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Re: should i let this friendship slide?
thanks all for the wonderful advice! great insight and i was super gung ho and feeling good about scheduling another lunch until below.. @Irie right...
thanks all for the wonderful advice! great insight and i was super gung ho and feeling good about scheduling another lunch until below..
@Irie right now, it's in the "what do we talk about" awkwardness phase so im not going to the 1:1 meet up
update:
i emailed for a kid-free get together lunch on sept 6. open date, end of the month. any date that will work for everyone. SB didnt reply even now (she works in front of a computer), other friend who has a kid is going away and made no hints in a future attempt(s) for another date when she gets back, our other friend is open when everyone is available.
so im saying WTF to myself right now. and basically, i will wait for someone else to schedule something if they want to meet up. i dont want to run around after people who can't put any effort in
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Trying for a Boy....
my chinese gender predictor said i was going to have a girl, we had a boy. dont trust that thing!...
my chinese gender predictor said i was going to have a girl, we had a boy. dont trust that thing!
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should i let this friendship slide?
i've got a group of friends, 4 women, all of us went to post secondary together (grad 2004) and some of us even worked together...
i've got a group of friends, 4 women, all of us went to post secondary together (grad 2004) and some of us even worked together afterwards. friends, not BEST friends, but a group you would organize a christmas get together with annually.
3 of us got pregnant within 4 months of each other in early 2011. 2 gave birth to healthy children, 1 had a stillborn (SB) at her 38th week.
As of 2012, we had one get together in January (briefing on what happened with SB, and after that the strength of our group just sort of chipped away). My friend who had the SB makes up reasons to not come to lunches (twice so far this year) and when she once remembered my birthday, not a single greeting came my way. in fact at a bday party invite, i got a text back saying, "i'm rather busy lately. Enjoy!" === which i feel a bit ticked off about.
not sure what to do about Christmas as i'm not feeling the efforts of anyone in the group at all anymore. i was rearranging get togethers before nearly every 2nd month before the SB happened, but now no one really txts/emails/keeps in active contact but me.
i dont really want to pursue one sided relationships or feel like im bothering people with meeting up.
should i just let things slide?
keep an active effort to maintain the relationship?
probably seeing our kids is a pain factor to our friend, but id like to stay friends too.
any advice?
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Early riser.. what worked for you?
i do what the pp does, if my DS wakes up before 7am, i bring him into bed with me. this often works, not all...
i do what the pp does, if my DS wakes up before 7am, i bring him into bed with me. this often works, not all the time. but i am consistent with the get up time which is 715am so i want his clock to absorb this! haha
maybe change his bedtime to a later time like 8pm?
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has anyone tried the BOBA Air?
Per title.. has anyone tried the Boba Air? it's new (july 2012) and NO WHERE is it stocked in Vancouver for me/us to play with....
Per title..
has anyone tried the Boba Air?
it's new (july 2012) and NO WHERE is it stocked in Vancouver for me/us to play with. Furthermore, there aren't many reviews on it (ie. on Amazon).
Sounds like a genius idea as my ergo takes up half my undercarriage (if i even decide to bring it). But, not sure if the lack of padding will be uncomfortable for the thigh part of my 7.5month old baby.
http://www.babyguygearguide.com/coming-in-the-air-tonight
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Natural Teething Remedies
ive heard a lot of positive feedback on amber beads. ...
ive heard a lot of positive feedback on amber beads.
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Constipation? How to get the poop out?
i had this problem too and the midwife says it's normal for EBF babies to not have a poop daily as breastmilk is so readily...
i had this problem too and the midwife says it's normal for EBF babies to not have a poop daily as breastmilk is so readily absorbed. more than 2-3 days is a bit of an issue. so i asked WB what to do and the ladies said to up baby's feeds, lo and behold he had a massive poop the next day.
poop is supposed to be runny until solids are started.
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Drowsy but Awake
once he gets in the bassinette he startles and sh/pat sadly does not work at all. he's thrashing/grunting/squealing but not crying and generally SO NOISY....
once he gets in the bassinette he startles and sh/pat sadly does not work at all.
he's thrashing/grunting/squealing but not crying and generally SO NOISY. sometimes it leads to him settling himself (after ignoring), sometimes it leads to crying which then i would pick him up.
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Drowsy but Awake
hi all i think most websites and books recommend putting the baby down "drowsy but awake." i think the statement is pretty clear even though...
hi all
i think most websites and books recommend putting the baby down "drowsy but awake." i think the statement is pretty clear even though i had to google the meaning of it umpting times! lol
so if my baby is showing the signs of drowsy but awake (eyes closed but not deep sleep, loud but regular breathing rhythm, some limp limb) and then i put him down in his bed he startles again...am i supposed to lift him back up and redo the whole soothing process (which could take over 30 minutes) over again or let him thrash/squeak/grunt and soothe himself back to sleep?
pick him up only if his noises transcend into cries?
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Before bed feeds - need advice
we go to bed sometime between 9:45 and 10:30pm usually start winding down around 9:30 with a wipe down, diaper change, get into pajamas, and...
we go to bed sometime between 9:45 and 10:30pm
usually start winding down around 9:30 with a wipe down, diaper change, get into pajamas, and then a feed. most times, he passes out and then i take the opportunity to also go to bed STAT to maximize my sleep.
he wakes up every 2-4 hours over night (me, more often as he's SUCH a loud restless sleeper) and i feed him.
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EBF baby constipated? oh and weird belly button
hello all trying to kill 2 birds with one stone in this post! lol baby is EBF and hasnt really had an adequate bowel movement...
hello all
trying to kill 2 birds with one stone in this post! lol
baby is EBF and hasnt really had an adequate bowel movement in what is day 2 (today) ...should i be worried?
he usually has at least one large one in the morning, but currently they've just been small/scant/smear like- maybe 2-3 or so in the day. Lots of urine soaked diapers...no colic like symptoms...farts every now and then...generally content...feeding well.
hmmm...
and part 2:
whenever baby is upset his belly button looks like it sticks out more so ...kind of hernia like. are most babies born with some level of umbilical hernia that'll go away once their abdominal muscles get stronger? i think he has an "outie" and i definitely can push it in!
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Tell me about your swing..
which swings have an AC adapter? seems like most are battery operated...why that is is beyond me. ...
which swings have an AC adapter?
seems like most are battery operated...why that is is beyond me.
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Newborn Restless LOUD Night Sleeper
what every day household thing creates white noise that i can leave on (and preferably don't have to buy)? ...
what every day household thing creates white noise that i can leave on (and preferably don't have to buy)?
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Newborn Restless LOUD Night Sleeper
hello just looking for some support and hopefully this is "normal" and that im not alone! Baby is SUCH a restless sleeper at night from...
hello
just looking for some support and hopefully this is "normal" and that im not alone!
Baby is SUCH a restless sleeper at night from about 4am and onwards (wakes up officially around 8:30am). he's grunting, snorting, stretching, thrashing, squeaking, making all sorts of sounds...then relaxes for a couple of minutes or so...then does all of this again and again and again.
it is SO LOUD and his bassinet is right beside our bed. it's hard to not be woken up by it or ignore it and go on with our sleeps.
he's not crying or looks like he's uncomfortable.
is this normal? is this just a stage?
DH and i are starting to sleep in separate rooms just so one of us can sleep and function in the day!
and speaking of day, when he is sleeping during the day..it's so peaceful and quiet. i dont get it
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how much to pump and bottle feed?
baby is 3 weeks old tomorrow ...
baby is 3 weeks old tomorrow
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how much to pump and bottle feed?
hi all just on the cusp of introducing a bottle to my baby. just wondering how much should i be pumping or how much are...
hi all
just on the cusp of introducing a bottle to my baby. just wondering how much should i be pumping or how much are babies supposed to eat?
i dont want to overpump and make the same mistake of emptying my breasts only to wake up sore and engorged.
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Pacifiers
hi all just wondering WHY you introduced the pacifier to your little one and WHEN do you use the pacifier? has anyone had issues with...
hi all
just wondering WHY you introduced the pacifier to your little one and
WHEN do you use the pacifier?
has anyone had issues with nipple confusion?
my babe will be 3 weeks tomorrow!
im on the fence about it as im not sure whether my reasons are right in doing so.
reason 1) try to establish a nap/sleep time. pop it in..soothe himself to sleep
2) baby is in the PURPLE stage of crying in the evening and he just cannot be consoled...havent tried the pacifier yet though.
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Re: Eyeliner suggestions please
i like MAC's Smolder for asian eyes with oily lids, it's really hard to find an eyeliner that wont end up smudging all over your...
i like MAC's Smolder
for asian eyes with oily lids, it's really hard to find an eyeliner that wont end up smudging all over your lid at the end of the day.
two thumbs up for MAC's Smolder!
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Re: Inception - Did you really understand it?
on a superficial level, as a viewer who followed the hype...i got the gist of it, but never really read deeper into it. but even...
on a superficial level, as a viewer who followed the hype...i got the gist of it, but never really read deeper into it.
but even just staying at the "gist" level, it was a good movie.
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Re: Wedding photos on your walls at home?
i had zero, then i read this post and got 1 photo printed out (8x10) and bought a frame! LOL! we've been married 3 years...
i had zero, then i read this post and got 1 photo printed out (8x10) and bought a frame! LOL!
we've been married 3 years and i havent even printed out any photos yet for my personal album (i got an album from the photographers but i dont think it captures everything i want)
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Re: I'm planning on getting a DSLR on boxing day..
if you dont really NEED to have the video component the canon rebel xs (entry level dslr with an 18-55mm lense) is on sale at...
if you dont really NEED to have the video component
the canon rebel xs (entry level dslr with an 18-55mm lense) is on sale at staples.ca for $350 right now!
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Re: NWR: Newborn baby photos in Greater Vancouver
thanks all! ...
thanks all!
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newborn baby photos
i think i posted in the wrong part of the forum! haha thank you for responding! ...
i think i posted in the wrong part of the forum! haha
thank you for responding!
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newborn baby photos
hi all just wondering if many of you got professional newborn baby photos done? im just weighing out the cost (about $350) and long term...
hi all
just wondering if many of you got professional newborn baby photos done?
im just weighing out the cost (about $350) and long term "regrets" if i dont just to capture that stage in baby's lives.
Of course, i can take my own pictures...but i love that anne geddes look that i have absolutely NO eye for haha.
maybe i should spend the money and get my own SLR camera and take my own photos and take similar shots as pro photographers?
i get about 40 files/pics in the package...and wondering if I need to pay for 40...i mean i just post a couple or so around the house right as they're ever growing!
hmmmm
if you have any insight on what i should be thinking about or consider, feel free to pass it along!
thank you
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newborn baby photos
hi all just wondering if many of you got professional newborn baby photos done? im just weighing out the cost (about $350) and long term...
hi all
just wondering if many of you got professional newborn baby photos done?
im just weighing out the cost (about $350) and long term "regrets" if i dont just to capture that stage in baby's lives.
Of course, i can take my own pictures...but i love that anne geddes look that i have absolutely NO eye for haha.
maybe i should spend the money and get my own SLR camera and take my own photos and take similar shots as pro photographers?
i get about 40 files/pics in the package...and wondering if I need to pay for 40...i mean i just post a couple or so around the house right as they're ever growing!
hmmmm
if you have any insight on what i should be thinking about or consider, feel free to pass it along!
thank you
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NWR: Newborn baby photos in Greater Vancouver
hi all does anyone recommend their/a newborn baby photographer? preferably someone in Vancouver. thanks ...
hi all
does anyone recommend their/a newborn baby photographer? preferably someone in Vancouver.
thanks
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Re: Help me choose an e-reader: Kindle or Kobo?
thanks OP for asking this question as I just purged my shelf of real books! The first gen KOBO was just recently on the walmart...
thanks OP for asking this question as I just purged my shelf of real books!
The first gen KOBO was just recently on the walmart flyer (im in Vancouver) and is being sold for $88.
im the type who likes to keep things super simple...Kobo for me!
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Re: Stretch Mark Help!
im using sweet almond oil and I slap it on right after my shower to lock in the moisture. i had stretch marks before..and now...
im using sweet almond oil and I slap it on right after my shower to lock in the moisture.
i had stretch marks before..and now they're not red. im possibly getting some new ones, but more like pin point redness not long angry lines.
also, im drinking lots of water and keeping the weight gain slow and appropriate for the pregnancy.
if i feel any itchiness, it's moisturizing time with whatever lotions are available
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Re: XPost - Hunger Games Preview
im also excited for this! i pictured Katniss though as someone that kind of was more Winona Ryder, boyish, gaunt, small etc. Peeta...meh Gale...meh lets...
im also excited for this!
i pictured Katniss though as someone that kind of was more Winona Ryder, boyish, gaunt, small etc.
Peeta...meh
Gale...meh
lets just say they're no Edward Cullen haha
Exciting! March 2012
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DSLR Camera's and Photographers!
hi all im thinking of purchasing a DSLR. i'm a super newbie and possibly/probably..ok most likely one that won't read a 50 page owners manual....
hi all
im thinking of purchasing a DSLR. i'm a super newbie and possibly/probably..ok most likely one that won't read a 50 page owners manual.
Just wondering is it necessary/worth it to purchase say a Canon 40D which is expensive, or because i'm a newbie, stick with the T1/T2/T3, rebel, XS etc line?
does the camera REALLY matter or you can have any of these cameras but the lenses really are what counts (hardware talk only not personally photography skills/eye).
What post processing program do you use? or recommend...that's free?
thank you thank you
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Re: Show me your winter boots!
vancouver doesn't really get THAT cold, but still need boots for those slushy, wet, black ice type of days. i have the Frye Archie's hiker...
vancouver doesn't really get THAT cold, but still need boots for those slushy, wet, black ice type of days.
i have the Frye Archie's hiker boot. love the soles and the no-breaking in needed aspect! i don't really think these should be called "hikers" as they are so versatile!
http://www.amazon.com/FRYE-Womens-Archie-Hiker-Ankle/dp/B004C04YVA
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Re: Hangover Cures
at the hospital, we've given liquid multivitamins in orange juice...works like a charm. covers the vitamin deficiency, the sugar, the dehydration. ...
at the hospital, we've given liquid multivitamins in orange juice...works like a charm.
covers the vitamin deficiency, the sugar, the dehydration.
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Re: Carrot Cake
you must try the carrot cake from Whole Foods! The best and may change your mind! best of all, no lousy raisins! ...
you must try the carrot cake from Whole Foods!
The best and may change your mind!
best of all, no lousy raisins!
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Linens! What to look for?
hi all just about to set up the crib and the whole change pad cover situation aka pre-nesting. just wondering if there's something special i...
hi all
just about to set up the crib and the whole change pad cover situation aka pre-nesting.
just wondering if there's something special i should look for when buying crib fitted sheets and change pad covers?
Is cotton flannel a bad thing?
Should i pick out linen based on price? I dont see thread counts anywhere.
from what i've seen ...Kushies are cheapest, then there are some in the $15-$20 range ...then of course $20+.
does it affect the baby in any way depending on what material?
Is flannel not recommended?
thanks!
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Cheapest place to buy Sophie
at tjskids it's $20. we live in Vancouver ...
at tjskids it's $20.
we live in Vancouver
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Laundry Detergent
hi all what laundry detergent do you/have you been using to wash your baby stuff? I have a whole bunch of stuff from new to...
hi all
what laundry detergent do you/have you been using to wash your baby stuff?
I have a whole bunch of stuff from new to craigslist items I want to wash prior to baby coming, and use for the baby.
do you use a separate stain remover ie. oxi-clean for the poop stains?
It would really help if it is available in Canada!
thanks
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Re: Accents.....do they make guys more attractive?
there's this med student at work that was born in BC, grew up in BC, but his parents came from england and had english accents....
there's this med student at work that was born in BC, grew up in BC, but his parents came from england and had english accents.
This med student also has an english accent. a strong english accent.
how is this possible? i didnt know how to ask without laughing.
i wonder if it was just to get the ladies. lol
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Mixed Babies
hi all for anyone with mixed/interracial babies...what hair color/eye color/skin color combinations did your children end up with? i'm asian (black hair brown eyes), DH...
hi all
for anyone with mixed/interracial babies...what hair color/eye color/skin color combinations did your children end up with?
i'm asian (black hair brown eyes), DH is caucasian (brown hair blue eyes) ...I wonder what this little one will end up with? i've seen some mixed kids with green/hazel eyes ...so the probability of brown is high, but not definite!
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Recommend your fave 'making baby food' books.
most of my friends are also recommending the baby's table! to store the food, did you use ice cube trays or did you buy those...
most of my friends are also recommending the baby's table!
to store the food, did you use ice cube trays or did you buy those baby cubes with the flip lids?
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Re: Another pot luck question
i always bring samosas. but it would be better if you had an oven to reheat and re-crisp unless you buy fresh near the time...
i always bring samosas.
but it would be better if you had an oven to reheat and re-crisp unless you buy fresh near the time of the party and people can just eat right away
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Re: Age when you & DH/FH started dating?
met my DH when I was 17 and he was 37 (single, never married, and I pursued Him). Dated when I was 18, he 38....
met my DH when I was 17 and he was 37 (single, never married, and I pursued Him).
Dated when I was 18, he 38.
Married when I was 25, he 45.
First born child when i'll be 29, and he 49.
WOW!
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Re: Calling all nurses
I went to nursing school when i was 18 and got my BSN when I was 21. I'm 28 now, been working in acute care/medical...
I went to nursing school when i was 18 and got my BSN when I was 21. I'm 28 now, been working in acute care/medical ward since I graduated, but doing a stint as clinical nurse educator (kushy job btw), and enjoy what I do in all levels.
i'd like to warn you though that nursing is NOT EASY! I find it very glamorized on tv and hence why i don't watch any hospital shows. Nurses work their arses off and it's really shameful that the common public doesn't know and perhaps even appreciate what a nurse does/their scope of practice unless they've had personal experience in the hospital ie. family hospitalized.
again, i really enjoy what I do and totally recommend everyone to go into nursing! I say go for your RN not your LPN- you will have more opportunities and jobs once you graduate. I don't know where you live but here in BC, the BCNU is a powerful union whereas the LPN's belong to HEU (same union as other non-nursing employees)- and from what i have heard, isn't the strongest advocate for the LPN's!
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Re: Downtown Vancouver Restaurant Recs
I agree with Chambar! also with Vij's, but that's not exactly downtown. if you want a nice ambiance with live music, I suggest Joe Fortes....
I agree with Chambar!
also with Vij's, but that's not exactly downtown.
if you want a nice ambiance with live music, I suggest
Joe Fortes.
If you want expensive, then Gothams or Bacchus.
good luck!
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Re: Which Broadway Show to see in NYC?
i really enjoyed Lion King! ...
i really enjoyed Lion King!
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Re: When you go to Subway....
i also always order the same thing every time! 6" veggie delite on brown with all the vegetables. yes to cheese. no to toasted. 1...
i also always order the same thing every time!
6" veggie delite on brown with all the vegetables. yes to cheese. no to toasted. 1 THIN line of light mayo, sweet onion sauce, and bbq sauce.
so good!
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Kinda SPIN: expectations of first time moms
i wouldn't mind my future child to be a rhodes scholar lol..so, nothing specific but it'll be well rounded. music, sports, academics, and character. ...
i wouldn't mind my future child to be a rhodes scholar lol..so, nothing specific but it'll be well rounded.
music, sports, academics, and character.
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Re: Time for another round of "phrases you hate"!
i really hate "CHEERS" when people mean "goodbye" or "thank you" or whatever else. Cheers what?!?! I cringe when I hear it. In fact, I...
i really hate "CHEERS"
when people mean "goodbye" or "thank you" or whatever else.
Cheers what?!?!
I cringe when I hear it. In fact, I want to type a whole lot of expletives as I write this and think about it! (but I won't). I really want to scratch my eyes out! lol
...CHEERS
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Re: Leather Bags
I love ROOTS bags! I just bought the "Small School" bag in Tribe leather (think from the movie Letters to Juliet) and I love the...
I love ROOTS bags!
I just bought the "Small School" bag in Tribe leather (think from the movie Letters to Juliet) and I love the bag but the strap was WAY TOO LONG.
<img src="http://blog.roots.com/.a/6a00e553c41c918834013487f6a3ac970c-800wi">
I have the "Village Satchel" also in Tribe which has a perfect strap length for 5'5" person.
<img src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ZtMff2HjKvg/TbN9uY2nL8I/AAAAAAAAACs/J2OvvmsnCdE/s320/18010914_2400_a_340x340.jpg">
So i switched the straps on the bags as they're both Roots Tribe.
I am selling my Village Satchel if you are interested!
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Re: Sunscreen for allergic/sensitive skin?
im allergic to sunscreen...more specifically the PABA component of the cheaper sunscreens. La Roche Posay, Cetaphil facial sunscreen/moisturizer, and Ombrelle are the only ones I...
im allergic to sunscreen...more specifically the PABA component of the cheaper sunscreens. La Roche Posay, Cetaphil facial sunscreen/moisturizer, and Ombrelle are the only ones I don't react to.
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Re: LML Ladies - Anyone done the Grouse Grind??
ive done it, take $10 to pay for the gondola back down. make sure you check the website first to see if it's open before...
ive done it, take $10 to pay for the gondola back down. make sure you check the website first to see if it's open before you go.
as for the grind itself, i'm not a super fit person but my first time with no idea of what it was like..it took me 2h 10mins, the 2nd time, when I actually had a plan of action, it took me 1h 15mins. my advice is don't wear a back pack, bring water or gatorade, when you rest, DON'T SIT DOWN! give yourself like 30-60 seconds and count yourself out of that rest period and just continue on. don't compare yourself with others "beating you," and finally the hardest part is the first 1/4, the rest is manageable!
you will sweat buckets, so don't wear sweats, don't wear a sweater, but wear dry fit type of clothing. however, it's cold up Grouse and if you have a dry fit long sleeved shirt that would help with the recovery period.
Finally, you wont have leg pain the next day, but you will if you went downhill (which you're not allowed to do anyways). I forgot the rationale why, but it's easily googled.
Hope that helps!
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