes she went about her regular routine as if nothing had happened. His being born was really a non-event for her, for the first six months of his life she barely paid him any attention. I mean she would go give him a kiss if I asked her to, or if I asked her where DS was she would point to him, but she didn't really seem to care that he was there, even when I was nursing or cuddling him for hours on end. I was surprised since she was very attached to me before and I thought for sure she'd be jealous! It wasn't until he started crawling and stealing 'her' toys when she started paying more attention and getting jealous... that's when all hell broke loose. wink She loves him and thinks he's fun to have around nowadays but they also fight a lot!
 25 May 2012 1:26 AM
 4 Dec 2005
Similar to Emmy, we brought home DD in the afternoon, DS (20 months at the time) woke up from his nap and we asked if he wanted to see the new baby. He went into her room, took a look and walked out. No big deal. He didn't care much for a long time. When she started crawling he started being really annoyed with her. Now they are inseparable and love each other to death.
 25 May 2012 12:13 PM
 2 Mar 2009
Great, thanks for the comments ladies. Seems like low-key is ideal.
My DS is really active and so I am hoping he just goes on and does his own thing as normal. But I can also see him being a bit jealous that we're not 100% focused on him...but this could just be in my head/my own worries.
 25 May 2012 1:10 PM
 15 Jun 2006
 Sudbury, Ontario
ODS was the same age as your DS when YDS was born. In the months prior to his birth, we talked a lot to him about the baby in mommy's tummy, what it meant to be a brother, what the baby would be like etc. We had the book "I'm a Big Brother" by Joanna Cole I believe and read it to him a lot.

I went into labour in the middle of the night and YDS was born in the morning. My mom stayed with him in the morning and then he went to daycare that day. We were home with baby by the ned of the day when ODS came home. We had prepared a gift to him from "baby brother" (train tracks and Thomas - his favourite thing ever). He was actually super excited to meet baby, and has been wonderful with Kieran every since. He always wants to be with him, and is really great and loving and gentle. That could just be his personality though.

I continue to tell him what a great job he is doing as a big brother and how much I can tell Kieran loves him, and I let him help me with taking care of YDS (passing me diapers, picking out clothes, helping with the bath etc.). I couldn't have hoped for a better transition, really, but I do think it might change over time (e.g. when Kieran starts becoming more mobile).
 28 May 2012 1:51 PM
 18 Apr 2012
New Member
DH brought ODD to the hospital and she walked into the room and said "where is my sister?"

She was almost 4.
 31 Oct 2012 11:59 PM
 30 Apr 2012
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