Fly.
You get to take 2 items for free for baby, plus you can gate check your stroller. Plus babies fly for free. Travelling with a infant, especially for a short 2 hour flight should be easy peasy.

For every 2 hours of driving take account for an hour of stopping- feed, change, let the baby kick and play. Your 12 hours drive turns into a 18 hour drive, and if the baby is cluster feeding expect a 24 hour drive

Also take into account you might have stitches from a tear or a c-section which could make sitting for that long uncomfortable.

My DD was just under 3 months the first time we flew, I agree with the PP - fly. It really wasn't difficult and she slept most of the flight, way more than she did when we flew with her at 5 months. To be honest though, I wouldn't have flown with her at a month (or driven that far), I was just getting comfortable with taking her out of the house for short outings at that point, let alone the ordeal of traveling, not to mention staying somewhere that wasn't home for any length of time.

Ya, I agree with Aquax. I tore quite badly and sitting wasn't comfortable for long periods of time would not have been easy for me. Plus, a bled for 5 weeks so frequent bathroom breaks for me would have been important at a month PP. DD was really small (6lbs 5 oz) so I was too nervous to go on a long road trip in case an accident happened (it was entering winter on mountain passes tho) and DD hated the car seat and wanted to be snuggled and was known to cry her head off even only when in the car for 10 min. She also was cluster feeding a lot at that age. Oh, and some babies can take 45 min to breast feed. Mine didn't but some do. And my baby wanted to eat every 2 hours when not cluster feeding.

I'd say fly too. Westjet if you can...they are amazing to parents...very helpful and supportive of you being there. Oh, and while you might be nervous away from home with your baby....I had to leave my house all together for 5 weeks when my mom went into hospice when my DD was just under a month old. Its totally manageable to be away from home...you're going to be in a learning curve whether you are home or not...if you really want to go to that wedding I say do it. Family and friends will be willing to help you and at that age baby is so adaptable.

We regularly drive 8-9 hrs one way to our home province. There's no way in hell I would have done a 14+ hr drive with DS last week. Just thinking about doing that is exhausting. And DS is a pretty easy, eats-well/sleeps-well baby.

I would fly, or break up the drive over 2 days if you really must drive.

I flew with baby at 5 and 7 weeks and it was super easy. She slept in my lap the entire time. Oh and I was travelling alone. I've flown many more times since and it gets a bit harder the older she gets.

I did a 10 hour drive, broken up over 2 days, at 12 weeks (granted this age is quite different from 1 month) and it was hell. It took 14 hours and every time baby woke up (every 2 hours) she'd immediately scream at the top of her lungs and we'd pull over at he next off ramp so i could feed her (luckily she was a very fast feeder at this point). Then i was stuck changing her poop explosions in my lap because we were on an off ramp, or a really crappy gas station. I can only imagine it would have been worse with a younger baby. The same drive at 8 months was quite easy.

Boo. And I thought babies liked car rides. I'm sure there was an 80's sitcom that had an episode in which the dad had to drive around the block all night so baby would sleep.

I was planning a 13 hour drive (over 2 days) at Christmas this year when my baby will be 1 month old. Hmmmm....

It's not that babies don't like car rides, it's that they need to eat so frequently and at a month old, they're not usually quick eaters. My LO was still taking about 45 minutes to eat when he was a month old and then he had to be burped and changed and then repeat everything in 2 hours.

Fly. We flew with DD when she was 3 weeks old. With Westjet, you can bring 2 baby items (carseat, stroller or playpen) for free. Get to the airport early, take advantage of preboarding, and if you can choose your seats, choose the window and aisle (less likely that someone will choose the middle seat, so you may end up with an extra seat.)

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