Re: Goodbye WBs...For real
Goodbye WB. Thanks for helping me obsess over stationary, countdown the days, complimenting my pictures, keeping me busy when I should've been working, supporting me...
Thanks for helping me obsess over stationary, countdown the days, complimenting my pictures, keeping me busy when I should've been working, supporting me through pregnancy hormones, seeing me through the sleepless nights, helping me open a business, getting me through more sleepless nights and crying babies, helping me close a business and move to a new country and keeping me entertained through the whole thing.
Thanks for friends and knowledge and and wonderful wasted time.
Re: Was hubby in the wrong?
Being lucky that you have inlaws who love their grandchild and want to spend time with her and having inlaws who push the boundaries and...
Being lucky that you have inlaws who love their grandchild and want to spend time with her and having inlaws who push the boundaries and become intrusive are not mutually exclusive. You can appreciate the former while being frustrated by the latter.
I HATE drop ins. Especially when home with a kid. My house is not clean. I'm seldom wearing an appropriate-for-company bra. I probably have plans, even if those plans are staying home and having a quiet morning.
I've turned my in-laws down for plans when they've informed me they've made them at the last minute. I get that wanting to take the kidlet for an afternoon is a nice thing. But it's also a thing that impacts me, and often when made at the last minute, winds up being more inconvenient than appreciated. Like, last year - they would generously offer to take the kids to their friends pool...later that day. Leaving me scrambling to wash swimsuits and towels, pack sunscreen, round up Puddle Jumpers, adjust plans with their auntie that were made previously, shift my errands to be waiting at home whenever they arrive back, etc. That doesn't negate the swimming itself being a nice, fun thing but it takes into account that life with kids usually means less flexible plans, fun being always being prepared, etc.
If they ASKED instead of informed, that would help - then I could actually take advantage of that kid-free time and get stuff done. Or have a few precious hours to myself. I could find a time that doesn't impact nap time or previously made plans or anything else. THEN, that offer to take kids for a few hours could be positive for everyone and not just my inlaws, you know?
Anyway - I don't think that drawing those lines makes you ungrateful. I think it makes you smart - you are preventing yourself from becoming resentful.
Whoa. This sort of childish, board-on-board nonsense just screams high school. Stop it. Grow up. If you don't like it here, stay away. If you...
This sort of childish, board-on-board nonsense just screams high school.
Stop it. Grow up. If you don't like it here, stay away. If you don't like Buzzle, stay away.
But this obnoxious "I'm in the cool kid club" foolishness, it's gotta stop. There is no Buzzle versus WB - we were all the same community. And that's the way it should stay. So, c'mon. Grow up.
Re: Is it faux pas to not wear a bra in the gym?
I sort of think that once one becomes a grown up, one should typically wear a bra when out in public. Just as a general...
I sort of think that once one becomes a grown up, one should typically wear a bra when out in public. Just as a general rule of thumb!
Re: WWYD- A Mother's Day FAIL
Okay, so here's the thing. You know he's not affectionate or sentimental, so it can't come as a surprise that he bombed Mother's Day, right?...
Okay, so here's the thing. You know he's not affectionate or sentimental, so it can't come as a surprise that he bombed Mother's Day, right? That doesn't make it okay, by any stretch but I always think that since we can't control the behavior of other people, we have to manage our own expectations and basically protect ourselves from disappointment.
So, personally, I would have asked him directly to get up in the morning rather than done it and felt resentful about it. And I sure wouldn't have let him sleep in and then cooked breakfast for everyone because that would have made me extra crabby. I think that rather than expecting the unlikely and being disappointed, you either need to accept that he's going to suck at this stuff, lower your expectations and spend the day happy instead of resentful, or tell I'm exactly what you expect and give him the chance to do it.
But hoping he'll do something he's really unlikely to do and then feeling disappointed when he doesn't - well, it only hurts you, you know? And it's Mother's Day, for god's sake - you shouldn't spend it unhappy.
And I don't think that any of this means you need to have a crappy day, either. If he's not going to do it, do it for him. Make yourself a spa appointment. Make arrangements for him to take the kids and go to his mother's (because let's be honest - what we all want for mother's day is an empty house!). Make brunch reservations and let some one else cook everyone breakfast.
It sucks that he's not willing to make the effort and I definitely think it merits a discussion about expectations, but I think that should happen before the disappointment, not after when it's too late.
And do exactly what you planned for Father's Day - it's not healthy to make it a tit for tat thing and frankly, what's going to make more of an impact? Doing nothing just like him, or showing him how a little thoughtfulness can make a huge difference?
Re: Landscaping estimates - what's "reasonable"?
I hate gardening, landscaping and anything of the sort. Detest it. Would rather pay a billion dollars than DIY it. (And we're pretty hands on...
I hate gardening, landscaping and anything of the sort. Detest it. Would rather pay a billion dollars than DIY it. (And we're pretty hands on people - we've renoed all of our houses ourselves hiring out next to nothing.)
We ridiculously thought we could maintain our yard at our current house...it's a disaster. Overgrown, I don't know how to maintain the dozens and dozens of different flowering plants and bushes, I don't know what's a weed and what'll become something amazing, I can't prune!
The gardener is coming Monday. Much to the relief of my yard.
So, I'd pay just about anything for some one to do it for me.
However, if you do want to tackle it, we almost DIY-ed it in one house we owned (we moved instead) with the help of a landscape designer. I get exactly how overwhelming it is, and we didn't even know where to start. I mean, how do you even begin to figure out what to plant where (shade, sun, amount of water, how big it will grow, when it will flower, how long will it take to reach full size, how much work will it take, what special requirements does it have to grow...so many variables that it's hard to even know what questions to ask!) let alone how to do it?
So, she came in, toured the yard, asked what we were looking for (any types of plants we wanted, the feeling we wanted to achieve in the end, what our trouble spots were, our intended maintenance level, etc. She measured out the yard and sketched up a plan. She knew what would grow where, when it would bloom so that the yard looked good all year, what everything would look like individually and together in the long term and how to make it look good while it was getting there, what species to use and what common ones to avoid for our area and soil type (regardless of what the garden store has on special), where to buy everything at the best price, and what time of year to buy it, what materials to use for the hardscaping from budget options to higher end ones and so on.
The sketch included exactly what plants went where (along with notes on each one) so we would know exactly what to do. She tailored the whole plan exactly to our skill level. And suggested what we could truly DIY (all of it if so inclined without much more than sweat with the great plans) and what we could hire out for the least amount of money.
Had we not sold the house, that plan would have saved us a TON of money. We wouldn't have killed at least the first round of plants, we would have utilized all of her budget tips, we NEVER would have come up with such an amazing, clever plan because we don't know a darned thing about plants and more importantly, we would have actually done it instead of doing a halfassed job and then getting frustrated.
So, that might be a really good option and then from there, you can figure out what you can capably DIY and what you should hire out.
Re: Black/dark brown trim?
I love black interior doors, but I think you need the right house for it. We're thinking we'll do it to the home we own...
I love black interior doors, but I think you need the right house for it. We're thinking we'll do it to the home we own in Canada. I like the look of black trim, too, but having retrimmed an entire house, the thought of painting and possible one day repainting that trim...shoot me. I spent DAYS in our unfinished basement with a mini roller, developing blister upon blister painting thousands of linear feet of trim.
Here are a few pics:
Also, this home builder always does painted trim in different schemes. It's usually very contemporary, and it looks great in person but definitely trendy - just a different look: Pics of painted trim
Re: What Nail Polish Colours do you LOVE?
Damnit - I really wanted Hayden! Glad I didn't get it. I absolutely LOVE Helena. I'm not usually a bright nail polish person, but I...
Damnit - I really wanted Hayden! Glad I didn't get it.
I absolutely LOVE Helena. I'm not usually a bright nail polish person, but I got it in my intro box and it's the reason I stayed a Maven. It's so saturated - it's going to be my go to pedicure color all summer. My toes make me smile.
So...how do you shave your legs?
I'm a grown up. I've been shaving my legs for many years. And I'm clearly still doing it wrong. I have very pale skin. And...
I'm a grown up. I've been shaving my legs for many years. And I'm clearly still doing it wrong.
I have very pale skin. And I do not tan. My leg hair is not particularly dark but is noticeable against the pale, pale white.
The problem is that I get little red bumps/ingrown hairs/irritation from shaving. So, my legs are either stubble-y or just red/spotty/blech looking. Both made more noticeable by the paleness.
I've tried various different razors, shaving creams, combos of the two, etc. But I'm open to anything!
So, what am I doing wrong? Do you shave or wax or what? How do you deal with the growing out period for waxing (or, in my case, the bumps/ingrown hairs/irritation gets worse if the hair is too short - seems marginally better if I go longer between shaves)?
Re: White Kitchen's are all the rage??
I agree with everyone else - pick what you love. Your kitchen is never going to play with the other kitchens, so it doesn't really...
I agree with everyone else - pick what you love.
Your kitchen is never going to play with the other kitchens, so it doesn't really matter if it's popular or not.
We did glossy black lacquered doors - definitely not to everyone's taste but we love the drama of them. And when we redo the kitchen, I think we're going totally opposite and doing with and marble.
Dogs and kids - WWYD?
Well, I think that when you're in an off leash area, you need to expect to be approached by dogs of all shapes and sizes,...
Well, I think that when you're in an off leash area, you need to expect to be approached by dogs of all shapes and sizes, and while I think the guy was rude and you didn't do anything wrong, I'd probably avoid an off leash area with a dog-shy child. Because, realistically, even the best behaved dogs can come on strong (ours ADORES kids - she'll head into a dog park and make a beeline for the kids, not the other dogs) and because it's really a dog area, not a kid area, it might not be the best idea with a little guy afraid of dogs.
The best thing to teach him is to ignore dogs. Look up, don't make eye contact, don't wave his hands and don't say "shoo" because, let's face it, dogs are dumb and waving hands and words like "shoo" are interactions and interactions pretty much equal "OMG! I'm so happy to see you and hope you slobber on me and maybe bring me a ball to throw and I super want to pet your muddy, dirty belly!!" to a dog.
We're a dog heavy family - everyone has one and they are all big - and Parker doesn't have a lot of use for dogs. So, we've taught him that ignoring dogs, not interacting in any way, looking at the sky, staying still, etc. is that best way to get dogs to ignore him.
Re: WWYD - Tile that looks like wood
There's no way you'd ever be able to actually match it so if you're set on hardwood-look tile, I'd go completely different or it could...
There's no way you'd ever be able to actually match it so if you're set on hardwood-look tile, I'd go completely different or it could wind up looking like you tried and failed, you know?
Personally, I'm a fan of running the same flooring throughout everything visible in an open concept home so I'd do hardwood throughout he kitchen, too. Also, I detest tile in kitchens (we do so much cooking and baking that it's way too hard on the feet and back, it's cold unless you heat it and everything that drops breaks) and have only had hardwood in the last few kitchens and greatly preferred it.
If I were set on tile, I think instead of trying to match the hardwood by using a wood look, I'd choose tile based on color and aim for a similar tone as the hardwood, still getting that seamless, continuous look throughout.
Has anyone seen the ridiculousness in Misc?
Honestly? Not a good PR move, but also exactly what they are all thinking. Contrary to the opinions on Misc, boards just do not make...
Not a good PR move, but also exactly what they are all thinking. Contrary to the opinions on Misc, boards just do not make that much money for a company. They just don't. And the members of a board who care enough to cancel subscriptions or, what, not patronize vendors who advertises on WB anymore? Well, that makes up such a teensy number of incoming revenue. For real. I mean, we aren't talking about a product that kills kittens and the resulting backlash, here. It's a small community in the large world of SJM.
They made a business decision to split the board. Business, not personal. And clearly, people were not going to be pleased about it from the get go.
But the ENDLESS complaints and drama and so on from a message board associated with the site? It just does not take up as much time and energy for SJM as it does for the posters who are so very upset. I mean, don't get me wrong, they are having meetings about this. Some of it has been entertaining, some amazing and a lot tedious (sorry SJM - don't want to spoil the illusion) but it's not taking the same priority as arranging photo shoots with bridal boutiques (that will never see press anyway...jerks) or garnering advertisers for national promotions.
I embarrassingly told my husband about the whole debacle recently and he works for a rather large corporation with many interests with a forum comparable in purpose and scope to this one. Forum changes are a NIGHTMARE because the endless efforts to do it smoothly always fall flat and they know it going in - no matter how seamlessly they are done, everyone will act as though you kicked their puppy and called their baby ugly. People always complain and threaten and get irate and it's ugly. It's just not worth the negligible amount of money (and their forum is huge and international and very well known) brought in by it. It serves more as a service than anything else.
I know my opinion isn't popular (which, combined with no interest, is why I've basically kept it to myself in hopes the drama would eventually peter out) but I just cannot fathom getting this wrapped up, this personally involved in a forum. And I've been involved in this one for 27 years. I've been a poster, a vendor and an advertiser here. I really care about the lives of a number of posters here. But...that's what it's about, right? The people, the community? Not the color of the website.
I just think it makes a lot more sense to get past the drama and post about vacations, Leonardo DiCaprio and crockpot recipes. With the occasional vaccination drama tossed in for good measure. That's the point. The rest of it is just a waste of energy.
Re: April beauty boxes!
You know how it sucks when you're in Canada and read about all of these cool things or advantages people in the US have? Well,...
You know how it sucks when you're in Canada and read about all of these cool things or advantages people in the US have?
Well, here's a little win for the maple leaf - Topbox only ships to Canada and it's the only one that you guys consistently review well.
What's up with the '.'?
Okay, so I get adding the periods to your child's name to make it un-google-able. I don't do it because I operate under the assumption...
Okay, so I get adding the periods to your child's name to make it un-google-able. I don't do it because I operate under the assumption that anything I put online has the potential to be found online, and that sort of thing. And I think the chances of some one googling your child's name to track you down on BB is fairly unlikely but if that's a fear you've got, whatever floats your boat.
But what's the point with putting periods in a brand name? First, who cares if the company sees the post? I mean, I remember the Pampers rep coming on here and defending Pampers - so what? If anything, it gives you a little insight into how a company handles complaints and customers. That's gotta be good. Second, isn't it entirely pointless since the responses to the post tend to wind up containing the brand name anyway? Rendering the periods in the OP completely unnecessary because that makes it completely searchable anyway?
And now it's extended to things. Generic, non-branded or named things.
What am I missing here? I feel like there's a critical angle I'm not seeing and I MUST understand because it's breaking my brain to read these posts with incorrect punctuation plopped in everywhere - it's like WBspeak instead of textspeak!
Re: Our Closet Makeover
We did it very easily and inexpensively (because we did the demo and then found out we were moving to the US ASAP). We took...
We did it very easily and inexpensively (because we did the demo and then found out we were moving to the US ASAP). We took the doors off and trimmed out the door frame. And then we bought a ready made bench and just plunked it in. And then we hung boards with hooks from Home Depot. We'll do full on built ins eventually, either if we move back or if we sell.
Here are a few pictures I have saved from when we started.
I've never nothing not his one - the thin shelves with the in/out boxes in them - BRILLIANT! We always have piles of pending papers on the island in the kitchen (Maddy's school stuff, paperwork for taxes - that sort of thing) and this would really help with that.
Here's a wee one:
With the right space, I like how this one is built out - gives you more room and you aren't sitting in coats when taking shoes on and off.
Re: Our Closet Makeover
We did that in the house we own and for the short time we lived there, we LOVED it. We did it in the mudroom...
We did that in the house we own and for the short time we lived there, we LOVED it.
We did it in the mudroom and it was just functional.
Nicknames - which letter to choose?
I'm Rebecca. As a child, I was Becky consistently but anything like name art (like a sign my aunt made for my room) was done...
As a child, I was Becky consistently but anything like name art (like a sign my aunt made for my room) was done with my full name - so 'R' or Rebecca.
As an adult, I always use Rebecca on forms, professionally, with acquaintances, etc. Only my family and friends call me Becky or Becca.
Public Bathrooms - Solo - What age
What's "on their own" mean? Like, say, at a restaurant - is alone you going into the bathroom with them but them going into the...
What's "on their own" mean?
Like, say, at a restaurant - is alone you going into the bathroom with them but them going into the stall alone? Or you waiting outside them bathroom while they go into the bathroom and alone and go, wash their hands and dry them? Or are you at the table and they just get and go by themselves?
(I'm really looking forward to this day, by the way - I HATE public bathrooms but Maddy always "needs" to go as soon as our food comes at a restaurant or whenever we get somewhere new. I think she likes the novelty of it.)
if you take your kids camping questions
Crap. Now I REALLY want a tent trailer! ...
Now I REALLY want a tent trailer!
if you take your kids camping questions
We used to camp a lot but haven't really since having two kids. Actually, our last camping trip was cut short because I got a...
We used to camp a lot but haven't really since having two kids. Actually, our last camping trip was cut short because I got a stomach bug, which turned out to be morning sickness with Parker!
We'd like to start again but are talking about getting a tent trailer.
A few things I've found harder camping with two kids are setting up the campsite no matter the weather or time of day, the vast amount of STUFF that you need to bring, needing to entertain children at a campsite no matter the weather, having to feed kids fairly regularly
and a greater need to keep everyone warm and dry. When it was just the two of us, we could pop a tent up and just hunker down for the night if we got in late or it was raining. And the stuff was just less. And we could go out and explore or just read in the tent or by the fire if the weather was crappy or we were feeling lazy. Plus, our ability to eat whatever, whenever and to tolerate cold or discomfort was a lot higher!
So, we're thinking tent trailer (because we still want to CAMP but just with a few conveniences) to overcome some of that.
Realistically, I think we're way more likely to just up and go for a weekend if all of our supplies are already packed and ready to go and they would be in a tent trailer. It would also make us less weather dependent. With an awning room, we'd actually have multiple spaces for everyone and lots of room to play no matter the weather. It would be easier to store and prepare food, too. The kids would sleep in a bed instead of on the ground so they'd be warmer and a little more...contained?
In a pinch, we'd have one of those little cassette toilets so if we were potty training or had a middle of the night need, it could be dealt with without a trip to the bathrooms.
We'd stick mostly with somewhere between the really sterile KOAs and bare bones ones. We'd like the trees and true feeling of camping, but with a few modern amenities. Banff's Tunnel Mountain is one of our all time favorites - completely wooded but with bathrooms and water and such.
Texts From My Dog!
I sent it to my sister - she has a serious love affair with our family dog. She's always said that the only thing that...
I sent it to my sister - she has a serious love affair with our family dog. She's always said that the only thing that would complete her life is if he could text her. She likes to tell us what she thinks he would text if he could. It's partially hilarious...and we're partially worried.
Poor Maddy - she'll never learn. Our neighborhood is so hilly that there is absolutely no way she can ride her bike around our house....
Poor Maddy - she'll never learn. Our neighborhood is so hilly that there is absolutely no way she can ride her bike around our house. She can ride with training wheels on the back deck but it wouldn't be big enough if she needed the speed to balance sans training wheels.
We plan to start taking her bike with us on the weekend to parks to try and learn, but that's not as ideal as riding bikes in the front yard every evening.
Re: Is this a bad colour idea for kitchen cabinets?
I've lived in a lot of houses and in most, we've done everything based on resale. In our last house, the house we'd intended to...
I've lived in a lot of houses and in most, we've done everything based on resale. In our last house, the house we'd intended to live in forever (until we moved to the US six months later!) we did everything based on us.
I love that house. More than any other house we've lived in.
So, I wouldn't worry about it being 'too much' and wold do it if you love it - you'll love your house more if it's truly YOU and not designed for some one who may or may not buy it one day.
Re: Saskatoon mani and pedi
I absolutely LOVE Beverly Ashdown. I'm not impressed with Spa Ahava - they lacked that spa pampering - no one helped me when I arrived...
I absolutely LOVE Beverly Ashdown.
I'm not impressed with Spa Ahava - they lacked that spa pampering - no one helped me when I arrived (for my $300 spa package) despite being two behind the desk, only one customer and it being a small place. After I got their attention, they checked me in and told me to "go around the corner, get some spa slippers and some one would be with me soon" and just sort of waved me in the general direction instead of taking me back, showing me where everything was and offering tea or whatever. The treatments were fine. Not amazing but fine. The esthetician was about 12 years old and didn't have much of a filter (talked about how none of her friends were old so no one was married or had kids...and didn't even realize how far her foot was in her mouth) and just talked and talked without that soothing, professional vibe. All in all, it was just meh and when I go to a spa, a big part of what I'm paying for is that total pampering experience.
Same with Edgewater (same owners, so I assume same training) - just meh. I was there an hour or two before closing but they must have been slow. So, I watched them haul bags of garbage through the waiting area and entry, slop around grungy mop buckets and listened to the receptionist tell the other receptionist very loudly about her mysterious rash!
Not totally a relaxing escape from the world!
Beverly Ashdown was a last minute, desperation booking because we decided to get pedicures for three right before my sister's wedding - so we just called around until some one could get us in. From the moment we arrived they were pleasant, helpful and made us feel very special. Greeted us by name (I assume by just being aware what appointments were coming in then) and welcomed us, the estheticians greeted each of us and introduced herself, took us back, offered coffee/tea/treats and settled us into plush chairs with heated neck wraps. It was a lovely space, and we felt very pampered from beginning to end. They were polite, professional, not intrusive but friendly and fun and so on. We had coffee and homemade cinnamon buns and chose our own fragrances for each step. At the end, you get a bottle of polish, your file and the little toe thingies. All in all, it was great. Since then, it's the only one I've gone back to!
Restaurant copy cat recipes
Apparently, the cactus cut taters themselves are just soaked in jalepeno juice before cooking which is what makes them spicy. (And there's my contribution to...
Apparently, the cactus cut taters themselves are just soaked in jalepeno juice before cooking which is what makes them spicy.
(And there's my contribution to keeping this thread active because I have a bizarre love for copy cat recipes!)
Re: Any ideas or thoughts as to painting out Fireplace
So, what I figure is if it's not worth keeping, it's worth painting - so if it's not refinish-able wood that could be re-stained to...
So, what I figure is if it's not worth keeping, it's worth painting - so if it's not refinish-able wood that could be re-stained to match your style, or stone that just needs freshening or something like that, paint it out. Since it's fake stone anyway - I'd paint. I would go to a paint store and ask what to use - probably whatever you use to paint out brick?
And the brass...yeah. I hate brass with a fiery passion. Even more than I hate oak and vertical blinds! The first thing we did was de-brass and de-oak our house.
We used black BBQ/high heat spray paint on the fireplace and it's flawless. Looks perfect.
Before, it had brass accents (and a super cool rounded corner, curved surround).
Here's the 'after' (but before the trim and stone were finished):
car seat help
Honestly...this just isn't a thing. I mean, AT MOST, some car seats do not recommend bracing the carseat against the front vehicle seat. Not because...
Honestly...this just isn't a thing. I mean, AT MOST, some car seats do not recommend bracing the carseat against the front vehicle seat. Not because of damage but because it changes the response in an accident. So, I can see why some one getting in the car wouldn't even think twice about pushing the seat back a comfortable difference.
Car seats are designed to protect a child safe in an impactful car accident - being shoved, even really, really hard, with a vehicle seat adjustment just could not possibly damage the seat or installation.
So, really, you don't have a thing to be angry about or worry about.
car seat help
Okay - so the front car seat was pushed back into the rear-facing carseat? Like, by some one in the front seat needing more legroom?...
Okay - so the front car seat was pushed back into the rear-facing carseat? Like, by some one in the front seat needing more legroom? Is that right?
If so, then I would feel very, very confident in saying that there is no possible way that would damage a carseat. Some car seats even allow for bracing against the front seat.
Moving with Cats- sad thoughts
So, okay. The vet thing - I think your vet would reassure you that comes cats are a challenge at the vet. Our younger cat...
The vet thing - I think your vet would reassure you that comes cats are a challenge at the vet. Our younger cat had a lot of...self confidence. She attacked a vet tech, drawing blood and resulting in a trip to the pharmacy for antihistamine. However, they were all quick to assure us that as people who work with animals in a stressful environment, they expect things to go south occasionally and are prepared for it. In the case of our Loki, our vet offered to come to us if we needed her as Loki obviously found the vet very stressful. And she was a jerk.
So, I wouldn't blow the vet situation out of proportion.
If you are moving so soon, their home is probably in chaos and they are definitely picking up on your stress. That often accounts for letterbox problems.
The hissing thing - ours did that post-vet. Actually, the cat that didn't go to the vet hissed at the cat who did. And the former was the good cat! It was the smell of the vet, smell of strangers - her buddy didn't smell familiar. It all went back to normal in a few days.
Cats, while foul tempered, often do better with moves than one might expect - we've found that as long as all of their familiar stuff (from their bed/blanket/cat tree to our furniture) is there, they'll consider it home in no time.
Frankly, what do you think would be MORE traumatic - moving with the only family they've ever known or being left somewhere unfamiliar with people they've never met? I mean, either way they move to a new environment - I think it would be a lot more terrifying and stressful to do so with a bunch of strangers.
Moving is stressful (I know - we've done it 7 times with a couple cats and several dogs over the years) and I imagine that is not only encouraging the cats to act out but also making it harder for you to cope with, which I totally understand. But I think the best thing for adult cats is to stay with their families, barring exceptional circumstances - and these are just normal parts of life.
Re: Marshalls in Canada
If it makes you feel any better - I've been totally unimpressed with the Marshalls I've been to. I trade Marshalls for HomeSense any day....
If it makes you feel any better - I've been totally unimpressed with the Marshalls I've been to.
I trade Marshalls for HomeSense any day.
HomeSense is one of my top ten things I miss about Canada - there is just no comparable option here, at all.
Re: MIss Canada Universe
Let's see...how do I say this really super politely? It's a beauty contest. She's not interviewing for the role of President of the World. I'm...
Let's see...how do I say this really super politely?
It's a beauty contest. She's not interviewing for the role of President of the World. I'm not sure that checking the 'female' box and not the 'used to have twig and berries' box is really going to impact the integrity or nobility of the event.
Re: How to negotiate when buying a new car?
Sometimes, if you aren't a confident negotiator, it's easier to play off each other. I'm comfortable negotiating but detest test driving. I really, really don't...
Sometimes, if you aren't a confident negotiator, it's easier to play off each other.
I'm comfortable negotiating but detest test driving. I really, really don't like driving strange vehicles. So, my husband does the test driving and cares about hearing about engine specs and the like (which I've already researched...and wouldn't be looking at a car that wasn't within all of the parameters we were looking for int he first place) and I negotiate. I find that it tends to catch a lot of dealers off guard - I think it's still expected that the man negotiates and the woman wants to hear about the colors the car comes in (obviously, not in all cases, but in many - we've bought A LOT of cars). It works in our favor as I'm comfortable negotiating.
We always walk. The last time, we couldn't come to a deal and we just said we had to go home and put the little people to bed. It doesn't need to be confrontational - in fact, that "hardball" adversarial thing I think tends to work against you. I mean, it's human nature to want to help people you like, to want to work with people you can relate to. Less so working with your enemy!
Last time, they called me the next day and I said I was sold - job well done. Now - we had to work together to get to a point where I can get my husband on board. I just said that there was no need to keep selling - just get the price down to where he'll be on board, too, and the job is done. And they did. But then they KNOW they have the sale wrapped up if they can do their part. And I was really clear on that - I wasn't doing any convincing - we can always find another car. They needed to make it happen. And they did.
I think it's really important to go in knowing that they expect you to negotiate, that everyone negotiates and that you can't really make a mistake - they worst they can say is 'no'. And there has absolutely, without a doubt, been some one who asks for something more outrageous, more ridiculous than anything you can. So, you can't really embarrass yourself!
Re: Question about drinking at business events
I had an employee years ago who was very young, very sheltered and on her own in a new city for university - her first...
I had an employee years ago who was very young, very sheltered and on her own in a new city for university - her first time being an adult.
She was in a college with very professional expectations. They had many events which the students, staff and local people from within the profession (potential employers) would attend. I think from her perspective, the drinks were free and she was all dressed up so it was a party. And she took full advantage. She wound up falling off her chair during dinner, which she thought was hilarious, and winding up under the table before staggering to her feet. I really think she just had no concept of adult responsibilities or behavior.
She told the story as though it was just a hilarious, too-much-to-drink story. It wasn't. We tried to explain that these were her future colleagues, professors and mentors who could provide references and connections and potential future employers, but she just did not get it.
However, she served as a fantastic lesson for everyone else! My staff was young, but even they could contextualize the situation and imagine the long term ramifications.
So, yes - I'd say something. I mean, the problem with being drunk is that one tends to find one's self a lot funnier and more charming and much more charismatic than others might.
And sometimes, it's hard to have an objective perspective on one's behavior the next day. Particularly if one can't remember their behavior! Maybe she'll listen, maybe she won't. If she does, she'll be forever grateful to you for talking to her. If not, one day, she'll realize she should have listened.
Re: Kijiji find - rejuvenated.
You know what? I bought a dresser off of Craigslist and painted it (I think) that exact same yellow! Very fun! ...
You know what?
I bought a dresser off of Craigslist and painted it (I think) that exact same yellow!
Re: I suck at makeup
I also recommend Sephora or somewhere with multiple lines. Shoppers is nice because they have, obviously, drugstore brand stuff as well which is cheaper. But...
I also recommend Sephora or somewhere with multiple lines. Shoppers is nice because they have, obviously, drugstore brand stuff as well which is cheaper. But I am a little more skeptical of the make up artists at Shoppers (although, I have had great luck a few times). I'm not a MAC fan so I think if I'd ventured into makeup at a MAC counter it would have been a really bad start because I don't like any of their foundations, am meh on their eyeshadows and so on.
I would personally start with trying a few samples - get them to put some make up on you, see how it feels, wear it for a day, etc. Don't feel pressure to drop a ton of cash right off the bat - good make up artists know how personal everything is.
I had a foundation I LOVED that was reformulated and it took me three bottles (and two returns) of $50 foundation at Sephora to find a replacement. No one batted an eye - they just kept working with me to find the right option.
I also don't think you need to spend a bundle to get some good options. I'm a product junkie and have a fortune in eyeshadow in my makeup drawer(s) and I absolutely love both high end and low end options. I rave about NYX eyeshadow palettes constantly - very pigmented, great color payoff, good staying power and CHEAP! I use those as much as I use Urban Decay, Stila, Laura Mercier and MAC shadows.
So, I really think you have to just keep trying until you find the right products for you.
A few drugstore things that are cult favorites are:
- Rimmel lip glosses (Snog and East End Snob are really popular)
- L'oreal Voluminous Mascara
- Covergirl LashBlast mascara (orange tube)
- NYX eyeshadows
- Revlon Colorstay Eyeshadows
- Revlon Colorstay foundation
- Maybelline Eraser foundation (suddenly, people are crazy for it)
- Garnier rollerball under eye concealor (the skin colored stuff, not the clear stuff) which a lot of people swear by as a dupe for Benefit Erase Paste
At least those are really well reviewed, popular less expensive options so you don't wind up spending a bundle right off the bat.
I never wore a stitch of makeup pre-kid. Of course, I also had flawless skin pre-kid and didn't look absolutely exhausted 24/7!
Pregnancy changed my skin dramatically and now it's very red and uneven and dull. So, I've gone from no make up to a full kit and do I ever feel more confident when I have some make up on than going out all dull, tired, blotchy and red. It's made a much bigger difference for me than I would have thought.
Oh, and I second TiffanyD's youtube channel above - she's very good and does a ton of really basic tutorials. She's a great one to help start.
Re: What's changed for you?
What's changed for me? Honestly, I've been pretty turned off of Misc. I've basically avoided it. I wonder if that will become habit? Not because...
What's changed for me?
Honestly, I've been pretty turned off of Misc. I've basically avoided it. I wonder if that will become habit?
Not because of the change, not because of Big Bad Admin but because of how blown out of proportion this has become.
I suspect that the horrid SJM team, by this point, is thinking "good lord...let them all leave, we'll start fresh, no more of this ridiculousness over a message board".
I've seen a mass exodus from WB before. More than once. It's like the whole board-world is coming to an end...but it never does. Just evolves a little each time. And some people evolve with it, some don't. But honestly, the drama never makes an ounce of difference. Changes happens. It will always happen. This is a business. It's a business-run board. And for all the complaining, the really vocal will always make up a small percent of the whole.
And despite the fact that half of this board that those who are upset are fighting for is devoted to the fighting and not the community (which is really all that counts) I just cannot imagine this group of evil Admins sitting in room somewhere, cackling evilly and plotting how best to ruin WB. I suspect that this is just a business decision, with a few bugs like any decision and that mistakes have been made, because everyone is human. I just don't see an adversarial relationship or a plot to ruin the community or anything other than the best intentions to do the best they can - mostly because I assume that's how most people live their lives. Doing the best they can.
So, you either learn to live with it or cut your losses. Really, those are the options. And yes - people will leave. Board members leave all the time - sometimes members that feel really critical to the dynamic of the community. But the community survives. It always does. But for those whose lives have been turned upside down - I really, really think you should take a step back. Let things happen, see where things settle and then decided if it's the place for you or not.
NKR- Tell me why you love your washer!
So, we've lived in...6?...houses in the past 6 years? That's a lot of time to fine-tune our appliance preferences! We've had entry level to very...
So, we've lived in...6?...houses in the past 6 years? That's a lot of time to fine-tune our appliance preferences!
We've had entry level to very high end everything, including both front and top loaders.
The first thing I can say is that we will never buy another front loader. And actually, one the big reasons is totally kid related - kids clothes, particularly diapered-potty training kids clothes, are gross. And there was little I hated more than reaching into the basket to grab handfuls of who knows what grossness to shove it into the small opening of a front loader. Blech! I vastly, vastly prefer just upending the laundry basket into the big opening of a top loader.
I also hate having a machine that I have to baby. I have to wipe out the seal (ick) and hunt for baby socks in it. I have to leave the door open so it dries (which has resulted in endless toys being hidden in there and washed unknowingly because it's just too tempting for a toddler "helping" with laundry). I can't ever forget a load in there or it has to be rewashed because it's immediately stinky. And so on and so on.
None of those were issues with the top loader.
We've also noticed, overall, that our top loaders have cleaned better than our front loaders.
I think that front loaders came out and were made in fun colors (which, seriously, totally cleans better!) and were the big trend and it was really easy to convince ourselves they were better. But having had so many different ones, I just won't get another.
We got a Maytag Bravos HE top loader in our 'forever house' that we moved out of six months later to come to Seattle and it's in my Top Five Things I Miss About Canada list. Our house here has a very good front loader and I hate it.
Oh - really important - I'm only talking HE top loaders, not old school ones with the agitators. HE top loaders are much more efficient and WAY easier on clothes. So comparable in function to the benefits of front loaders.
Re: NWR - Saskatoon cakes
Try Cake My Day . All of her cakes are incredible (like, truly art) but her kids cakes are just out of this world. I...
Try Cake My Day
All of her cakes are incredible (like, truly art) but her kids cakes are just out of this world.
I used to do wedding cakes and I have so much admiration for her characters and designs. I keep trying to time a trip home with a cake-related occasion!
Re: Can you alter the silhouette of a dress?
Most bridal gowns come with a few inches of seam allowance, which allows a dress to be let out minimally. So, without any more info,...
Most bridal gowns come with a few inches of seam allowance, which allows a dress to be let out minimally. So, without any more info, there is usually room to alter the shape of a dress a small amount (which is sometimes all it takes to make a big difference).
However, a few things can make that harder. Some dresses have less seam allowance than others which really gives you very little extra fabric to work with. If the dress is embellished (beadwork, lace, embroidery, etc.) that often is only on the outside of the dress, not within the seams, as it's the most expensive part. Like, for example, a lace overlay on a dress will often have it's own, much less generous seam allowance making it much harder to let out. Or, a beaded belt - if you let a dress out, there will be gaps in the beading where you've done so.
Another issue is the fabric itself. Some fabrics are easily alterable. Others are more delicate and will show the damage of the original seam when let out. Some fabrics sort of self repair, but others will show each pulled stitch.
If this is something you are interested in doing, I'd recommend speaking to a seamstress much sooner, rather than later. That gives you time to get extra fabric or embellishment from the designer, if need be. Or other supplies that might make the alteration possible. Those things can take time to bring in, so you need more time than you would for more standard alterations. You don't need to have the alterations themselves completed early - that's always best done at the last minute. But for something like this, you should definitely consult earlier.
Plus, if it can't be done, that gives you more time to get used to the dress as is.
Or, and I know this isn't ideal but it can help - if you can't adjust it to be less of a mermaid, you can often adjust the fit and flare of it to make the mermaid silhouette suit you. I've had hundreds of brides of all sizes and heights look killer in mermaid, trumpet and fit and flare dresses - they just have to be scaled to fit them. So, you can look awesome in a mermaid dress - but you have to have it altered so the fit and flare hit you at the right spots which they seldom do right off the bat.
Re: Do you offer your guests slippers?
We don't do it, as we don't have a ton of guests (except family from back home). But if we did have regular guests, we'd...
We don't do it, as we don't have a ton of guests (except family from back home).
But if we did have regular guests, we'd consider more for the but that we want you to take off your shoes than anything else.
We're in the US and in many areas of the US (like the ones one TV...totally thought that was only on TV until we moved) you wear shoes in the house. It's less common here than some areas, but not as uncommon as Canada where I would never even have thought about it.
Like, for example, we had an insurance guy over the other day and he came in, I shook his hand and invited him in, and in he went - shoes and all! And it rains pretty much always here.
Bedding for 'Big Kids'
What I did with Maddy's room (in hopes of it growing with her for a bit) was buy solid color bedding, with texture (for a...
What I did with Maddy's room (in hopes of it growing with her for a bit) was buy solid color bedding, with texture (for a little quirkiness/interest/fun) and then piled it was colorful pillows and sheets. The walls are a pretty blue shade (as opposed to pink or purple that might be less...neutral) and the accessories are all vivid and bright.
Then, we can swap out accessories, and still give her the colors she loves, without being drowned in Pepto Bismal!
Her bedding looks similar to this (but in white) but not exactly - I just googled "ruffle bedding":
Re: What Nail Polish Colours do you LOVE?
These are relatively the two I got last time: ...
These are relatively the two I got last time:
Re: What Nail Polish Colours do you LOVE?
Last time, I got two - and lucked out (it's totally random - there are a variety of pre packed boxes all worth at least...
Last time, I got two - and lucked out (it's totally random - there are a variety of pre packed boxes all worth at least $60 but one version is worth $100) and got one of the big boxes. I got dozens of polish and a ton of product.
Obviously it was worth it, but it was also worth it for being a TON of fun to get. My favorite was a pale yellow polish (Blake) which I would never have bought but is so spring-y and pretty.
But even the "small" box was awesome - three polishes, I think? Some decals and sparkles (which I won't use, personally, but lots of people love) and a few different smaller products (cuticle oil and lotion, I think).
Re: Julep Maven Question
Drives me NUTS when I get one of those slips. Half the time, I know it's totally untrue because I was home when they "attempted...
Drives me NUTS when I get one of those slips. Half the time, I know it's totally untrue because I was home when they "attempted delivery" and the other half of the time, I get the 'final attempt' slip before any others.
Anyway - yay! What colors did you get?
Re: Is there another forum out there like WB?
In case anyone was still interested (I'm SO sorry for those that PM-ed asking that I forgot to get back to!) - hitched just finished...
In case anyone was still interested (I'm SO sorry for those that PM-ed asking that I forgot to get back to!) - hitched just finished a move and is (or...should be!) all good to go and back to normal.
The only reason there was trouble registering was because the board was sort of mid-switch - new domain name and hosting, I think, so now it will run super smoothly and be totally back to normal.
New website: Hitched!
And everyone IS welcome - it's a great group. It's different than here - a little smaller, not themed (not wedding focused or parenting or anything - just like a giant Misc), it's not moderated so no one will swoop in and lock debates (on the flip side, it means that there tends to be little time for anyone just there to stir up trouble...no one is interested) and yes, you can swear.
Did BLW not work for anyone?
So, after following "the rules" with Maddy and finding feeding remarkably stressful compared to so many other things we did as parents, we decided with...
So, after following "the rules" with Maddy and finding feeding remarkably stressful compared to so many other things we did as parents, we decided with Parker not to worry about rules.
I actually started with reading a lot about baby led weaning, but then realized I was just exchanging one set of rules for the other.
So, if I were you, I'd throw out the book (maybe not literally
) and just go with what works for you guys. The goal is to teach a child about food and eating but it should also be about teaching them to enjoy food and if it's stressful, that won't happen. At least, that's what we found with Maddy.
With Parker, we fed him whatever worked best without stressing the rules. Sometimes, he wanted a bite of something on a spoon and guess what? He's a thriving three year old today!
No damage done by breaking the rules (except I got kicked out of the BLW club for doing it wrong). Instead, we aimed to instill a love of food, offered a ton of variety and just enjoyed it instead of stressing it - and he's a crazy good eater compared to Maddy.
So, go with your gut - it will be just fine!
Re: glass or solid stairwell... upgrade?
Oh...I love the glass, and even more, the floating stairs. I don't know if I could justify the cost - that would be the only...
Oh...I love the glass, and even more, the floating stairs.
I don't know if I could justify the cost - that would be the only thing that would hold me back.
I spend so much flipping time cleaning this house - adding a little windexing is a drop in the bucket - I don't think that would factor in for me. And I HATE cleaning.
I also wouldn't factor in kids too much - I mean, the house is indefinite and kids are only little for so long. You can install a handrail to hold onto on the other wall, for safety and because then that encourages them not to use the glass side anyway. My dad installs kid-height railings on all of their stairs - it's awesome.
And I would assume they use tempered glass or whatever makes it virtually shatter proof - I mean, it functions as a wall so it would have to meet building standards. Like a floor to ceiling plate glass window, for example. You'd never consider that a risk with kids. Or, I wouldn't.
But, maybe my opinion doesn't count - we've got a very pointy glass and chrome coffee table and a white leather bench in our living room - both, we're told, are totally inappropriate for children. Don't tell our children.
I have a Cameleon and I love it. And honestly, until reading it on here, it never occurred to me that the storage basket was...
I have a Cameleon and I love it.
And honestly, until reading it on here, it never occurred to me that the storage basket was small or awkward or anything, so maybe that's a personal preference thing? I've never found mine to be a problem.
It is big when folded. We decided that was a worthwhile tradeoff for everything else.
The fold/set up is a bit of a pain, but then again, any stroller needs to be unfolded so I guess it taking 20 seconds instead of 15 isn't really a huge deal.
Pushed like a dream, plows through anything, isn't s bulky that you can wander a mall, etc. Love it!
Re: Any other ON teachers freaking out?
But...I don't know that I've seen many teachers suggest that they DON'T have perks? I mean, that's the thing. If some one who is a...
But...I don't know that I've seen many teachers suggest that they DON'T have perks?
I mean, that's the thing.
If some one who is a *insert random profession here in hopes of avoiding an endless discussion of the validity of the comparison* and they just heard their company was planning to take away their *insert long term benefit here* and worrying about what that would mean for them, the responses would likely be a combination of mostly "wow...that sucks" and "well, actually, I heard they were only taking away this arguably over the top benefit and not this one, so I wouldn't worry" and a few scattered "gee, I wish we got *benefit* where I work".
When teachers post, everyone is very quick to chime in with reasons they should count their blessings, how lucky they really are and how they are perceived to be luckier/more benefitted than various other professions.
There's a distinct difference in the response to teacher's professional gripes and most other professions.
And I think that a lot of the time, it's not a reasonable response. I mean, I don't see many teachers saying that they don't need to appreciate not working in the summers because they are so much more important than anyone else and deserve that time "off". I don't think that having some unique "benefits" outweighs having some professional complaints.
That's my point - and what tends to happen is that teachers then are put in the position of defending these supposed benefits by explaining that they don't actually get two months of summer vacation, nor do they actually work from 9:00-3:00 everyday babysitting kids, or whatever other misconception that comes up. And that sort of sucks because when teachers try and explain that the benefit being discussed is usually just a little less beneficial than it may appear to those outside of the profession, they are rebutted with "well, that's still more *benefit* than *profession* gets!" and it cycles into badness.
So what? So what if teachers get some benefits that others don't? Others gets lots of benefits that teachers don't. So, instead of making teachers defend wanting to ensure they are being treated fairly by defending every little perceived benefit they get, wouldn't it make more sense to accept that we all work different jobs for different perks, and that if any of those perks are threatened, there's bound to be backlash?
For the record - I'm not a teacher.
I do, however, have kids who are taught by teachers and having spent the minimal amount of time I've needed to in those classrooms, I feel pretty strongly that not only are teachers people, too, but that the good ones may well be Magical Saints Of Awesomeness for doing way they do everyday without being drunk.
That doesn't negate the value of all other professions in existence. In fact...it doesn't reflect on the value of anything but teachers.
So, I just can't help but feel sympathy when teachers are forced to defend every little perk, every job curiosity, every little thing they get for doing what they do every time they have the gall to complain. Few others professions seem to face that same level of public scrutiny.