Anyone know how to find a 'work from home' job?
This is a legitimate work from home company: Contract Xchange A relative of mine has worked for this company for years. And I've been...
This is a legitimate work from home company:Contract Xchange
A relative of mine has worked for this company for years. And I've been keeping it in mind for when I decide to start doing a bit of work. It's great because you can work as much or as little as you want. Definitely worth looking into!
Baths for kids of different gender
Mine are just over 3.5 and 13 months so yeah, I bathe them together all the time. I have no idea when that will change.....
Mine are just over 3.5 and 13 months so yeah, I bathe them together all the time. I have no idea when that will change.. probably as others have suggested above.
Too much Toilet Paper...wwyd?
Haha - I've noticed my DD using a bit more toilet paper too recently. She hasn't caused our toilet to overflow yet but it came...
Haha - I've noticed my DD using a bit more toilet paper too recently. She hasn't caused our toilet to overflow yet but it came close one day. And tonight she was calling me for help and I came in and she had a way too much unraveled ready to use so I was able to stop her before put it all in the toilet.
I just keep telling her that we only need a little bit and I show her.
She also has a love for toilet paper too, it seems. She always wants a full roll on the holder so I often find half rolls in the garbage can!
Strangers Taking Pictures of your Kids??
That is certainly very odd and if that happened with my kids, I wouldn't be happy about it. Why the heck would someone want a...
That is certainly very odd and if that happened with my kids, I wouldn't be happy about it.
Why the heck would someone want a picture of some child they don't even know???
I would have definitely said something, even if I had to as they were walking away. This would not be okay with me.
All about mommy... for both kids
This is somewhat my situation over here as well. DD has always been all about mommy. And actually, it's kind of nice to see someone...
This is somewhat my situation over here as well.
DD has always been all about mommy. And actually, it's kind of nice to see someone else saying this about their 3.5 year old. Because my mom is constantly saying that she thought DD would be fine with them by now and doesn't understand why at this age, DD would still get upset when others try to help her (she often gets upset and says "I want mommy to do it!").
DS is a little more relaxed but he definitely has a preference for me as well.
It's not all quite as drastic as your situation because while only mommy will do for DD for everything, DS is a little more easier going about it at his young age. He comes to me to snuggle and reaches out for me when anyone else has him but he doesn't freak out (yet) if someone else is doing something for him or with him. But my guy is much younger than your DD.
But I do notice that if DD is sitting with me or snuggling me, he'll come over and climb up on me and try to kind of push her out of his way! Hahaha
Also, in my situation, I'm the one to always put them to bed (DH is hardly ever home in the evenings, I nurse DS and DD would have a fit if I didn't put her to bed). But they go to bed at different times, so it's no problem and it's quick and easy with both of them.
I'm not sure what you can do aside from what you're already doing.
Hopefully it calms down a bit for you soon!
Beautiful Essay on nursing toddlers...
So beautiful and so true!! Totally made me cry! ...
So beautiful and so true!! Totally made me cry!
Any other single moms out there?
Welcome! You might also find the school age section helpful because of the age of your ODS. ...
Welcome! You might also find the school age section helpful because of the age of your ODS.
20 month old activities
The activities I did with DD at that age are things we still do now: - weekly library story time group - go to OEYC...
The activities I did with DD at that age are things we still do now:
- weekly library story time group
- go to OEYC for drop-in play once or twice a week
- out door ride on toys
- sand and water table
- kick / throw a ball around outside
- browse through the mall (it's not a busy one here, so she could/can roam / run around a bit)
- paint / colour / crafts
You aren't doing anything wrong. Babies process day and night sleep differently. Just because he will fall asleep easily and on his own at night...
You aren't doing anything wrong.
Babies process day and night sleep differently. Just because he will fall asleep easily and on his own at night doesn't mean the same will be true for naps.
How old is your LO?
Short naps are also common with young babies. 30-40 minutes is a sleep cycle. As he gets older, he'll figure out how to put himself back to sleep and his naps will most likely lengthen.
Introducing a soother?
I never introduced a soother to either of my children. They weren't fussy babies so I never felt the need to. And actually, with my...
I never introduced a soother to either of my children. They weren't fussy babies so I never felt the need to. And actually, with my DD, I just didn't even think about it in the beginning. I nursed her and I had obviously never nursed before and I was paranoid about anything messing with it. But really, she didn't need one at all. She was a happy baby. The only time she really cried at all in the first couple months was when she was tired and we'd bounce/walk/shh her to sleep but she'd only do it for about 10-15 minutes - it was like her way of winding down. And then once she was asleep she was good. And then she learned how to fall asleep on her own just shy of 3 months old (we didn't do anything to make this happen).. so really, there was no point to giving her one. If she was ever fussy and I didn't now why, I'd nurse her.
And DS was the same way - not a crier at all. He didn't even cry after being born. And he had one up on his sister because when he was tired, he'd just lay against us and fall asleep in seconds while we swayed with him or I'd just sit on the couch with him against my chest and pat his bum or just putting him in the swing with the movement would easily put him to sleep.
I'm so glad that we never felt the need to use one. I'm sure there are many kids that don't get crazy over them but it seems like so many do and that it's so hard to get it away from them.
If either kid was ever fussy, it was generally because they were tired or hungry.
Kid(s) started school...now what?!
My plan is to continue staying home once the kids are in school full time. I plan to work from home through a company that...
My plan is to continue staying home once the kids are in school full time. I plan to work from home through a company that has very flexible hours. I'd be able to work as much or as little as I want day to day.
This way, I can be available for the kids, to help out with school work and school activities, trips, etc.
Also, we haven't closed the door on having more. I'd like at least one more for sure. I guess we'll have to see what happens.
1 year old walking shoes?
What about the Robeez mini-shoe? Robeez Mini-Shoez If you scroll down a bit, there is a picture and description of them. Much more affordable too!...
What about the Robeez mini-shoe? Robeez Mini-Shoez
If you scroll down a bit, there is a picture and description of them.
Much more affordable too!
Cute mom hair. Post yours, or ideas?
I've had bangs for years now after having hair that was all one length since I was a kid! They've never annoyed me and when...
I've had bangs for years now after having hair that was all one length since I was a kid!
They've never annoyed me and when I first got them done, I loved it! It was a simple change but it really freshened it up. They are longer and sweep to the side.
My hair is also very thick and since having kids has a wave to it so unless I straighten it, it doesn't look "together" but I've never had to do anything with the bangs.
The bangs have never bothered me but now and then I do pin them to the side.
spin: Do you limit YOUR screen time?
The TV is off pretty much all day. If it's on, it's for DD to watch a 20 minute show before or after lunch and...
The TV is off pretty much all day. If it's on, it's for DD to watch a 20 minute show before or after lunch and then again before bed. Sometimes I turn it on and just put it to a local radio station for some background noise.
I don't watch my shows while the kids are up. I watch a couple of soaps and evening shows that aren't appropriate. There's also no time between getting meals ready, cleaning up after the kids, naps, going out every morning to play groups and playing with the kids. Also, I enjoy getting my pj's on in the evening and settling down with my shows, a snack and the laptop after they are in bed.
As for the computer, sometimes in the morning, I quickly hop on to check FB while they are eating breakfast. And then sometimes I'll check it again after DS is down for his afternoon nap and DD is watching a show. But this isn't always the case.
If I'm on the computer, DD always wants to type. She likes to type the letters she knows in notepad. And then she tells me what they all represent.
Changes in DS feeding pattern
He definitely needs to nurse more than 4 times a day at 4 months of age. How often are you nursing him? He may be...
He definitely needs to nurse more than 4 times a day at 4 months of age.
How often are you nursing him? He may be starting to stretch the time between feedings.
As they get older, they do get more efficient and stretch the time between feedings. They also become distracted, so if you think he is, perhaps try nursing him in a quiet spot without much distraction.
Homo Milk @ 1 year
I also wanted to add, that while my DD didn't go to daycare, once she was having homo milk (and still nursing), I'd give her...
I also wanted to add, that while my DD didn't go to daycare, once she was having homo milk (and still nursing), I'd give her a couple ounces of milk with each meal.
Over time, he'll gradually increase his milk intake.
To start, I really wouldn't be concerned with how much or how little homo milk he is drinking, especially if you're still nursing.
I've heard of some babies not drinking much throughout the day at first with the whole transition to daycare.
I'd just leave it up to his daycare to offer fluids throughout the day and not even worry about it.
Confused about "emptying the breast"
I've always fed my babies from both sides. I offer one side, nurse them until they come off, switch to the other side. When they...
I've always fed my babies from both sides. I offer one side, nurse them until they come off, switch to the other side. When they were really young, when they come off, if they weren't on very long, I'd burp and then put them back on the same side. If/when they came off again, I'd switch sides.
It sounds like you're emptying them.
The problem with not allowing baby enough time on each side is that this can lead to them not getting enough of the fattier milk - the hind milk. As well, it can lead to plugged ducts and other issues for mom.
Homo Milk @ 1 year
Many sources I've read recently are saying that if you're nursing 3-4 times a day, they don't even NEED homo milk. DS is a year...
Many sources I've read recently are saying that if you're nursing 3-4 times a day, they don't even NEED homo milk.
DS is a year old and I have yet to introduce it. I give him an ounce or two of water once (maybe twice) a day - always with dinner, sometimes with lunch too.
I'm not 100% certain but if I remember correctly, this is not including BM. They suggest keeping it around 18-20ounces so they aren't drinking so much that it's taking away from their appetite for food.
Are you a fashionable mom or wear-what's-comfy mom
I'd say I'm a casual mom. I'd love to be more fashionable but sadly, I really dislike shopping for clothes for myself. My wardrobe is...
I'd say I'm a casual mom. I'd love to be more fashionable but sadly, I really dislike shopping for clothes for myself.
My wardrobe is pretty sad. It's still full of clothes that I've owned since highschool. I have a lot of dress clothes but I wore those when I was working. They aren't things I'd wear every day to be at home with the kids.
I wear jeans a lot and usually layer on top (a v-neck t-shirt under a zip sweater or a dressier light sweater right now).
Summer is even worse - I desperately need to get some shorts and tops. I've said this for years now and every summer, each day it's a real chore to find SOMETHING to wear.
Hair is also always tied up in a ponytail. I do put on a bit of makeup if we're heading out though (which only really consists of a bit of coverup around my eyes, some mascara and a dab of blush).
I've had postpartum thyroditis after each child too so I lost A LOT of weight I didn't need to lose so I only have a couple pairs of jeans that fit.
My DD has always been a very cautious little girl. I find in the last 4-5 months, she's made big strides but around strangers and...
My DD has always been a very cautious little girl. I find in the last 4-5 months, she's made big strides but around strangers and people she's not familiar with, new situations, places, etc. she sticks close to mommy and is quiet. If a stranger tries to talk to her, she turns away or puts her head down and/or wants to stick close to me and she doesn't respond.
She's the kid that will often stand back and watch the other kids running around at the park or a party.
But now that she's getting older, when we go to the park, she'll run around and play and doesn't need me right there anymore. But she's still hesitant if it's busy or there's a bunch of kids on the equipment. She'll stand back and need my encouragement to go ahead or she'll wait until they clear out.
She's never been one to get upset over these things though - she's just hesitant and very cautious.
Oh - and when she was younger, she didn't like it when her hands got dirty. Or even her shoes. I remember having to take all the mud off the bottom of her shoes before she'd continue walking a couple summers ago when there was a lot of construction going on around here.
We had her in parent and tot gymnastics for awhile back and she wasn't the kid out there wanting to try everything. If it involved anything up high or the instructor assisting, she didn't want to do it more often than not.
I've got her signed up for soccer starting in May and I'm wondering how this will go. I'll be there to watch for sure but I won't be on the field obviously. I'm fully expecting it to take at least a few weeks to get her comfortable and that she'll be on the sidelines with me but I'm thinking a lot of the kids will be like this.
I've never done anything special. I figure this is just her personality - she's cautious, she's shy and she's an observer. And I've always figured that as she gets older and more confident, the hesitation may lessen. I've just always tried to expose her to as much as I can and give her opportunities.
When she's having fun and comfortable, I leave her be and give her some space. When she shows she needs reassurance, is uncomfortable and unsure, I encourage, support, offer reassurance, sometimes I'll do it first (eg. a bigger slide at the park) or do it with her to show her it's okay. If she says she doesn't want to try after some encouragement, I let it go. I don't push.
I figure that's all I can do.
ETA: Just read the post above mine. I also will talk beforehand with DD about what we'll be doing or where we're going or whose going to be there, for example, if it's something I know will make her uncomfortable.
speaking of cute pictures
A friend of mine passed this on to me! Cute stuff!! ...
A friend of mine passed this on to me! Cute stuff!!
"You don't have a Daddy"
I agree with both posters above. Those are the things I would talk about if it were me. ...
I agree with both posters above. Those are the things I would talk about if it were me.
What's up with this?
Thanks everyone. DD didn't do this and with how much he was walking, I figured he was on his way to getting rid of crawling...
DD didn't do this and with how much he was walking, I figured he was on his way to getting rid of crawling altogether. Ah well.
What's up with this?
It's strange. DS was also getting progressively better and actually a day or two before he stopped, we took a 5 minute video of him...
It's strange. DS was also getting progressively better and actually a day or two before he stopped, we took a 5 minute video of him walking everywhere.
He hasn't been sick or anything. He's been getting a couple teeth but they aren't bothering him. His mood is as it always is.
I was saying to my mom that I hope he didn't feel pressured. I don't believe he was but I'm just trying to figure it out, I guess.
What's up with this?
Thanks SM. Hmm.. nothing happened that would have scared him. ...
Thanks SM. Hmm.. nothing happened that would have scared him.
What's up with this?
DS started walking assisted a couple months ago and loved walking everywhere like this. Since then, he's progressively walked more and more on his own...
DS started walking assisted a couple months ago and loved walking everywhere like this. Since then, he's progressively walked more and more on his own and further distances. Over a week ago, he walked more than he ever has and I assumed this is where he was going to start walking full time. He was doing it constantly! And then right after that, he reverted back to crawling all the time and since then will almost never walk and if he does, it's only a couple steps. If it's any further, he gets down and crawls again.
And if he's standing at something and I say "walk to mommy!", he gets a big smile, sits down and crawls over.
What's up? Is this normal or common? Why would he go back to crawling after walking?
Milk blister - break it yourself?
Coley - check out kellymom.com. I believe you're supposed to leave it alone because breaking it could cause more problems. ...
Coley - check out kellymom.com. I believe you're supposed to leave it alone because breaking it could cause more problems.
NBR: Apple Juice Concentrate
What is this? And where can I find it? I need it to make N's carrot cake cupcakes. I'm using the wholesomebaby recipe and for...
What is this? And where can I find it?
I need it to make N's carrot cake cupcakes. I'm using the wholesomebaby recipe and for the life of me, I can't remember where we got this or what it looked like when we made them for DD's 1st birthday.
I remember DH and I debating about what it is and for some reason, I'm thinking we just used organic apple juice from concentrate but everything online is saying this isn't a substitute.
So I come to the wise women of CF!
Multivitamin help please!!
Honestly, IMO, he sounds like a good eater! He's still so young too! Personally, I wouldn't be worrying. ...
Honestly, IMO, he sounds like a good eater! He's still so young too! Personally, I wouldn't be worrying.
Multivitamin help please!!
You said above your son will eat things at daycare that he won't touch at home. Is this a regular thing? 'They' say to look...
You said above your son will eat things at daycare that he won't touch at home. Is this a regular thing?
'They' say to look at your child's food intake over the course of a week, not day to day or meal to meal.
Also, is he still drinking formula or BM? This can help to fill in any gaps.
Single income families - what do you miss the most
I don't really feel like we go without either. Well, at least DH doesn't. Haha We've been on one income since before DD was born...
I don't really feel like we go without either. Well, at least DH doesn't. Haha
We've been on one income since before DD was born (I got laid off a few days before I found out I was PG and wasn't able to find work before I was too far along).
Anyway, for us:
- we don't go on vacations. It's never really been a conscious choice, we're just not travelers, never have been. But we certainly couldn't avoid to do it now, especially not often.
- I'm home, so I don't need nice work clothes and such. I will say I definitely go without but I'm okay with it. I've always hated shopping so while we wouldn't be able to afford me shopping on a regular basis and/or buying high end items, I can't be bothered to shop anyway. Every year for Christmas and my birthday, when everyone is asking what I want/need, I tell them clothes so this is usually when I get a bunch of new things.
- Our mortgage was up for renewal last September so we got a much better rate and our payments went down. We were also able to transfer the car payment onto the mortgage. Our mortgage payments are still lower than they were and we're paying more off the principal and we don't have a car payment now.
- Because of the above, I've tried getting someone in to help me with the cleaning on a biweekly basis. Unfortunately, I've gone through 2 cleaners and neither have worked out very long. This was something I was okay spending the money on (although, I will admit I felt a bit of guilt since I am home full time), but I thought if I had someone in, this would give me a bit of down time.
- Whenever we buy things for the house (furniture, work on finishing the basement (new build)), we always make sure we have the cash first. And if we buy furniture and we don't have the cash for it up front, we do the "no pay for a year" type deals and always pay it off with our income tax return before the year is up.
- DH works for a great company and RRSP contributions come off each pay. He also has really good benefits.
- I meal plan as much as possible and buy only what we need. We don't buy snacky/junk food type items.
- Never paid for a babysitter. If we need someone, I get my mom or brother to help us out.
We have separate accounts but each pay, DH figures out how much money he is able to give me based on the bills he has to pay out of his account. The mortgage comes out of my account and I take care of the bills that come in the mail. And most of the grocery stuff comes out of what he gives me as well.
I really feel like I'm good with the money and I rarely ever buy anything extra. Once in a while I pick something up for the kids but it's usually only if they need it and it's never anything expensive but somehow I feel like we have no money most of the time. By the end of 2 weeks, I can't wait until he gets paid again!
We have never had any debt aside from the mortgage, however in the last year, somehow we've managed to rack up about $1700 on my MC and it's really stressing me out! I've never paid interest on a credit card this and it drives me nuts! Aside from the mortgage, this is the only debt we have though. And thankfully, we are getting a good income tax return again, so we'll be using some of it to pay off my credit card and hopefully we can get back to normal with the money. I can't even figure out where all the charges came from.. we splurged a bit last year after DS was born (took a night away to GWL and things like that) and it's all added up. Which is why we don't do things like that!
X-POST: Weaned from BFing now blocked duct?
Have a look at kellymom.com. This site will answer all your questions! ...
Have a look at kellymom.com. This site will answer all your questions!
Kids digital cameras?
DD just got a vtech one for her birthday. Not sure which Vtech one it is (if there is more than 1) but I've seen...
DD just got a vtech one for her birthday. Not sure which Vtech one it is (if there is more than 1) but I've seen them at Walmart.
I'm in heaven....kids shoes/boots.
Cute.. but oh, so expensive! I don't even spend that much on shoes or boots for myself! ...
Cute.. but oh, so expensive!
I don't even spend that much on shoes or boots for myself!
Nursing - how often?
oneplus - Nope, I'm a SAHM. Totally not concerned with how much he nurses. I just wondered what others did/do when the feedings don't really...
oneplus - Nope, I'm a SAHM. Totally not concerned with how much he nurses. I just wondered what others did/do when the feedings don't really work out timing wise with solid meals. Like our dinner situation. I nurse him before his nap, say 3pm, but dinner is at about 5:30. So 2.5 hours has passed. But 'they' suggest offering solids about an hour after nursing. So I usually nurse him again a bit when he wakes from his nap.
I'm not sure what happens when moms go to work, just from what I've read on here, since I've never been in that situation. But if you've gone back to work and are a bit uncomfortable, I'd probably try and pump a bit during the day. And I definitely would if I wanted my LO drinking the BM out of a cup during the day. Or just to relieve a bit of the discomfort at first and then after a week or two, your body will adjust and you can probably stop pumping. I've also heard about many LO's adjusting fine to nursing less during the week and then wanting to nurse more often on the weekends.
Vitamins for toddlers
I've never given the kids vitamin supplements. They both only get vitamin D drops. But I'm sure there's got to be a children's vitamin out...
I've never given the kids vitamin supplements. They both only get vitamin D drops.
But I'm sure there's got to be a children's vitamin out there that tastes okay without all the added junk and colouring.
You could always check your local food health store if you're looking for something like that.
Nursing - how often?
Thanks everyone. I'm certainly not worried about how much I nurse him. It was more about how the afternoon goes (after nap/dinner) because I nurse...
I'm certainly not worried about how much I nurse him. It was more about how the afternoon goes (after nap/dinner) because I nurse him before naps.
eldender - Good for you! You're doing the right thing - BM before solids. He's still so young! I think at that age, DS was only getting 1 meal a day and we do BLW, so he definitely wasn't (and sometimes still doesn't) consuming much. BM is so good for them and gives them everything they need. First year of solids is for fun! But I'm sure I don't need to tell you all that.
Nursing - how often?
Thanks for responding! It sounds like much of what I'm doing is similar to how things were for you - the meals and how often...
Thanks for responding!
It sounds like much of what I'm doing is similar to how things were for you - the meals and how often you're nursing. And like you, our outings are also timed between the two naps, making if difficult to fit lunch in.
I'm just wondering what other moms are doing for timing and spacing of nursing sessions and meals because of my afternoon dilemma.
Today is the same thing - I took DS up at 3 to nurse him and put him down for his nap. He'll be up about 4:30 and then we'll eat about 5:30. But then that's 2.5hrs from the time I nursed him until dinner.. so I usually nurse him again shortly after he wakes. Just wondering what others do!
Nursing - how often?
Just wondering how often your LO's are going between feedings at about 11-12 months of age? I nurse DS about every 3-4 hours - always...
Just wondering how often your LO's are going between feedings at about 11-12 months of age?
I nurse DS about every 3-4 hours - always before each of naps and before bedtime and then there is usually 1 or 2 other times in the day.
I'm only offering solids 2x/day at this point and he seems totally satisfied - not seemingly wanting to nurse any more nor does he 'complain' for more food.
He also nurses multiply times a night (co-sleeping).
At this age, he isn't really 'asking' anymore because it's more of a routine now, not so much nursing on demand, if that makes sense.
I also wondering what others do in situations like this:
Because of DS's routine, his 2nd nap of the day is often later so I'm nursing him just before I put him down. This is often around 3pm. But we eat dinner say about 5:30. So because they say to feed solids about an hour after nursing, I'll nurse him again around 4:30-5, so that he'll eat some solids but not be eating so much to take away from his BM intake.
What do you ladies do when the timing doesn't always work out?
I remember being confused about the logistics of it all with DD as well and feeling like I was always feeding her.. but it all worked out and she very gradually reduced her BM intake as her food intake went up so in the end it was all a none issue but I find I'm in the same spot again with DS.
And I have yet to introduce him to lunch because I nurse him before his morning nap (which isn't until about 10-10:30 because I have kids that like to sleep in) but as soon as he wakes up at noon, we're out of the house to do something in between naps. So then we're not back until it's about time for him to nurse/go down for his afternoon nap.
Sorry! That turned into a few more questions!
Anyway - how do you make it all work and fit in?
When to break the swaddle?
My DD was swaddled until she was almost 7 months. If it's working, stick with it. No reason to break her of it, especially at...
My DD was swaddled until she was almost 7 months. If it's working, stick with it. No reason to break her of it, especially at such a young age.
Gap Casting call
I saw this on FB but haven't read much about it. Is it to become a Gap Kid for shoots and stuff? I have a...
I saw this on FB but haven't read much about it. Is it to become a Gap Kid for shoots and stuff?
I have a friend right now that has her DD in a First Choice contest. Seems like there's a lot of these going around right now.
So cute! ...
Mommy (or Daddy) Preference
Then maybe you do these things for now (bath and bed time) and DH maybe takes on some other things that she won't mind or...
Then maybe you do these things for now (bath and bed time) and DH maybe takes on some other things that she won't mind or that are short and won't frustrate either of them too much?
It's tough but on your end it sounds like your DH is doing the right thing by staying involved. Unfortunately, I think that's all he can really do.
Mommy (or Daddy) Preference
Well, with my DD, she's always been all about mommy. For her, it started at 3 months of age with stranger anxiety and she's just...
Well, with my DD, she's always been all about mommy. For her, it started at 3 months of age with stranger anxiety and she's just always continued to be VERY attached to me. Only in the last few months, has she warmed up to others more (allowing them to help her once in a while, play with her etc.) but there is still a very big mommy preference. I SAH though so I have always been the main caregiver. DD has also always been a cautious, sensitive and shy little girl so I think her personality also plays into it. As well, DH has always worked long, unpredictable hours. I think he also really struggles with HOW to be involved with the kids. He's not the type to get down on the floor and play with them. I can probably count on one hand the number of times he's done it in DD's life. He just hardly ever does it and the times he has, he's on the floor for maybe 5-10 minutes and then off doing something of his own again. So for DD, she really requires that attention and interaction so I think her personality as well as DH's have played into a real struggle for a relationship between them. Now, she's almost 3.5, so hopefully you won't still be having these struggles then because I can tell you, it's been very difficult around here. DD has always wanted mommy to do everything. Now and then, she'll let DH help her now, but it's really hit or miss and when she doesn't want him to help, she gets very upset about him even trying. And then in turn, he gets frustrated and upset over it (and I've often taken the brunt of his frustrations). Unfortunately, in our situation, I see that DH just doesn't really take the initiative and is always just kind of sitting back doing his own thing or not at home and that just doesn't work for my DD.
Now with DS, he's a little more easier going personality wise - he's not as cautious or shy as DD but he also shows a preference for me. If I'm in the room and DH is holding him, he whines and reaches out for me. But he doesn't scream hysterically like DD always did. He's a little easier to distract. He's gone through phases where he's clingier with me and then okay. There have been times where he's gotten upset when taken out of a room away from me and someone else is doing something for him (change his diaper, bathe him) but that's only happened a couple of times. He more or less just whines for me and reaches out for me. And when this happens, whoever has him, just usually tries to distract him for a second and if he's still doing it, they just say, "here's mommy!"
Honestly, even after going through it with my DD for so long, I still have no idea what works. I think if your DH is involved and continues to try things here and there, she'll eventually come around. But as I'm sure you know, this isn't uncommon at all! You've spent the last 8 months doing everything for her all day long.
I'd probably suggest doing what others have suggested - doing some of these things together, involving DH, so she still sees and hears you there, but he's getting to be involved and help out. And if there are things he's going to do himself, maybe keep them short and sweet. That way, it's not too frustrating and upsetting for either of them.
With my DH, he also gets frustrated about DD and like I said, it's caused big problems but when her preference became noticeable at about the same age your DD is, he backed off and just stopped being involved at all and spent so much time doing his own thing. Since then, I've done everything for DD and suddenly when he realized how far apart they were and started trying to involve himself a few months ago, he's had to really struggle at times with her because of it. But even though he tries here and there now, it's still not consistent on his part.
Thankfully, DS is a bit more easy going right now with him, otherwise, we'd be going through the same thing all over again. Hopefully for DH's sake, DS doesn't become the same way because I see it happening all over again. The only difference is DS isn't as clingy as DD always was with me. I couldn't even walk out of a room that she was in without her or go to the washroom without her.
Anyway.. sorry that turned into a ramble. I just hope your DH doesn't let his frustrations get the best of him and back off because I've seen what that does. And hopefully he'll be okay with you suggesting that you're close by when he's doing things with her for now because I know my DH wouldn't like that suggestion from me - he's more of the "I'm her parent, so I should be able to do whatever and she should be okay with it" type.
April 2011 Mommies - Our Babies are Turning 1!
Leopard - Thanks for starting us up. I didn't bother as hardly anyone was posting anymore. I honestly can't believe we're at this point already!!...
Leopard - Thanks for starting us up. I didn't bother as hardly anyone was posting anymore.
I honestly can't believe we're at this point already!! This year has absolutely flown by. It's like I blinked and my baby boy is now a little boy. He's just so darn cute and irresistible. He melts me!
His birthday isn't until the 21st but this coming week, we'll be taking him to get his 1st haircut.
I'm sad about it and have really tried putting it off but he has 1 year photos next weekend, so we thought we'd get it cleaned up. It's so thick and long! And then we have his party on the 22nd. His party is pretty much all planned just got to start making stuff for it.
This weekend, we had DH's dad and step-mom down. They will be leaving tomorrow morning.
It's been a bit funny because DS is typically pretty laid back and easy going and still has been but now and then he acts really shy and even goes through a bit of stranger anxiety with tears but it's not really that often. Well, for the first 2 days, he's been hiding on me, burying his head, whining whenever I'm not close, reaching out for me constantly and "running" away. He's been taking steps forever but because he was being so shy, he kept walking towards me and I wasn't expecting it! Haha This afternoon he finally warmed up enough to allow them to play with him a bit without me right there.
Anyway - Hope you have a good first day back to work, Leopard. Hope the transition is a smooth one for you and your DD.
Oh - and sorry to hear she wasn't well yesterday. Is she better now?
BFing Mamas: Vitamin D supplement
I use D drops too and I've never worried about getting exactly 1 drop. I've never worried about my LO's getting too much. I actually...
I use D drops too and I've never worried about getting exactly 1 drop. I've never worried about my LO's getting too much. I actually have been giving DD about 1200 IU's a day for quite some time. And for DS, I just put a drop on my nipple before nursing him. It's just always been part of my night time routine with him. If he gets a little more, I'm okay with that, especially with all the findings on just how important it is.
But yeah, it's easy to just get 1 drop as it comes out 1 at a time and it doesn't drip fast at all.
As for brand, I just always avoid any that has additives to it. I would imagine the Dora brand would have unnecessary things added to it.
How to keep clothes from stains when baby eats
I always strip DS down to the diaper before I sit him down at the table. Especially if I know it's something that's going to...
I always strip DS down to the diaper before I sit him down at the table. Especially if I know it's something that's going to be a little messy. I always did the same thing with DD as well.
And like you said - there are the bibs with the sleeves (also a pocket in the front). Sometimes what I do if I've kept the pants on is I'll drape an old hand towel across the lap and tuck it in at the sides and then put the bib on too. But most often, I just strip him down.
Soap for toddlers?
My DD is almost 3.5 and I still use Live Clean Baby Wash on her. I've never thought about changing and have no intentions to....
My DD is almost 3.5 and I still use Live Clean Baby Wash on her. I've never thought about changing and have no intentions to. I love the stuff and it's so gentle.
Thyroid Issues Post-Partum? Waaahhh
Me! I've had an overactive thyroid after having both children. And prior to getting pregnant with DD, I never had thyroid issues. The first time...
Me! I've had an overactive thyroid after having both children. And prior to getting pregnant with DD, I never had thyroid issues.
The first time around, I didn't even know anything like this could happen. I was losing a ton of weight but being a first time mom, I just chalked it up to losing my pregnancy weight and nursing. I remember every time I weighed myself at my parents house, being so happy because the weight was dropping so quickly and easily. But once I got REALLY low (had lost 30 lbs pregnancy weight and had lost another 25 lbs on top of that), I knew something wasn't right. This was all within the first 8 months of her life.
I went and had the bloodwork done and sure enough, it showed my thyroid was overactive. They had me also go for an u/s on my thyroid gland and because it was postpartum thyroditis, my doctor just monitored me with regular bloodwork (every 6 weeks) to see how my TSH levels were doing. By about a year PP, they had returned to the normal range. No medication was necessary.
Because it happened with DD, the odds of it happening again were greater. And sure enough it did. But we knew it was more likely this time around, so my doctor had my levels checked much quicker PP this time around. This time around, she also sent me to an Endocrinologist. Same stuff this time around too - just have been monitoring my levels on a regular basis and no medication.
The endocrinologist told me the medication is only really good if you're experiencing shakes and heart palpitations and I haven't had either of those.
I didn't notice any symptoms the first time around but then again, I had no idea there was anything wrong. This time around, I noticed my anxiety/irritability was insanely bad. I noticed those symptoms greatly improved shortly before meeting with the specialist so I had a feeling my levels had improved and sure enough, they have. It's been a few months since I've met with him but I have been continuing to get my bloodwork done so I'm not sure if it's back in normal range again yet. I'll meet with the specialist in June and we'll discuss that.
I've just been told it's something I'll most likely deal with every time I have a baby. In most cases, I guess it corrects itself. And also, I had no idea but you need to make sure your TSH levels are normal again before getting PG.
For me, I've just found that I have a real heat intolerance now. And like I said, the anxiety and irritability was crazy this time around. Oh - and I was constantly hungry both times around.. like always starving.
Y&R Spoilers - Week of April 2nd
The Yolanda (Harmony) character drives me nuts. What a horrible actress! I'm just interested in seeing how the Beauty of Nature thing works out. Everyone...
The Yolanda (Harmony) character drives me nuts. What a horrible actress!
I'm just interested in seeing how the Beauty of Nature thing works out. Everyone is scheming to get what they want.