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Re: Stuffed Sausage (Diary of Plus-Size Bride)
So, my horrid first try with dresses is completely eliminated in my mind after going to a really GOOD boutique that helped me fit and...
So, my horrid first try with dresses is completely eliminated in my mind after going to a really GOOD boutique that helped me fit and find a beautiful dress for my figure. It made ALL the difference having lovely owner/salesperson, kind, considerate, helpful!
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Stuffed Sausage (Diary of Plus-Size Bride)
Entry 1. It was my first experience with wedding dresses today. I was reluctant to go in to the beautiful dress shop but I know...
Entry 1.
It was my first experience with wedding dresses today. I was reluctant to go in to the beautiful dress shop but I know it will take a lot of trying on (and then alterations) to find something that will be suitable for me to wear to my wedding next June.
I am not a huge girlie-girl. I used to be more when I was working but right now I am a stay-at-home mom who lives in a more rural country home (near some cities). I feel out of character dressing up now. My second son is half year old already and I really am heavy post-baby.
So I look at the dresses hanging squished tight and plastic wrapped, sorted by size. I talk to the owner a bit-not a very friendly lady but courteous and slightly helpful. I don't feel comfortable. Nothing in her personality helped me feel at ease. I have a bit of anxiety as I hate trying on clothes in front of people. I dislike mirrors that aren't inside the change room. I feel strangely like I am faking something...I am strangely nervous. My intention today was just to become familiar with uncertain territory...isn't it supposed to feel exciting and beautiful not daunting and nerve-wracking?
I decide to try on one dress to see how the rouching is to cover up my big tummy-my ""tire. No, not my little spare tire -the kind that can only go to 60km/pr hr. The snow tire. We are trying to hide the big assed (no pun intended)snow tire that likes to hover at my waist. I have a moment of clarity. No, not with wedding dresses. With my discomfort. I hate it .The two people helping me are not helping me feel better or at ease. They look at me with fake little smiles and are waiting for me to have an excited bride's expression "I love it!! It's perfect!!" But, I look into the mirror surprised at how thick and sausage-like I look and I do not feel very pretty. Look how much I have changed since having children. Why am I unmotivated to do something about it?
The lady pulled and pinched and laced the back up. She yanked and squeezed and tightened. I felt my lungs being tucked in. She pinned the straps close to my body and said "There!" It looks nice and pretty. It hugged my body close. Since when have all my curves shifted up a foot or two? Since when did I have extra breasts on the side? And when, wow, did my back get so round and full and spillage at the sides? And when I turn to the side I look like a wrapped up thick overstuffed sausage. A smooth one though, the rouching does do some wonders to all those lumps, and bumps.
Anyhow, back to clarity. I realize that part of my exhuberant personality reflects my internal desire to help people feel at ease. No, not to "please"...just be myself and non-intimidating or judgmental so that people don't feel awkward, uncomfortable, anxious, sad. I quietly think to myself that I am proud, happy of this quality of mine. I may not be happy in the way I look but I will always try to ensure people around me don't feel nervous, uncomfortable with their insecurities-whatever they might be.
Two dresses down. And I wonder how many more realizations to go....
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Re: Auburnista's professional photos ~ part 1
Ahh, I got teary reading your posting and seeing your pictures. Life can be hard when your loved ones are unsupportive. Your pics are lovely...
Ahh, I got teary reading your posting and seeing your pictures. Life can be hard when your loved ones are unsupportive. Your pics are lovely and beautiful and your husband looks SO excited, I love it. I used to live right near there for a few years and miss the beautiful mountains, fresh air, the eagles. The barn pics are so great too!
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Re: Champagne Wedding
Nope, it says content unavailable. Maybe the privacy settings for that album is set too high? ...
Nope, it says content unavailable. Maybe the privacy settings for that album is set too high?
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Convertible/Detachable Wedding Dresses?
I've seen a couple online. One was from Martina Liana.... Has anyone tried on, bought, or worn any of these types of dresses? Thanks! ...
I've seen a couple online. One was from Martina Liana....
Has anyone tried on, bought, or worn any of these types of dresses? Thanks!
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Re: Help me pick a vintage dress pattern NWR
I'd really like to see what your original 4 patterns were. Is there a link anywhere?? ...
I'd really like to see what your original 4 patterns were. Is there a link anywhere??
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Re: Pantomat FaceShop Pro 4.10 - Portable
I would love to see more. I am about a size 16 but I am also short (lol) and about 5'3...anyone out there a curvy...
I would love to see more. I am about a size 16 but I am also short (lol) and about 5'3...anyone out there a curvy petite height with a dress? I can't find any pics out there that look like my body type.
You all look fabulous!
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Re: Help Ladies - do you know this dres???
How do you mean affordable? I haven't been dress shopping yet and curious as to how much you mean ...
How do you mean affordable? I haven't been dress shopping yet and curious as to how much you mean
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Re: Formal Baby shower invite with registry....WWYD?
Thank you so much for the replies. It has me thinking of a few of the details. She is a friends sister. Also, I somehow...
Thank you so much for the replies. It has me thinking of a few of the details. She is a friends sister. Also, I somehow kept thinking that I "had" to get something that is from the registry. Perhaps it's that I feel bad or insecure about not being able to spend what is probably the norm for this "circle". I though, have had a struggle prior to meeting my FH as a single parent for three years. So, part of it is my own issue and part of it is just from personal exp with the family.
I agree with the registries-I think it is a great idea to have perhaps the larger ticket items as well as smaller items too. I feel a bit reassured from your advice not to have to get something from the registries and perhaps do something that is affordable for us and something I find helpful/nice/etc...if that is, if I choose to go. I am 50-50 right now.
All the advice is appreciated-thank you.
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Formal Baby shower invite with registry....WWYD?
This is more of a What do you think situation. I am not sure why since I understand weddings and having registry (but carefully worded...
This is more of a What do you think situation. I am not sure why since I understand weddings and having registry (but carefully worded registry info). I received a baby shower invite in the mail (formal, printed up like wedding invite) with notice of the three registries. The shower is 2 months before her DD.
I am bothered. I don't know why. I looked up one registry and it was a bunch of expensive valances and crib stuff-you know the pretty stuff that is like 300.00 and some odds and ends. Then the other two are at boutiques.
Perhaps if I knew that she would be in need, or a mom or couple that is really grateful for things or accept used stuff just in kind but they aren't.....
Hmm....so, it's in two weeks and I have not RSVP'd yet because it bothers me...perhaps because we are struggling in our own and now I feel like I am supposed to "get" one of these gifts for her.
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Re: "help us pay for our dream wedding" Seriously?
My dream wedding is one that fits within our budget and not asking for other people's money to get it going. Ridiculous. I would think...
My dream wedding is one that fits within our budget and not asking for other people's money to get it going. Ridiculous. I would think that they DO know about it (although I haven't read all the posts till now)and this for me would make me not even want to be friends with them.
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Re: Guests Bringing their offspring to the wedding...
I would definitely go for "Adult reception to follow" . Our event is opposite-casual, fun, kids galore. It is about "family" for us since we...
I would definitely go for "Adult reception to follow" . Our event is opposite-casual, fun, kids galore. It is about "family" for us since we are a blended family-not just a marriage of partners.
I have three children (2 of my own, 1 step son) and I am totally not offended if there is an adult only party. It is a fact of life and things are expensive. Kids can and will be annoying-running, screaming, bored, crying, laughing, etc. If you don't want them, don't feel bad. Stick to your guns. Try to come up with responses ahead of time like "I didn't visualize my wedding with children around" or? Maybe that is too harsh...I am not sure but it's your day!
I thought in the event that we chose an adult-event, we would hire two babysitters (reputable) to stay at our place or place closeby (hotel) and have some kids to watch there for a "slumber party" with pizza and movies.
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Re: Small ceremony one day, reception a week later?
Wow, thank you for the tips and advice. I think that it is a good idea to put my name in to the hall just...
Wow, thank you for the tips and advice. I think that it is a good idea to put my name in to the hall just in case there is a cancellation. Good idea!
We were thinking of something like head out to dinner just our immediate family and this way we get to spend good one on one happy excited time with them. On fun more informal reception day, there will be about 120-150 people so I think I won't be able to enjoy one on one time too much.
How I am personally/emotionally when I am in big groups of people whether family or not...I tend to not be able to sepnd all the time I want with the most important people to me. Thus my reasons for nice ceremony and perhaps dinner out at a nice restaurant, then next week fun family reunion style fun.
That is why I totally want to find one of those zip off dresses LOL. I saw one on TV once. Then it gets shorter for tea length lol.
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Small ceremony one day, reception a week later?
Hi, Newbie here! We are getting married next year and want it to remain casual, fun, somewhat like a family reunion. It represents us as...
Hi, Newbie here!
We are getting married next year and want it to remain casual, fun, somewhat like a family reunion. It represents us as a couple. We are a blended family (one child each, one together). I have never been married. Now, we really want to get married on one day but the hall we want to rent for our relaxed (think country fair/vintage) reception is booked. We are considering having a small family reception (just immediate family)on one saturday close to next summer and then the weekend after (it will be a long weekend) have the reception (so one week apart).
I have phobias of being in front of groups of people thus my need for a small intimate ceremony and then just a family reunion style buffet dinner, and dancing in a hall...not formal at all.
Can you help me with the logistics of it?
Ie/ dress, wear the dress again for reception?, photos, how to manage it, what to do on ceremony day??
Many many thanks
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